AIBU to be concerned about dd's celebrity crush?

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Hi everyone. I have one twelve year old ds and a fifteen year old dd.
Recently (around a month ago) Dd has discovered a man on the internet (I wouldn't really call him famous, but there are a lot of 'fans' that are her age. People make instagram accounts dedicated to him!) Called Caleb Finn. From what she's told me he dances around in his room to make 'tik tok' videos for his fans. He isn't really that attractive in my opinion - he looks about fourteen (He's a twenty four year old man who still wears braces and dresses in baby blue hoodies) and she's getting obsessed. She's currently being assessed for high functioning ASD, her brother has it too. From watching videos that she has shown me I don't understand why she likes him so much... He honestly looks so young!!!
Anyway, dd has now sent a letter off to him all the way to Australia for him to read on a video that he will be making soon. She has a 'fan account' of him on instagram and he has liked one of her posts. He is all she wants to talk about now. Sometimes she starts crying because she will 'never find a man who looks like him' though he looks quite average, in my opinion. Most men would look like him if they had the haircut. I feel really sorry for her and I know how it feels to have celebrity crushes at her age. She's been acting really sad recently because of it and I don't know what to do How have you coped with your children's crushes? I'd really appreciate some advice right now! Thank you x

Oh god, the world really is going to hell in a handbasket.

No looks. No discernible talent.

Don't understand (at least I hope I don't) why he's trying to look so young.

Depressing.

I was going to marry John Taylor from Duran Duran

You weren't because I was

@RhiWrites was your crush Patrick swayze?

I'd never heard of him so looked him up last night, I watched an AMA, an Insta compilation thingy and a couple of tiktoks.
He really does seem harmless to me.
I asked DD18 and she's never heard of him, but after watching said the same, harmless guy makes money from doing dances, brings out merch as fans want it.

She did say that there's been a lot of Youtubers who have turned out to be dodgy so be careful, but she sees no problem with Caleb Finn.

(We had a discussion about furries today too and she's horrified at them, so she is clued up)

I adored Jordan Knight from NKOTB; I had their posters, T-shirts, watches, videos the lot. My mam never saw the appeal but she humoured me.
Surely its just a teenage crush, it doesnt matter if they have ASD or not.

@lifeinthedeep @nanny0g I agree with both. I find it quite creepy... He does seem 'harmless' but isn't that the point? I don't get why he wants to look so young.

I'm pretty sure she will be fine. I was obsessed with bros at her age and I mean OBSESSED. I vowed whatever I did when I grew up I would meet them. I think it's pretty normal don't worry. Also it could be worse. At least she's not bringing home some unsuitable boyfriend x

Does he not just look young, as opposed to wanting to look young?
He's not pretending to be younger, and I couldn't see harmful or creepy content in what I watched.
The trend for beards seems to make any guy without one look young.

OK there have been some pop stars/celebrities with a teen/tween fan base who have turned out to be a bit dubious, but most are harmless. It really is a matter of 'safe' crushes for young girls: they are unlikely ever to meet these people. let alone shag them, and intense fantasizing really is a normal and healthy part of teen development.