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To find this infuriating.

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Burtiebojangles · 12/09/2019 03:31

New family just moved in to a rented house technically down the side of our house. They have 4 cars, one parking space. The street has space for 5 cars in total, so they deem this a suitable place to park - right across our drive.

Having asked them to move it, I got told they have nowhere to park and he doesn’t want his daughter walking too far to get to her car. Aibu to think we shouldn’t be inconvenienced because these people didn’t think ahead when deciding to rent this house, and what the hell can you do in these circumstances?

To find this infuriating.
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JollyHolly30 · 23/10/2019 00:13

Thanks for the photo and well done to your husband. Small wins like this make a difference to how you feel when you're dealing with such an infuriating situation.

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 00:13

I’ve often thought about buying a banger and just driving it into the side of their cars. Or maybe just even parking it on their drive when they’re out. I don’t drive though so I fall at that hurdle.

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custardbear · 23/10/2019 07:25

Wow - that's ridiculous situation - how far would it be for them to talk if they parked it in say the next street?

I hope this morning caused her grief!

SaddleGhost · 23/10/2019 07:53

Just RTFT. This is outrageous! The worst CFs I've ever seen! I wish I had advice for you but I wouldn't even know where to begin dealing with this. I hope it's resolved soon and that your little boy is doing wellSmile

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 08:06

She could park in the library car park that is free and it’d be a couple of minutes walk. There’s a road behind our estate that is empty and there’s a footpath connecting both, it would be a minutes walk to park there. Or she could just block their other cars in, there’s absolutely no reason for her to park there.

She managed to get in and go this morning, slightly disappointing. I was ready for a 7am song dong after the stress of it all kept me up all night.

It just pisses me off that they think they can tell us and the police that they can park blocking our drive. Even the police man acknowledged its a corner and a dropped curb but just kept saying it’s a council thing and there’s nothing he can do. How manipulative are these people?! I’ve had a lot of hours thinking it over, I just end up so wound up.

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custardbear · 23/10/2019 08:19

Argh! Saying that if the dad is so precious about his kid then let her park on his driveway and he can do the walk - being a rough tough policeman and all that! 🤨

Though about putting a tack or two under the tyres 🤔😯 or parking your car in front of their driveway perhaps?

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 09:39

To be fair, I’d make the mum walk. She’s a right sour faced bitch, nobody would try that 😂.

We actually have a right of access over their drive to our back garden, I’m thinking about having the gate swing outwards. Oh, I’m so sorry the wind blew the gate open and smashed into your car. I’ll try and get a photo later of the length of their drive. It’ll add to the ridiculousness.

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 09:58

Screw it, no time like the present. Exhibit a, the garage on the right is theirs. The lavender is a bit of our land that sticks out for some reason, but I’m pretty sure I could fit a lorry on there.

To find this infuriating.
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custardbear · 23/10/2019 10:00

Wow that's a huge drive can't they fit all their cars on it? Tell the girl to park on her own bloody drive

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 10:07

I’m sure they could. I pointed it out to them the day they moved in that they have all this room down the side and he said that someone had already told him he can’t park there. So why be so offended we’ve asked you not to block our drive and start this campaign of harassment?! Gahh these people boil my piss.

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RedSuitcase · 23/10/2019 10:37

Not suggesting you do it, but I'm imaging things that would block their drive nicely.
What's the heaviest, bulkiest thing that can be put down?
I've seen on the side of the road, usually blocking field fences, those HUGE boulders, 6ft x 6ft, I wonder how much they cost? Make sure it's delivered whilst they're out. It can't be traced. Would probably cost them a bomb to have it taken away.

I vote Boulder Bollard

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 11:07

@redsuitcase. Genius! I want to do that now 😂

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ThreeLittleDots · 23/10/2019 11:29

If you go on the land registry website and pay £3, you can get the landlord's address from the property deeds and send them a formal letter.

As the lettings agency don't manage the property they will have no inclination to help you out, and might not have even forwarded your complain to the LL.

OldEvilOwl · 23/10/2019 11:37

Rude bastards. I would be telling them to move it every time I see it there. Have you not spoken to them since the wife came round OP? I would go again if I were you

PuppyMonkey · 23/10/2019 11:50

It would be a shame if the images ended up anonymously posted on your Facebook local site #crapparking tagging the local police and council.Smile

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 12:25

@threelittledots I think you’re right on that one. I don’t think they passed on any message. The only problem with the Land Registry is that I think it was a family home that they rented out when they moved so I’m not sure if there will be another address on there. I’ll see what the council says again but it’s a good last resort.

