Weekday Birthday Celebration

[Freespirit24]

Before I write this -rant- I want to acknowledge that there is not much I can do about this situation as I have been pushed into a corner but I just need a good old vent and a AIBU question?

My sister is celebrating her birthday next month and she and her husband have decided that they want to plan a family meal on a Tuesday night!

I am working, dad is working, my husband is working, everyone has to get away early from work or rush home and get showered and dressed quickly, go out for the meal and then come home and up again the next day at 6am for work. This is all while trying to get home in rush hour traffic from London on a weekday!

My sisters husband is insistent that it has to be this night or another week night as this is what suits them. It is just so annoying to constantly tell someone that you do not want to go out after work or with work the next day and be told this is easier for them

I do not see why they cant take an annual leave day for a weekend if they want to celebrate this ocassion so much.

As I write this I have just been informed that it has now been changed to a Monday! If I say I cant go I turn out to the bad one?

@swissmilk I suggested it too.
@imnotinthemood we didn't say that's the reason - we suggested that it could be a possibility. It's not unreasonable - we're not being nasty. Just considering the reasons why OPs sister may choose to do it on a weekday.
OP made it clear one of the issues is that she can't drink much. That wouldn't even be a thought in my head when going for a family meal.

I don’t really understand your issue. You get home at 7pm and the meal is at 7.30. Just wear a nice outfit to work that is suitable for the evening. Your sister doesn’t need to plan around your shower arrangements, it’s not her fault you can’t go out without a shower first, that is not normal. Also fail to understand why you wouldn’t want to go out after work, 7 hours isn’t a long work day at all, I would be ecstatic if I only had to do that! 1.5hrs commute is pretty standard, as is 6am get up.