To be annoyed that in-laws won't spell dd name correctly.

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Okay, my DD name is Sarah. It's on her birth certificate " Sarah
But my mother in law and sister in laws refuse to type it like this and put it like "saara" Always. When I asked why, they said "this is the correct way, it's the Arabic way, you spelt it like the English and we won't use that".

Am I being unreasonable to be so annoyed and I don't even know what to do? Because I can't force them.. I guess I just have to wait for my actual Sarah to correct them one day. I'm hoping for a "Granny why do you spell my name wrong" situation one day.

YANBU.

It would annoy me but I think all you can do is either get your husband to correct them whilst you roll your eyes and then get Sarah to correct them herself when shes older.

Yanbu. That's so annoying. I'd get my DH to tell them they're being weird and annoying.

Of course yanbu, it’s very annoying.

I wouldn’t sweat it too much, just keep correcting them, and never ever display anything written/presents in her room etc where they have spelt the name their way

No it’s absolutely fine

As long as they’re ok with you using the English version of their names

I'd be annoyed, my grandma did the same and it annoyed me every birthday. I never said anything though. At least it's an interesting way of spelling her name and an interesting explanation for your daughter. She may just accept it as part of her heritage.

It's disrespectful as that isn't her name. Deliberately getting someone's name wrong is usually a sign of bigotry.
They're shooting themselves in the foot as Sarah will probably not answer to anyone calling her by a different name when she's older and rightly so.

My grandmother added an extra letter to my name. I loved it, I thought she was a bit of a rebel! Someone did it recently, I corrected them and told them only my grandma was allowed to spell it that way.

Still makes me smile now and I wish she was still here to do it. It used to wind my mum up a treat...

Very annoying, but I would try to let it go. They likely won't change, so all you can do is change how you feel about it.

YANBU at all.
Her name is her name, spelled the way it’s spelled. There’s no getting around that.

My DC1 is 4, yes she has a Polish name, but it’s not remotely difficult to spell or pronounce and is barely any different to its English alternative, and yet her father’s grandma has never said it correctly in her life

That's ridiculous, you cant change names just to suit your opinion. I'd go so passive aggressive on this one. Get the biggest neon sign possible for her bedroom, get personalised everything for her. My heritage is Irish, my name is French, none of my relatives struggle with it

I'd be tempted to make a petty statement once in the hope they'd get the message. If they send a card/present for your daughter with her name incorrectly spelt, then they wonder why you haven't mentioned it, just say, oh we didn't know it was for her, it had some random name on it, not DD's.

YANBU. If they keep doing it, start addressing them as different names. See how they like it.

Start random spellings of their names and keep repeating it's the English way so it's the correct way, you spell it Arabic I won't use that. See how they like it.

Yanbu but it's probably not worth getting upset about. The important thing is that they love her and are there for her.

Why don't they just write the name in Arabic. ساره

How weird. Next time reply with “ok insert English variant of their name”.

I've spelt my sister in law kids names wrong just to be petty tonight lol.

And yep the personalisation has started. Every time we go there, I make a point of having her baby bag standing up right which has "Sarah" written across Lmao.

They know it, they just don't care, probably love ruling me up.

Hmmmm!

Sorry, I totally get it and I hate to break it to you that, at 35, my family members back in the country my Dad is from refuse to spell my name the English way too. And in my Mother’s home country they refuse to say it correctly, missing out a syllable. At least they’ve stopped hyphenating it with my middle name and calling me both names all the time .

It’s like if my name was Victoria.

Dad’s side of the family would write my name as Wiktoria.

Mum’s side of the family would call me Vittoria or Vittoria-Louise.

Do you use Arabic versions of granny and grandad?

Because I suggest you don’t

In some ways I think this is quite sweet. I am assuming she is a bicultural child and they are naming her from their culture.

She might really like that when she is older.

Or she might, as you say, object and correct. Up to her!

I think this is hideous. There is no right or wrong way to spell a name. Honestly I think they are being a little racist. Do they struggle to show respect in other regards too?

I've spelt my sister in law kids names wrong just to be petty tonight lol.
Keep doing this on repeat. Such ignorant behaviour from your in-laws!

Since you are against it YANBU she is your child and she can decide in the future if she wants to change her name or use the Arabic spelling.

However many people from other countries have a English and a native/heritage spelling like Joan and John but in your situation you have decided against it so that should be the end of the matter.

Would it really be that terribleness for your little girl to grow up knowing that there's an Arabic version of her name and her Arabic grandparents liked to use it but she uses the English version because she lives in England? I can see why it might be irritating for you, but aside from your irritation, it's harmless and quite nice.

I have no idea why autocorrect chose to add ness to terrible!