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Burtiebojangles · 12/09/2019 03:31

New family just moved in to a rented house technically down the side of our house. They have 4 cars, one parking space. The street has space for 5 cars in total, so they deem this a suitable place to park - right across our drive.

Having asked them to move it, I got told they have nowhere to park and he doesn’t want his daughter walking too far to get to her car. Aibu to think we shouldn’t be inconvenienced because these people didn’t think ahead when deciding to rent this house, and what the hell can you do in these circumstances?

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AlexaAmbidextra · 01/10/2019 20:48

Probably should say apparently he works for the CID, not just your normal Bobby

CID isn’t senior to ‘normal’ police. It’s just another department.

Raindancer411 · 02/10/2019 07:57

I heard one of the only ways to get pampas grass out was the burn the stump.

Burtiebojangles · 02/10/2019 08:33

@Raindancer411 I’ve seen that too, I’d been thinking about it all summer but since I decided that’s what we need to do it’s been non-stop rain. Might take my fire lighter to it today with a break in the weather.

They should all be burnt, though. Horrible things, it was only after we bought the house we were told what they meant. Hence why my husband started hacking it down 😂.

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katkit · 02/10/2019 09:48

If they are parking in front of a dropped kerb, call parking reinforcement and they'll come over and issue them a ticket.

Do it whenever they block anyone's drive. That should learn them.

I had this problem. Parking warden was very responsive- straight round to issue a ticket- they want tip offs, it helps their targets. I've never been blocked in since.

if you genuinely can't get out (as happened to me), they will send a truck around to take the car away. My council dispatched a tow truck when my neighbour blocked me in. I told them a ticket would suffice- having neighbour's car impounded seemed like a nuclear bomb.

Good luck.

ElizaDee · 02/10/2019 10:16

Is it illegal to buy a clamp and just whack it on?

It might not be if you put up a sign.

WarshipWarrior · 02/10/2019 11:35

@Burtiebojangles no apology necessary!

I guess it probably is illegal to whack a clamp on but if no one knew it was you it would just be fun to watch the fall out wouldn't it!! Grin see how she gets that off!

Is there a way you could block her in or her mum or dad? I think this is a case of if you cant beat them join them! Make a point and then scream bloody murder when they knock on so they think you're nuts and will stop antagonising you. Or go for a really long walk and/or ignore the door!

RandomMess · 02/10/2019 12:11

Park in front of your own dropped kerb???

Burtiebojangles · 22/10/2019 20:57

So, here’s an update for anyone who may still be interested.

No fucker will do anything about it. We tried parking across our own drive which they took objection to now park a car there all the time, even when there’s nothing on the drive. I reported it all to the police who sent a letter out about inconsiderate parking (completely ignoring the complaints of their behaviour). They still did it, called the police again tonight because as you can see they’re doing it again. Want to know how they got away with it? Because we’re parked on mud (we’ve started the drive extension) so because it’s not drive material the police have no legal rights to tell them to move it. The letting company just ignore every email I send now so that gets me nowhere.

Officially about to lose my shit.

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constantlyseekinghappiness · 22/10/2019 21:17

Is this guy actually a police officer? Do you know his name?

If so I’d phone 101 and ask to speak to his Sergeant. You’d need to provide his name and a general area of which office he might be based at.

If he’s not then tell them your neighbour is threatening you and pretending to be a police officer.

If he is, his sergeant won’t be best pleased id imagine.

Junkmail · 22/10/2019 21:24

Call the letting agency daily. I did this when I had an issue with my neighbours because they just refused to respond. Every single day I called them and asked when they were going to deal with it and I eventually broke them. I would also be speaking to you neighbours about this directly DAILY because I know that it’s really stressful but sometimes the only way to get people to actually take you seriously is by being relentless about it.

namechangaroonie · 22/10/2019 21:30

constantlyseekinghappiness has said what I was going too. His Sargent will take a really dim view of this, and rightly so!

Burtiebojangles · 22/10/2019 21:52

I’m not sure to be honest. I’d take a punt that he’s out of work at the moment, but he clearly knows something as he talked his way out of it. I’m sure if there was really no issue with the parking, the police wouldn’t have knocked on, taken a photo and say he’s going to have a word with them, he’d have said he can’t do anything from the off.

But, he never seems to be at work. It only caught my attention when he came home late morning one day in a suit, every time I’ve seen him come and go he’s been in normal clothes, so I’d assume he’d been to an interview. It would explain the ‘downsizing’, apparently he moved from a house that had a garden bigger than our street, bless. His wife told us she was a nurse (her excuse for needing somewhere to park, god knows) but she wears black clothes and a yellow lanyard so hardly frontline NHS. I can only assume they’re career criminals. Fuck me, I’m like a stalker.

