To not answer my front door and ignore any knocking?

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I’m as anti social as you can get. I have to interact with people at work but when I’m at home I want to be left alone.

In the past I’ve rushed out of the shower to answer the door to someone who turned out to be selling double glazing. I’ve stopped mid bake and washed my hands etc to answer the door to someone pushing religion. I’ve cut short telephone calls to answer the door to someone pushing a political agenda. A few months ago I decided I will no longer answer the door unless I’m actually expecting someone. I’m sick of it. This is my home, my “space” and I want to be left alone!!

I now ignore all knocks unless I’m expecting someone, including ignoring the parcel man wanting to take shit in for next door. I’m sick of that too, he should arrange delivery for when he’s actually home.

Recently a little lad has been asking to come around and play with my dogs. At first him mum used to text me first but now he just turns up so I’ve started ignoring him too. It’s tea time, DH has just got in from work and the dogs are settled. I don’t want to be disturbed and answering the door, even to tell him no sets the dogs off and disturbs my dinner.

AIBU?

I have a sign that says Fuck Off, well no it doesn't but it says unless you are invited/expected we won't be answering the door.

MoneySavingExpert has one you can print off, I just copied most of it and made my own sign. So now the only people who knock are there for a legitimate reason.

Oh god yanbu.

I never answer the door if I'm not expecting anyone.

I don't think any mumsnetters do 😂

I often don't answer the doorbell and phone. My home is my sanctuary! So I know how you feel.

I'd do the same if I could, but I order quite a bit online so there's always the chance I'd miss my own delivery. I've told Amazon to leave parcels in the recycling bin, BUT they often ignore that and give it to a neighbour anyway, and I absolutely hate knocking on for parcels due to social anxiety.

I can't stand people who knock on your door to sell you things. Particularly if it's after dark, which I find hugely unreasonable. I DO have a "No Cold Callers" sign, but tbh that gets ignored. And half the time I'll answer the door and it's my partner's ex coming to see his son unplanned (not the child's mother) and then she just walks in and settles down on the sofa.. meaning I have to socialise whether I want to or not.

You are definitely not being unreasonable, I'm exactly the same.
Some of us just need our time alone. That takes priority over any one else. I know it might sound selfish but our time is so precious we need it for our own wellbeing sometimes.

I love this ive also decided I’m sick of people infringing into my space so bought a ring camera and if it’s not someone I’m expecting I don’t answer .

I never answer my door unless o know who it is or at least strongly suspect they are a neighbor. It’s much easier now that I have a door camera. As soon as they get near the door I get an alert and can check the camera to see if I want to answer.

I never open my door unless I'm expecting a delivery. You can buy signs for your door that say 'Baby sleeping, do not knock'. Got mine from Amazon

I can take a peek from the window unseen so often do that if not expecting.

I don’t bother answering if I’m not expecting.

I do the same. Never answer the door unless I'm expecting someone. It winds the dog up and means I have to get up 😂

Everyone is different. Some love answering the door every ten minutes to those who are wasting their time, others hate it. It is a simple I don't mind/I hate it thing.

I have more to be doing with my precious time at home than to be answering the door to all and sundry who offer me nothing, and usually it is a pain to get rid of them.

A video doorbell thinngy has sorted all that out brilliantly though (wink, can see the deliveries of parcels and such).

And of course MN knows that people should NEVER arrive on your doorstep unannounced ever. Well it is bad manners to expect those you are calling to, to be absolutely thrilled to see you whilst they are trying to feed baby, chase after a toddler, and so on.

Get a life people. A simple text and all is good. The door will be opened with a few minutes notice. Not impromptu arrivals though in my case, they can take a hike.

YANBU

I ignore all unless I know I'm expecting a delivery that day.

No one on MN ever answers the door unless by prior arrangement.

Meanwhile in the real world, most people do answer their door even if they are not expecting anyone.

e.g. I am not the only person in this house, but I am the one who is here most. I don't expect DH to inform me every time he places an internet order, so it would make me a bit of a twat to ignore the door because it isn't my parcel being delivered.

YANBU. No way would I be entertaining a neighbours child if I didn't have kids at home. You could put a sign up stating no salepeople etc.

Got a new front door with a spy hole recently...ignore the door regularly now as I check first who it is. Love it!!

YANBU I'm going to install some sort of doorbell (I'm sure must exist) that you can turn on and off as and when. and a camera.

An unanswered door is a happy door!
That's what my Nan always says. She also hates talking to the neighbors

yanbu.

Of course I'll answer the door for the deliveries (and we don't always know the exact date they'll arrive). However, a peek out the window confirms that it's the mail or one of the delivery companies. (Actually, the dogs usually alert me before they can get to the door to knock.)

Yanbu

YANBU!

My life changed when I got one of these

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/No-Canvassers-No-Hawkers-Religious-Groups-Sales-People-No-Cold-Callers-Sign-/321136666273?ul_ref=https%253A%252F%252Frover.ebay.com%252Frover%252F1%252F710-53481-19255-0%252F1%253Fff3%253D4%2526pub%253D5574631662%2526toolid%253D10001%2526campid%253D5338243305%2526customid%253D145f10c8acfa6a8095213ec4dd5328d2%2526mpre%253Dhttps%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.ebay.co.uk%25252Fitm%25252FNo-Canvassers-No-Hawkers-Religious-Groups-Sales-People-No-Cold-Callers-Sign-%25252F321136666273%2526srcrot%253D710-53481-19255-0%2526rvr_id%253D2105992029488%2526rvr_ts%253D1cdbd6f516d0a9e41267cbd9ffff1674&ul_noapp=true

I still feel guilty for snapping at the Jehovah’s Witness when, one Sunday morning just as I was dishing up a rare full English, they rang my doorbell when my eggs were on the verge of burning
I ordered the sign the next day, in the last 14 months I have only had 2 people walk all the way to my door and ignore it. DH just opened the door and pointed to it when one guy was mid Speech.

I always answer my door. Everybody I know answers their door. I wish I had such a terribly important life like most people on Mumsnet pretend to that I would be too busy to spend 20 seconds taking in a parcel like a normal human being

Get a vicious dog sign and ring camera doorbell, works a treat!

I always answer and I curse myself after. I’m not interested in politics/religion or buying anything and I hate being interrupted. I don’t know why but I don’t like to ignore “just in case it’s important”.

It’s not that we think our lives are too important.

It’s that we can’t be arsed.