To opt out of water park rides?

[BemusedTraveller]

I've name changed for this as it could be outing.

We're currently on holiday in Spain with two young teenage DCs and today we have a highly anticipated and very expensive trip to a huge and spectacular water park.

The trouble is I hate them and have always suggested DH either goes alone with the DCs or I come but just sunbathe and swim instead while we're there (I'm early 50s).

DH has always insisted I get involved but this year I've put on weight (I'm still upper reaches of a size 12) and last night my DD commented that while I still look lovely in clothes, in a bikini I'm different, and made huge type gestures with her arms, to which everyone fell about laughing.

I'm therefore dreading more than normal the idea of wandering around this park and standing in queues in a bikini all day. Would I be unreasonable and selfish to go along but not go on the rides and just sunbathe and swim etc?

Of course not. Other people cant force you into an activity. Your DH can insist all he wants but doesnt mean you have to do it.

And that was very rude of your daughter, did you tell her it was nasty? And also very rude of everyone who laughed, I hope your husband didn't laugh as well?

Your family sound a bit bullying towards you to be honest

Of course that’s fine. I hope (but i’m pretty sure he didn’t) that your dh pulled your dd up on her rudeness.

YANBU. Just remind everyone that it's you're holiday too.

Don't go, stay at the hotel or villa and let him take them. Maybe you have a really bad headache today

I'd not be taking the kids to the water park at all until she learns to be respectful.

I think you're amazing for still wearing a bikini in your 50s. I bet you rock it and she's jealous that her 50-something mom looks as good/better than she does.

Your DH doesn't get to insist you go on the rides if you don't like them either.

It's your holiday too. Do whatever you want to do and whatever you want to wear.

I’ve been to lots of water/theme parks but don’t really do the rides/slides at all not my thing I supervise younger kids and relax a bit.

At a 12 I’m sure you look lovely tanned and healthy and how rude of your daughter I’d remind her how she would feel if someone chastised her body and made fun of her. Also what has it got to do with her what the heck you look like in a bikini none of my kids would think to notice/care really let alone comment. You DH unreasonable to want you to join in something you don’t like, he’s happy to do rides etc with your kids let him crack on. Hope you enjoy your day and manage to relax and enjoy the sunshine (freezing cold and pouring with rain here (scotland) again

I have never gone on the rides at waterparks. I like a float round the lazy river but that is all. My family have always accepted this. My DD's have also never been rude about my size and i am a generous size 16.

It is your holiday too and you can do as you please. Have a lovely time swimming and sunbathing and leave your mean spirited family to the rides.

I would be annoyed about the comments too! At size 12 you aren't at all fat and that was mean of them.

If you hate water parks then don't go and don't let your DH insist anything. Just be firm and tell them to have fun without you this time. They will cope and you can have a lovely relaxing time on your own.

You need to have a word with your daughter.

YANBU for not wanting to go on rides though if you hate them.

I'd be cancelling the trip all together with that level of disrespect.

Why did your husband fall about laughing instead of telling your dd off and supporting you?

Do whatever you feel comfortable with, it's your holiday as well. You have a very rude daughter.

I'd be refusing to go at all and explaining to DD how self conscious she has made you feel, so they need to fend for themselves today with your DH. That might teach her to be a bit more thoughtful in future.

Love, in your early 50s it's time to simply do exactly what you like.
I would, for added emphasis jump on the daughters comment and refuse to go on that basis.
And have a lovely day all to yourself.

I hate theme parks so never go on anything dh took mine or i held the coats don't go on if you don't want to . You have to stop going on about your weight upper end of a size 12 is nothing and still your dd was rude to you thatis ridiculous !

And as for her dad laughing bugger that does he often laugh at you ?

I love swimming but hate water slides/rides. I’m another lazy river woman! If you don’t like them don’t go on them.

I also wanted to say that I’m sure you look beautiful in your bikini. Ignore the peanut gallery and be confident when you’re there, nothing is more beautiful than someone comfortable in their own skin.

I’m a size 8 and every pic of me on holidays from 14 to 24 I was wearing a tanking top and shorts style bottoms because I felt self conscious about my body. I look back and wonder what on Earth I saw in the mirror. I’d kill now for the flat tummy, post baby tum is decidedly more wibbly!

My mum fluctuated between size 12-18 through my childhood and she’s always been the most beautiful woman I know. I hope your DD is normally more kind and this was a one off lapse in judgement.

Wear your killer bikini, I bet there’ll be plenty of women of all shapes, sizes and ages wearing them and not giving a fig what anyone else thinks.

For a start tell your daughter to not be so bloody rude and then tell the others the same for laughing and not pulling her up on it. Disrespectful and unpleasant bunch.

As other PPs have said you do what you want to do. Your DD sounds horrible though, I hope she was reprimanded for her disrespectful behaviour. Your DH sounds like a shit too for laughing with her. Not teaching her much about bullying tbh.

*tankini not tanking!

I've been to waterparks numerous times this summer. I can count that rides I've done on one hand and that includes the lazy river!

I like to go and read / sunbathe.

YANBU to not go on the rides. I hate them. Your DD IBU to make such a comment.

I was at a waterpark yesterday. Many overweight people. Noone made fun of them or stared. Go and enjoy and teach your dd to have manners.

Your daughter is rude af.

OP you can do what you want, but to be honest I grew up with a mum who never joined in and it kind of ruined things for the rest of us. We always felt like we couldn't really do what we wanted as she would be left out, even if she insisted she was fine. This has continued into adulthood and now when we spend time together/go away we all end up being indecisive because the things we want to do, she sidelines herself.

Unless you hate the idea, I would suck it up and join in. Make memories with your family while they still want to spend the day together!

I’m at your daughter!

I think I’d be having a word with everyone but especially her. How cruel and rude to humiliate you like that.

How old is she?

So much is wrong with this. Your whole family is disrespectful to you and you are allowing it. Your daughter was obnoxious and the fact that everybody else laughed is even worse. I'd tell them all they are on their own today, tell them exactly why, and spend the day doing exactly what you want (ice cream and cocktails at the pool I hope). Don't let them treat you like this!

Your DD is vile, as is everyone who laughed along with her.

On that comment alone they could go themselves and I'd be finding a nice part of the beach, near a bar and spending a glorious afternoon alone with my book.