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To find this infuriating.

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Burtiebojangles · 12/09/2019 03:31

New family just moved in to a rented house technically down the side of our house. They have 4 cars, one parking space. The street has space for 5 cars in total, so they deem this a suitable place to park - right across our drive.

Having asked them to move it, I got told they have nowhere to park and he doesn’t want his daughter walking too far to get to her car. Aibu to think we shouldn’t be inconvenienced because these people didn’t think ahead when deciding to rent this house, and what the hell can you do in these circumstances?

To find this infuriating.
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Burtiebojangles · 24/10/2019 16:21

The kids just come back and he’s already chatting shit to the neighbours. I need to leave the house but it just scares the shit out of me now.

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lonelyonee · 24/10/2019 20:00

You okay @Burtiebojangles ? Did you manage to get out the house?

mytinyfiredancers · 24/10/2019 20:31

OP can you fit some CCTV? It doesn't have to cost a fortune, but it might act as a deterrent, fort. They sound awful.

I hope your son is doing well.

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Burtiebojangles · 24/10/2019 20:39

@lonelyonee I’m okay, thank you. I bolted and went and met my mum. She came back with me and he had gone.

I’ve just had a call from one of the police men who came today, he tracked down the dad and had a word with him, he’s claiming he had no idea what was going on with the kids and wife (bollocks), but the kids are his step kids and practically has no control over them. He’s had it laid out to him about our circumstances and that we don’t need the hassle from them, he needs to have consideration and learn to live with other amicably. He got told that it was his choice to live somewhere that doesn’t have adequate parking for their cars and we need access on and off our drive so he needs to figure it out. The guy was really apologetic apparently and said he’d have a word with the kids.

The police man said he’ll call down every so often on his patrols and make sure everything is okay and that if anything happens again to ignore them and log it with the police, not to even engage with them because they’ve clearly been trying to get us to react so they could play the victim. If it works it’ll be a fucking miracle but they’ve not parked there tonight 🤞🏼

I asked if he was a police man, he was very coy and said ‘well... he works for xxxx (our police force) police, somewhere in xxxx (nowhere special)’ so that says to me he’s employed by them but definitely not in that capacity. The headquarters, call centres and majority of the force are based in our nearby city since the majority of local stations were closed down, they’re definitely not in the arse end of this dodgy town. Guess he got found out 🤷‍♀️

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RandomMess · 24/10/2019 20:48

That is progress, I hope they leave you and your driveway alone from now!

Rojelio · 24/10/2019 21:05

Fingers crossed op, hopefully things calm down for you now 🤞

custardbear · 24/10/2019 21:44

@Burtiebojangles - brilliant - what a fab policeman! I really hope that's it now - what a plonker though, pretending to be in CID 😆🥴 what a twatty thing to do!!

lonelyonee · 25/10/2019 15:12

Aww good, glad to hear they've had a word with the husband.
Yeah I think it was obvious he is not a police officer and they will not have taken too kindly to that!!
Hopefully now that's it, and you can live in peace 🤞🏻

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Burtiebojangles · 25/10/2019 16:08

Seems like a double win today, I had a phone call from a manager on anti social team at the council, she’s taking it on and said she’s going to do her own investigations without involving the police because she seems concerned about his CID threats. She’s asked for a timeline of everything that’s happened and any photographic evidence I’ve got. She wasn’t put off when I said the police had spoken to him just told me to see what happens over the weekend, and she’ll call me back in the middle of next week to make sure I’m okay and nothing else has happened but in the meantime she’s sending out some information to all her contact details and when she’s got more information I think she said she’d come out to see us and go through it.

I feel loads better about that because despite the relief I had last night I think I’ve overthought myself into an anxious mess about the fact the dad has said he had no idea it was going on when he’s been a part of it, said he has no control over the kids because he’s step dad but he’ll ‘have a word’ and used the excuse you know what young lads are like, it feels like a bit of a yes officer, of course officer. But I wouldn’t ever make an excuse for my son harassing a woman who’s home alone with a baby then assaulting someone on their doorstep, laughing it off saying boys will be boys. Cunts will be cunts more like. So I just feel like this is a bit of back up, especially as they’ve been chatting shit to the neighbours too who are already letting their dog shit on the drive.

