WIBU to say something

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Name changed for this as this possibly could be outing

My son is almost 17 and finished gcses in June.

He's never had a girlfriend (we've always been open and he admits he hasn't got a girlfriend) but I've thought nothing of it.

Yesterday his friend came round (they've been friends since year 7 and he's openly gay). And when I was walking past his room to wake DS from his nap and I saw them kissing.

Now I don't know where to go from here? Would I be unreasonable to mention something? If I said something what would I say? I need advice please!

They deleted you for a reason you ignoramus.

My ds 13 and dd18 have also had conversations with me about being gay bi and so on. One of my dds best friends came out as bi at school. My dd wasn't fazed by this at all not that she should of been) because we've always been open and honest with whatever questions are asked. Age appropriate responses obviously.

Why should the thread go? You are nothing but a nasty bully, it’s not your thread.

I did give him the talk about consent and sending images when he was about 13 and he asked a few questions but I think he was embarrassed.

Husband said not to tell him anymore until he got a girlfriend.

Just bobbing on here to say thanks for all the reports - we've banned the poster who keeps on reappearing here and we've taken down all their posts, which (it goes without saying) break our TGs.

We don't allow PBPs to have accounts and rest assured we'll continue to remove any reregs of this poster that we see.

Peace and love.

Not sure, would you be questioning it if it were a girl? If the answer is no then leave it.

You have a massive DH problem here.

I’d start thinking about a divorce.

My DH probably wouldn't support him because when our friend came out as bi a few weeks ago he said no way would one of his children be bi or gay.

OP I wonder if this was more a comment that he doesn’t believe either of your DC to be bi or gay, rather than he wouldn’t be ok with it. It does sound a transphobic comment and it isn’t right, but there are many gay/bi guys whose dads were not ok with it when they first knew, yet now have great relationships. Out of interest, is he still friends with your friend who came out as bi?

Not a lot to add, as others (ignoring one) have said it well. I echo in not letting on you saw the kiss. He might well be exploring his sexuality at the moment and labels can be unhelpful. He would have had sex ed at school and I’m sure understands the importance of condoms if needed. My kids seemed to already know it all when I broached the subject.

Just keep on doing as you are 😀

Your husband told you what to do? No discussion?

How’s that for a marriage?

He’s 17, that safe sex talk should have happened a while ago!

I feel really sorry for your DS irrespective of his sexuality.

With a father who no doubt teases him about his "un-manly 'tache", do you honestly think he hasn't already had private words with your DS about how "girly" it is to be gay... I assume there's ample opportunity for the big man of the house to talk to his son in private about what it means to be a "real man", so god knows what he's said without your knowing.

Living with these type of people can really ruin someone's mental health.

Your son kissing a boy is the least of your problems compared to having a bike backwards homophobic husband! That's what I would sort out...asap.

Vile not bike!