The officer who came tonight told us to put in a complaint about harassment, I told him I had, he said it would be being dealt with, I told him it wasn’t because I spoke to an officer over the phone who didn’t even mention that, just the parking issues, so that got completely ignored which is concerning come to think of it, it’s like they don’t want to deal with it.

He said he’d pass it on to the neighbourhood team (?) and I’ve just sent a complain to the anti social behaviour team at the council. Scraping a barrel now but I don’t think I’ve ever been so stressed in my life. It’s hard enough being a first time parent, but to be in and out of hospital with him and then have to deal with knob heads like this, there’s no escape...

I don’t want to sound like a dick with this but they only rent, we own, so how can they be allowed to make us feel like prisoners in our own home? Sad

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Burtiebojangles · 22/10/2019 21:59

This is what I got back from the letting agency:

‘Hi,

I have forward your email onto the landlord of this property as we are not the managing agent. The only other thing i would advise is for you to speak with the council which looks like you have already done.

Kind Regards’

It’s like banging my head against a brick wall.

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Stressedout10 · 22/10/2019 22:23

You poor thing I can't believe that they're still doing this op.
Hope your dc is doing ok
Flowers

Burtiebojangles · 22/10/2019 22:45

Thanks @stressedout10. He’s a little trooper, luckily he doesn’t seem to be phased by a lot of it. His recovery since the last op has been a bit less straight forward but he’s just so happy and content and absolutely beautiful as is coming along so well.

I just feel shit that there’s just so much else going on that he won’t understand but I feel like I’m on my arse at times.

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drinkygin · 22/10/2019 22:56

Honestly I would be causing absolute murder at this point. Banging the shit out of their door continually EVERY time they do it until they move. Cause enough of a show that it’s a nuisance to their neighbours and embarrass them into moving.
I’m sorry you live near such dicks Flowers

Stressedout10 · 22/10/2019 23:01

I'm glad he's doing better and is on the mend.
Please don't let those bastards get to you. Your so much better than them.
Would it be worth putting in an official complaint to the police about the preferential treatment that PC/dci can't park and there on going harassment?

Burtiebojangles · 22/10/2019 23:11

My husband moved his car so his bumper is right up against her car door which is funny because we’re still on our property but can do that to her car, but she’s not parked inconsiderately? I hope she has an early morning because we won’t be answering the door. Smile

It all just puts me off doing anything though, we’ve tried everything to sort it out and it just gets worse. I already feel like an awkward fuck that she’s probably just going to damage our car and want to move it back.

I’ve been reading about antisocial behaviour notices for landlords and that they have to be seen to be sorting out problem tenants but I’ve got a feeling the letting agency won’t have even passed it on to the landlord because they won’t want to be associated with finding the worlds biggest twunts as tenants.

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WoWsers16 · 22/10/2019 23:18

I'm literally fuming for you!! I'd be so annoyed too!! X

RandomMess · 22/10/2019 23:20

So ask the letting agency for the Landlords details, if they do annoy the landlord everyday, if they don't contact the agency everyday. Phone them, when you can go in person in a loud voice ask when they are going to deal with their tenants that are harassing you and preventing your DS getting to emergency medical appointments.

Seriously make it their problem.,

stanski · 22/10/2019 23:24

Can you not contact the landlord directly? Go to land registry and pull the title deeds to the house (£3). It may have her current address on there but if not you'll at least have her name and you can try look for her with it. This is madness.

Witchinaditch · 22/10/2019 23:29

Will she not just climb in through her passenger door?

JollyHolly30 · 22/10/2019 23:33

Can you post a photo of how your husband parked against her door? It would give me so much pleasure to see what she'll be confronted with in the morning.
Obviously she can climb in the passenger door but it's not exactly convenient for her. You're a saint for not keying their car by now. Unfortunately it'd be too obvious that it was you, but so very tempting.

Burtiebojangles · 22/10/2019 23:43

She probably will climb in the other side, but she’s a cocky little bitch. She moved her car there today off of her drive when the street was empty because my husband had the audacity to park across his own drive last night. I put nothing past these morons. Here’s the pic, though. She defo ain’t getting in that side. She also has a wing mirror completely off at the other side so it looks like it’s not just here she parks like a dick.

I’ll try the letting agents for the landlords details.

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RedSuitcase · 23/10/2019 00:00

It'd be a shame if someone kept accidentally spilling their extra long nails on that spot

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