I think this is the end of us and this house though, once I’m back at work and we’ve got enough money coming in again we’re going to look at moving. Luckily in my wistful looking at dream houses yesterday I spotted a new build development closer to my family that’s coming up so I’ve got something to focus on 😉.

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rhubarb39 · 25/10/2019 16:21

I sympathise. My neighbours don't only use my second parking space but they actually used to just park on my drive until I lost it.. Now they still park in my 2nd space so when friends come round we have great pleasure in blocking them in and ruining their evening as don't answer the door.
No help sorry as I've lost the will!

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Burtiebojangles · 25/10/2019 16:49

@rhubarb39 Jesus, people are absolute knobs aren’t they? I love that you get one over on them! Haha.

If I win the euromillions tonight I’m buying a house in the arse end of nowhere with no neighbours for miles. I’d probably still end up with someone blocking my driveway though 😂

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rhubarb39 · 25/10/2019 17:35

Yes they are! They made such a point of doing a 20 point turn the other night to be able to squeeze out a certain way, my friend was having a fit they were going to hit her car, not good.
Haha me too!

timeisnotaline · 25/10/2019 21:23

You’re very nice. If I won thw euromillions tonight and were you I’d hire a succession of strangers to park across their drive / buy old bangers and have a stranger abandon it there.

lonelyonee · 25/10/2019 22:47

@timeisnotaline 😂😂😂 cracked me up that did!

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Burtiebojangles · 26/10/2019 13:32

Me officer? No officer, I wasn’t aware any of this was going on. I will have a word with my naughty step son.

A day later...

They’ve been slamming car doors all morning waking the baby up. I closed the blinds in the living room because they’re in their garage that they can see straight into our living room from. The minute I did that, he moved the car there. He’s blocked in another neighbour by doing it even though the street is empty, so we’re not blocked in but they’re still causing a nuisance. Gave us evidence it’s continued though, the ASBO woman won’t take kindly to that.

To find this infuriating.
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HamWater · 26/10/2019 16:07

This is an own goal for them. Not only do you have more evidence for the council, but the noise and bad parking is going to start pissing off the other neighbours.

lonelyonee · 26/10/2019 18:06

Oh dear dear. They really are stupid aren't they.
I would honestly love to know what their problem actually is, but with these things I find you'll never really know.
Carry on with everything you've been doing. They are most definitely in the wrong and they surely must know how stupid they look being so petty.

Blurby · 27/10/2019 22:23

How's it going OP?

MaButterface · 27/10/2019 23:54

Wow what a family of low class knobheads. Have CCTV so all is recorded.

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Burtiebojangles · 28/10/2019 06:50

We finally have the drive finished, they did a few slow drive bus when were were out doing it yesterday, didn’t give them the satisfaction of acknowledging their existence.

We’ve had nothing overnight but the daughter has just come back and tried to get it on the corner but she either struggled to reverse around our bin (it’s out for collection at the top of our drive) or saw that it’s not ‘mud’ any more so doesn’t want to park there (doubt it) so she put it in a space on the street instead, literally 5 steps away. She had to slam the doors as loud as possible though. 😂

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Raindancer411 · 28/10/2019 07:52

Oh I bet listening to her slam the door was satisfying 😂

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 28/10/2019 07:59

Ooohh!! Can we have another picture?!! Can't believe people can be so nasty and petty over parking! Hope you're feeling better

custardbear · 28/10/2019 08:54

Pix of new drive pleAse 😎🥳

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Burtiebojangles · 28/10/2019 09:25

We need a bit more gravel and to tidy it up but this is the drive now. I’ve learned my lesson with townhouses, lots of inside space but the outside width really screws you over.

But in their eyes the whole gravel bit they could park across. The dry bit is where we park, liiiitle bit of an overlap there 😂. You can see the edge of next doors car where they park when they have to block their drive so you can imagine the problem when the idiots park where they feel entitled to. Our car is actually slightly wider than that drive entrance, something we weren’t aware of until we got rid of our smaller car, I’d love to meet the people who designed this estate, they must’ve been drunk.

To find this infuriating.
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DdraigGoch · 28/10/2019 11:33

Have you £300k lying around for a new car? This is just the one you need.

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