I guess I wonder how this will work out for them as adults
I wouldn’t worry. It won’t be your problem. They’ll sort themselves out.
Plenty of parents take this approach with all aspects of parenting. It rarely ends well. It’s the job of parents to help prepare their children as well as they can for adult life, for the adults-to-be themselves and for society in general – not just to sit back, watch and say “Ooh, fancy that!” when they can see very clear warning signs of problems in later life.
With respect, even if a hypersensitive palate is the case, what are the chances that they'll both have it? Is it genetic?
Not sure, why don’t you look into it? I see no reason why it couldn’t be genetic. Do you?
I’m no expert, but I did have a little look online. It also appears to be known as being a ‘supertaster’. According to Wikipedia, FWIW, “It may be a cause of Selective eating” and it goes on to say that “Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID), previously known as selective eating disorder (SED), is a type of eating disorder, where certain foods are limited based on appearance, smell, taste, texture, brand, presentation, or a past negative experience with the food, to a point that may damage their health. The person may forget to eat and may only eat when they are starving.” Basically, what many people might describe as 'fussy eating'.
Would you not try to help a child with an eating disorder? Would you agree with a 5-stone adult with anorexia that they are indeed obese and should definitely not eat anything, so as to avoid upsetting them with the reality of their situation?
Is it one of those things like flu or anxiety that some people genuinely suffer from, but multitudes of others jump on the bandwagon and claim to have?
That applies to any condition. Are you dismissive of them all just because some people “jump on the bandwagon”?
Absolutely not. The clue was when I wrote “that some people genuinely suffer from”.
However, as you get older, you have to learn to accept that, just because something might not be your absolute favourite, doesn't make it totally unacceptable and fit only for rejection.
No. As you get older you get more and more say over what you eat. As it should be.
Indeed you do, but one would also hope that you would by then have learned wisdom in your choices. Settling down with a glass of wine a couple of times a week? Drinking a couple of bottles of Vodka on your own every night? Both of those are choices over which an adult has complete say, but only one of them is reasonable and unlikely to leave you with appalling health consequences as a direct result.
you can't live your life seeing every single individual burger, bowl of tomato soup or dish of pasta as a completely new, untested food.
Of course you can. It’s your body. You get total control over what goes into it.
OK, maybe my use of the word ‘can’t’ was mistaken. Of course it’s possible and nobody is stopping you, but it will severely restrict your enjoyment of many aspects of your life, not least your social life as friends stop inviting you out to meals because they just see you as much too hard work, complaining every time when everybody else is enjoying or at least making the best of a new dining experience.
but if it happens 95+% of the time, it's probably you who are the problem and not almost every single eating establishment.
who are you arguing with here? Absolutely no-one has said it was the restaurants fault. I think you’ll find my post referred to hypersensitive palate which indicates the issue is with the person, not the food.
Fair enough, I might have been thinking at cross purposes there and added that comment unnecessarily.
You can't reach adulthood and expect to only ever have the exact same kind of burger/sausage/chips/pie/risotto everywhere you go,
Adults can choose wherever they want to eat. You seem to be struggling with this.
Again, my use of the word ‘can’t’ was maybe misleading. Of course you can. I should have added “and expect to enjoy what most adults would see as a standard social life”. You’ll just get used to friends all going out to exciting new restaurants together whilst you go on your own to McDonalds every single time. Dating will be extremely difficult, unless you actively try to find somebody as self-restricted as you.
Can you imagine entering the adult world of work and only being able to do business or client dinners in McDonalds
What a small imagination you have. Millions of adults never go near a business dinner. Why would they need to worry about that?
By business dinner, I don’t just mean hobnobbing with other CEOs after the golf course. Again, I probably shouldn’t have used that as a catch-all term, but any socialising with colleagues (or friends for that matter), occasional joint Friday lunches at the pub, staff Christmas meals etc.
What happens in other areas when young people enter the world of work and are given an HP computer when they've only ever used Dells before, or are given a Toyota to drive as part of their job when they've only ever driven VWs before and react to a standard Avensis as if it were a combined harvester?
I don’t think a hypersensitive palate extends to cars.
Very true, but it’s very common for one form of disorder (if that is what’s causing it) to extend into another, as it’s frequently all about personal control and this tends to spiral and pervade your whole life. If, indeed, it isn’t anything to do with hypersensitive palate and is just a case of very common childhood fussy eating which is ignored by parents as the children grow towards adulthood in the hope that it will just go away – and children are brought up to believe that you should never do anything you don’t want to do or ever try anything remotely unfamiliar to you – then the analogy is very relevant.