@oldevilowl no, I think they keep their head down with us now. They’re playing it clever since the wife outed him I think, he never came round after she said she was sending him so I’m guessing he knew she fucked op there. But I definitely think they’re going down the enough to piss us off without doing anything ‘illegal’, they must be after a reaction from us, especially with having the excuses ready for the police. What they don’t know is that I’m a fantastic armchair detective 😉.

But, that’s bothering me now. How can they say because it’s not tarmac it’s not a drive when you’re parked there and it’s a dropped curb? And I know that came from them because the wife and the police man called it mud when it’s actually wood chippings. Surely if it’s our land we can use it as we like and shouldn’t be blocked in because the material is wrong? I definitely think the police are bottling it now, don’t want to upset one of their own 🤬.

@puppymonkey oh they’ve been on twitter already 😂

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Nemchen · 23/10/2019 12:33

I’d be furious! We also have knobby neighbours and it’s the worst kind of stress! leave your car in the road, a few scratches would be worth it IMO 🤣 GL

ThreeLittleDots · 23/10/2019 12:37

I think it was a family home that they rented out when they moved so I’m not sure if there will be another address on there

The owner of the house will always have their name and contact address on the deeds, under the 'proprietor' section. It's just £3 and anyone can legally obtain a copy:-

Land registry

breatheinskipthegym · 23/10/2019 13:05

Doesn’t the landlord have to be registered? They do here (in Scotland - required by law) with their details kept on a public, searchable register.

Stuckinanutshell · 23/10/2019 13:50

Is he DEF in the police? Sorry if this has already been covered.

My friend has a horrible habit of claiming such - especially when someone says ‘what are you going to do about it?’ I’ve told her over and over not to do it because one day someone will reply ‘so am I’ - also it’s obviously a crime.

I’m just surprised that a police officer would 1. Do this 2. Have no issue with his wife using his position as a veiled threat 3. Actually not come over 4. Not be at work.

Something just seems off about that to me.

Again - sorry if this has been covered. I did read the threat but while feeding a baby so probably missed stuff!

WhoKnewBeefStew · 23/10/2019 13:55

Don't you need a skip for your driveway renovations

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 14:59

@breatheinskipthegym not sure, I couldn’t find anything during my all night google session. Only came across the Scotland one.

@Stuckinanutshell I can’t decide you know, I think he definitely has worked for the police if he isn’t now. He’s at home a lot, though. I just caught my attention that he happened to be in a suit one time at 11 in the morning. It’s a bit suspicious but the police don’t seem to flinch when we mention the CID threat.

@WhoKnewBeefStew we have garden bins round here and it’s just a tiny bit of grass, wood chips and a stump coming up so it’s a bin and tip job, but if I wasn’t on mat leave and had a full wage it would be a 10 skip job all along their drive.

Thanks everyone for keeping me sane though and letting me get this off my chest. It’s hard to vent to a baby and my mum and sister are telling me to let it go, but it’s easy to say when you don’t have to put up with it every day. I feel like I’m just spending my days on the countdown for my husband to get home and beat them to our own parking space 🤦‍♀️

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Burtiebojangles · 23/10/2019 15:16

Oh ffs! So the response from the council after the police said it’s a council matter:

Hello Mrs Xxxx,

Thank you for your report concerning anti-social behaviour on Xxxx.

Unfortunately, the council are unable to deal with matters such as these, and is something that would need to be reported to the police.

If you would like me to pass this report through to the police please let me know by responding to this email. Alternatively, you can contact them yourself by calling 101 or by logging a web form online via their website - www.reportingcrime.uk/

Sorry that we are not able to help on this occasion.

Kind Regards,
Community Protection Unit

Fucking shambles.

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Samcro · 23/10/2019 15:30

get on to your mp.
we did that when we getting shit from neighbours. he contacted the chief policeman(or whatever they are called) and like magic it was dealt with.

Glenthebattleostrich · 23/10/2019 15:33

Respond with yes, please do as I am getting no where reporting things.

Is your area one where landlords need a licence? Worth looking at.

Also I can loan you a few very loud 9 year old boys on scooters and with footballs if you'd like them at half term. They'd happily use her car as a scooter stop and goal.