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To opt out of water park rides?

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BemusedTraveller · 04/09/2019 10:13

I've name changed for this as it could be outing.

We're currently on holiday in Spain with two young teenage DCs and today we have a highly anticipated and very expensive trip to a huge and spectacular water park.

The trouble is I hate them and have always suggested DH either goes alone with the DCs or I come but just sunbathe and swim instead while we're there (I'm early 50s).

DH has always insisted I get involved but this year I've put on weight (I'm still upper reaches of a size 12) and last night my DD commented that while I still look lovely in clothes, in a bikini I'm different, and made huge type gestures with her arms, to which everyone fell about laughing.

I'm therefore dreading more than normal the idea of wandering around this park and standing in queues in a bikini all day. Would I be unreasonable and selfish to go along but not go on the rides and just sunbathe and swim etc?

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ShadyLady53 · 04/09/2019 12:17

I’m 35 and a size 10 and very self conscious about wearing a bikini. Never occurred to me that I could potentially wear one in 20 years time. Hopefully I’ll have embraced a DGAF attitude by then!

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Troels · 04/09/2019 12:25

@ShadyLady53 I like your style.
Some girls just don't get until they experience it for themselves. Hopefully it was a lesson learned and she backs off from baody shaming others too.

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BemusedTraveller · 04/09/2019 12:32

We're in transit to the water park now so I'll read the rest of your posts when I'm there (and happily sunbathing by the pools!) 😃

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colourlessgreenidea · 04/09/2019 12:41

I'm therefore dreading more than normal the idea of wandering around this park and standing in queues in a bikini all day. Would I be unreasonable and selfish to go along but not go on the rides and just sunbathe and swim etc?

YANBU to not go on water rides if you don’t want to.

YABU if you’re not keen on ‘wandering around this park and standing in queues in a bikini‘ because you’re concerned about other people’s opinions of your body.

I haven't mentioned that I've been on Mumsnet about it yet

Why mention it at all? Again, other people’s opinions shouldn’t have any influence on your feelings about this. You’re allowed to feel how you feel regardless of your DH, your DD, or a load of internet strangers.

colourlessgreenidea · 04/09/2019 12:42

Your DD is vile

Your daughter is a little bitch.

Vile? A little bitch? Really? Hmm

colourlessgreenidea · 04/09/2019 12:45

Have a serious chat with her - if she is speaking to you like this, I’d be concerned that she is making cruel remarks to other girls about their bodies.

Have a serious chat with her - if she is speaking to you like this, I’d be concerned that she is picking up negative messages about women’s bodies, and given your concerns about being in public in a bikini at size 12, this is potentially something she has learned at home, as presumably your weight/body consciousness didn’t just spring up out of the blue in the last day of two.

colourlessgreenidea · 04/09/2019 12:47

I’m 35 and a size 10 and very self conscious about wearing a bikini. Never occurred to me that I could potentially wear one in 20 years time.

Why not? What is the prescribed cut-off for wearing a bikini, and what would happen to you if you flouted that ‘rule’?

WatchingTheMoon · 04/09/2019 12:50

"I’m 35 and a size 10 and very self conscious about wearing a bikini. Never occurred to me that I could potentially wear one in 20 years time. Hopefully I’ll have embraced a DGAF attitude by then!"

Hopefully you'll have embraced some self esteem too.

OP, you need to pull your daughter and family up on that, laughing at your body is horrible behaviour.

JammieCodger · 04/09/2019 12:54

I dislike waterparks so my husband took our teens without me when we were in spain last year. I had a lovely peaceful day reading and kayaking while they had an awesome time on some hideous tall slides. It would have been very odd to have spent £££ for me to just sit and sunbathe.

Surely that's the whole blessing of having teenagers? it doesn't take two parents to wrangle them.

AdobeWanKenobi · 04/09/2019 12:55

Vile? A little bitch? Really?

Yes vile. Extremely unpleasant. Distasteful. Obnoxious.

Pick one.

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BemusedTraveller · 04/09/2019 12:59

@JammieCodger that's what I say...every year...!

I'm still having to go though and, as you say, spend £££ to sunbathe nearby while my family do the rides 😬

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Wintersnowdrop · 04/09/2019 13:01

Nasty comment from your daughter. I hope you pulled her up on that. I would hate to go to a water park, short sighted so never sure how to cope with that, Google’s often not allowed and contact lenses dangerous in pools. Hope you enjoy your day.

colourlessgreenidea · 04/09/2019 13:01

Yes vile. Extremely unpleasant. Distasteful. Obnoxious.
Pick one.

No, I won’t pick one. I wouldn’t judge anybody in those terms on the basis of one crappy comment.

A child said an unkind thing to a parent. It happens. It’s not right, but it doesn’t necessarily make them vile or obnoxious.

Wintersnowdrop · 04/09/2019 13:02

Should say goggles not allowed 🙄.

TheOrigFV45 · 04/09/2019 13:16

I’m 35 and a size 10 and very self conscious about wearing a bikini. Never occurred to me that I could potentially wear one in 20 years time.

I'm 50 next year and fully intend to wear my lovely bikinis.

What's all this "still wearing" nonsense? I have a nice figure now, is there something someone's not telling me about what's going to happen in the next year or so to render me unable to wear one?

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 04/09/2019 13:19

I never go on waterpark rides, I really don't like water parks so I just swim and sunbathe and wait.

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 04/09/2019 13:22

Hang on...vagina lacerations???!!!!!!!

M3lon · 04/09/2019 13:22

you can, in fact, wear bikinis no matter what state your body is in!

AudacityOfHope · 04/09/2019 13:27

Jesus, the comments on here about a very young girl Shock

Little bitch? That's fucking disgraceful from an alleged adult.

gingersausage · 04/09/2019 13:30

Why on earth are you going to a water park you don’t want to go to and paying to sunbathe? I would have thought that by 50 you were old enough to make your own decisions. I guess your husband has been abusive for so long and now your children have no respect for you either. If I were you, I’d do something about that.

Anoni · 04/09/2019 13:35

I love water parks but hate theme parks so don't go on any roller coasters and I'm bloody well entitled too.

You're the adult, do what makes you happy, tbh I'd be off someone else by myself for the day and hoping that causes everyone to maybe reflect on how hurtful words can be

AryaStarkWolf · 04/09/2019 13:48

Aw you poor thing, does your daughter not realise that people still have feelings when they get older? How would she feel if people made negative comments about her body like that. You should have a chat with her about it and the others who laughed, that's very mean spirited

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