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I shook his bloody hand

252 replies

costacostsalot · 07/09/2019 11:33

There's a man I see all the time, we don't know each other.
I went to coffee shop with my son and he was there with his children, we were sitting near each other so started having a chat. We was having a lovely conversation about the summer holidays, the weather, the children and nothing flirty, just a chit chat. I realised the time and needed to head off. For some unknown reason I got up, leant over and shook his bloody hand!!!!!
Why????? I have no idea where it came from!!! Aibu to just avoid him forever, it's weird isn't it and he's going to think I'm odd 😐😐

OP posts:
maccaroni · 07/09/2019 11:35

I once accidentally called my husband’s Nanna “darling” when I kissed her goodbye! Cringe!!! I’ve no idea why!! 😂

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costacostsalot · 07/09/2019 11:39

The post cringe exaggeration is too much!

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Bezalelle · 07/09/2019 11:43

I honestly don't think it's too weird! Don't worry. I've done worse.

WhatWhyWhen · 07/09/2019 11:44

Ha sorry but that’s quite funny, like the end of a business meeting

easyandy101 · 07/09/2019 11:45

Just make sure you do it every time now

ZeroFuchsGiven · 07/09/2019 11:46

I don't think it's weird at all tbh.

Croquembou · 07/09/2019 11:46

Hahahaha, oh OP, I'm sorry. Might be best to just burn down the cafe,?

I love seeing that stuff happen though - on the tube once, a couple had a slightly awkward kiss goodbye then, as she walked away, he gave her a sort of wink-finger gun combo. As soon as he did it, you could see his soul collapse and he just put his head in his hands. Poor guy.

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costacostsalot · 07/09/2019 11:49

@Croquembou Oh god, the poor man, I feel his embarrassment 😂

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VulcanRay · 07/09/2019 11:49

I really don’t think this is bad at all, I’d just assume you were a very confident, sociable person if I saw this exchange. How did he react?

Jeezoh · 07/09/2019 11:50

I got off the phone to our local garage by saying “love you”, I haven’t been back since!

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/09/2019 11:52

Style it out. You were pleased to finally making his acquaintance. Don’t have to shake hands every time now. Germans are always shaking hands it’s not as if it’s incredibly culturally unacceptable in the uk.

Branleuse · 07/09/2019 11:54

I dont see that as a big deal. Dont give it a second thought. I doubt he is.

SheisMammyof2 · 07/09/2019 11:55

Agree with VulcanRay.. don't see the problem at all.

sheshootssheimplores · 07/09/2019 11:57

I would just assume you work in a professional environment and weren’t thinking. I actually shake some people hand on meeting if we’ve been formally introduced and as I’m doing it think ‘wtf am I doing’. It just seems the right thing to do somehow and yet feels completely unnatural at the same time.

northernknickers · 07/09/2019 11:58

I'm actually not even sure why you think that it's weird, to be fair. It's just a standard end of conversation convention for a lot of people isn't it? Not everyone, sure, but it's pretty conventional to many, so not at all weird. It just seems it to you, OP, because it's not your usual convention, that's all. If you'd shook my hand in this situation I wouldn't have even registered it...even though it isn't my usual convention either. Don't give it a moments thought. I'm sure he isn't. 💐

(I don't think I've ever used the word 'convention' so many times in one conversation 😂😂)

EskewedBeef · 07/09/2019 12:05

Men always shake hands with acquaintances, so it isn't that weird I don't think. I curtsied to a new boss Confused

ParadiseLaundry · 07/09/2019 12:07

Are you male or female op? Because I think a lot of men would do this in this circumstance, I think my DH probably would. Less common for women to do it but if it's ok for men to do it then it's ok for women! Try not to worry too much, it could have been a lot worse Smile

EskewedBeef · 07/09/2019 12:10

By the way, do you fancy him a bit? It's normal to do slightly weird things then overanalyse everything you do if you want to make him think you're normal. He won't have thought much of it, unless he fancies you too, in which case he'll think you are deliberately keeping it formal and definitely don't fancy him Grin

lazarusb · 07/09/2019 12:10

As a mature student in my 40s, I once offered a tissue to 19/20 year old male student that was sniffing like mad during a seminar. He took it, said thanks and then I winked at him - 7 years later it still makes me cringe. He clearly felt uncomfortable and that I was trying to make a pass at him!

FairNotFair · 07/09/2019 12:11

Charmingly formal. Not a problem.

darkparadise1 · 07/09/2019 12:13

When my parent in laws were leaving our house I shouted "bye, thanks for having us!" at them when they were leaving. I do things like that all the time Blush

Tigger001 · 07/09/2019 12:16

Haha that's quite funny, but you can only gauge if its cringe by his reaction......soooooo what was his reaction ?

Hadalifeonce · 07/09/2019 12:19

I can't see the problem here; it's a polite way of saying goodbye to someone you have been chatting to surely?

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 07/09/2019 12:23

At least you didn't kiss him

Agree, do it every time now, on meeting and departing

HennyPennyHorror · 07/09/2019 12:24

Men do it...why can't you? It was a friendly chat...I'd shake hands to!

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