Cleaner cancelled last minute due to childcare

[UmmUmar]

I've found a fantastic cleaner, single mum by the sounds of it, brings her daughter with her (I don't mind), you can tell she is struggling financially and with her little one.

Today she cancelled on me 10 mins before the appt because of childcare. I understand that with a kid, things get a bit difficult with work but a heads up would have been nice!

Since my house has been a tip I've got to do it all by myself (pregnant + toddler, and dh works long hours)

AIBU to be upset?

@MrsNotNice

Oh yeh! You are soo Amazing Karen that you managed to clean while pregnant with twins and have 2 special needs kids one who is low functioning. Isn’t that what you were after?

?Coming to someone else’s thread and putting them down to get attention isn’t kind. Start your own and then we can all give you that pat on the back.

I wasn't after anything. Seeing as I wasn't even talking about myself.

Wind your neck in. And maybe read people's posts properly.

First world problems OP. Get a grip. 🙄

I agree with Shazwee.

Just because you’re pregnant and have a toddler plus another half that works long hours doesn’t make you unique!

I’ve been there - plus 2 more children .. you can do it. Stop blaming the cleaner who obvs has more problems on her plate than you!

OMG the f-ing bitch, hunt her down & her sickly kid too!.....seriously a little bit of empathy, maybe she was concerned that she might make you/unborn & toddler ill.

I think YABU. Not going to lie I would be annoyed if someone cancelled on me last minute but many people have been pregnant had a toddler and worked full time and still manage to do their own cleaning. You sound quite entitled.

As a single mum cleaner myself I get that 10 minutes notice is frustrating and you were probably looking forward to having some pressures taken off but it is sometimes quite hard to fit jobs in that aren't regular. I have one lady who thinks nothing of messaging me on a wednesday night expecting me to fit her in that week! I think if she can't fit you in at short notice she should just say so but maybe she didn't want to let you down and thought she'd be able to squeeze you in but even slight delays have a big knock on effect. Maybe it's her daughters first full week at nursery and she had underestimated how worn out she would be and cancelled to avoid a melt down at your house? If you can, a regular slot would make a big difference to both of you by the sounds of it! She is also relying on public transport, that probably doesn't help with time keeping issues!

I am officially too old for this.

OMG the f-ing bitch, hunt her down & her sickly kid too!.....seriously a little bit of empathy, maybe she was concerned that she might make you/unborn & toddler ill

Where does it say the child was sickly?

@Dontgiveamonkeys1350

^As a cleaner I find some of these answer offensive. Like all of you never have a reason to cancel things. Your child has never been ill and u can’t go into work.

The way cleaners are treated sometimes is awful. I never tell people I am one as it leads to people sneering at me.^

With you entirely on this. I'm a cleaner too. A bloody good one. I take pride in my work, built a strong brand and reputation. I can't stomach some of the comments on this thread, I had to stop half way in.

I've had to cancel last min due to childcare issues. And I'm not a single mum. I have a DH and family. But they all work their arses off too. The insinuation that because I've cancelled once means I'll continue to keep doing it, because that's what cleaners do, and that my clients should just "get rid" is so fucking insulting.

If I don't work, I don't earn. If I don't earn I put less food on the table that week. Or go without somewhere else. I don't WANT to let anyone down and cancelling once doesn't make me unreliable simply because I'm a lowly cleaner!

Jesus, I really hope my clients don't think of me in the same manner as a lot of posters on here. Its soul destroying to read some of these comments.

skittlenommer. surely you can’t discriminate against someone because they have children ????
imagine if that happened to you one day when you have kids ..

YABU. Honestly you really have to consider your cleaner as your employee. She obviously has a problem, be a good employer and find out what's wrong. She's not your slave just because she's doing your cleaning. You don't own her, she's a human being. If you don't want her to work for you anymore, then fine, but don't moan about her taking time off because her kid's sick. Be a decent employer and talk to her. Imagine if you were in her shoes..... remember 'there by the grace of God go I.....

YABVU struggling mum can’t make work and you pounce like a viper. How vile.

OP - YWNBU and I too would be put out at 10 minute later notice. As I would with a10 minute cancellation notice of a dentist appointment, hairdresser, plumbers etc. But most of all with a cleaner as I loathe cleaning (but quite like a clean and tidy house - so long as someone else keeps it clean for me ). But you are clearly morally bankrupt for having a cleaner

Would a “good employer” be ok with their employee phoning in 10 minute before they were due in work to say “sorry my kid has fallen asleep so I won’t be in”?

Expecting women to work like they don’t have children and raise children like they don’t work!!

The funny thing is that if your cleaner is a single mum, she’s trying to be a great mum, working to provide money for them and running her own house. All whilst you whinge because she has a one off childcare problem (single parenting isn’t easy!) all whilst you have the luxury of Having a cleaner plus having a man that provides for you!

Wait Op why are you assuming she is a single mother if she lives with her mother in law? Do you mean she is widowed ?

Some posters are on their way to beatifying the cleaner due to being a single mother, as many many other working women are!

Horatioroses

Exactly ! And we don’t even know for sure that she is a single mother and I’m not sure why that’s too relevant.

Just like we don’t know anything about OPs life to judge and berate her for needing extra cleaning help.

I’m honestly at how many posters are triggered by this very simple AIBU question.

Sometimes 10 minutes notice is the earliest you can give. What did you expect? 4 hours notice, or something? 10 minutes is fair enough is they didn't realise until then. And better she gave you 10 minutes notice, than simply no-showed.

Yabu yes. I can’t take this seriously though, you sound like a spoilt child at the end of your post. Poor you having to clean up your own mess! Seriously whining about it because you’re pregnant and have a toddler, it’s actually laughable.

Maybe comments like this If DH/me takes him out for fun, I'd/DH would like to be there too and not Cinderella-ing if we can afford a cleaner. piss people off.

Sorry OP but you sound very unreasonable! Yes you are paying for a service but at the same time you don't pay if you don't get and I believe the law protects mothers for this very reason. Just clean it yourself if you are that bothered or see if you can get someone else for a week, it's not really the end of the world is it? A bit of empathy and human kindness wouldn't go amiss sometimes