To report this family for leaving their young dc home alone?

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New family moved in opposite. They're a bit strange. 2 dc age approx 8 or 9 and then another age 3 or 4.
Every morning the DM takes the DP to work at around 6.15 am. Shes gone around 20 mins. Leaves the kids at home, no sign of any lights on so I assume they're in bed and she doesn't want to stir them.
What also makes me nervous is that she doesn't lock the front door. She gets home and just pushes handle down and shes straight in.
Do I keep my nose out or report it?
My close friend has begged me to report however shes a social worker in training!

If you can’t respect other s opinions it’s best you come off the site as nobody else but you wit the need to @ others and tell them thier posts were stupid without giving any sort of suluggestion yourself.

Again, it was you who did that first, not me.

Pathetic nuisance

Tut tut, personal insults are against talk guidelines.

@Drogosnextwife

Have you noticed a lack of responses ??

Because your irrelevant.

I came in this thread to answer to OP. Not you

Like I said. Mumsnet warriors

And like I said, I would say something to someone irl who was doing this.

@Drogosnextwife

As I said I came in her to answer to OP. got a life and stop directing comments at me. Nobody is in a debate with you.

People

@CTRL

No, you just responded . If someone doesn't respond I usually take it to mean they have nothing to say back, because they have run out of any intelligent argument.

Report it. My mum used to do this when I was young and it was far to much responsibility for my age and I always prayed someone would report her but things were different 20years ago x

If you don’t like other opinions @Drogosnextwife why are you in here.

Start a thread yourself and debate on there.

I’m answering to the original post.

Please stop directing comments at me as I reallycouldbt care less. Your a nobody. To me anyway

I’m done

You obviously are, you just haven't got any debate left. I'm allowed my opinion and if I see someone say something I believe is ridiculous, I may comment on it.

@Drogosnextwife

No debate left ??

No your just not worth my free WiFi

If you don’t like other opinions @Drogosnextwife why are you in here.

Wow hang on, you didn't like the OPs comments, infact you were quite rude to her and didn't agree with her, yet when I didn't agree with your post and pointed out what I thought about that, you don't like it, start throwing personal insults around, take a huff and tell me to start my own thread. But hypocritical really.

She then went on to say she was over estimating their ages and her son had a better idea of how old they were

You keep saying I'm a nobody, worth nothing blah blah blah. That's not an insult, that's just stating the obvious. I am nobody to you, as you are nobody to me, that's the whole point of MN. Like I said you @ me first, I just thought that's how you wanted to carry on the discussion 🤷‍♀️.

laughs when people think they have won but really and truely they aren’t even worth an answer

What age can you leave children alone? A colleague leaves her 12 year old looking after her 8 year old while she comes to work. She’s out for about 5 hours every week day.

OP, I would also feel the need to report this as I’d be very concerned about the safety of these children.

I don’t agree with the posters who have been abrupt, defensive and insulting at times. You are being a responsible adult considering safety in this situation, you don’t come across as nosey at all. It’s very easy to shrug it off and say it’s not your problem or not your business but I agree that the safety of children in our society is everybody’s business where they appear to be at risk.

I don't think I have won, like you said this wasn't a debat. I have an opinion, you have yours and have run out of any actual points to make on the situation in the OP so have resorted to telling me to go away because I am irrelevant and start my own thread.

What should I start my own thread on? Also again talk guild lines to to start a TAAT.

Just to add, I and another colleague have been a bit uncomfortable about this, since she mentioned it and wondered whether we should mention it to HR to have a word with her. I think 12 is ok to be left alone, it’s just the 12 year old being responsible for the 8 year old that bothers us.

I agree Janey284, 12 would probably be fine, a 12 year old left in charge of an 8 year old all day isnt great.

Thanks. I’ll have a chat with HR in the morning, see if they’re happy to speak to her. If not, would it be appropriate to phone social services?

I think the issue is that as long as nothing unexpected happens, they’ll be fine but if someone breaks in or there is an accident of some kind, what would they do.

I was babysitting for money when I was 12
Would have been very confused if someone called SS when I was at home with my own sibling. Besides, aren't the 12 and 8 in school, why are they home alone the whole day?

This was over the summer holidays.

I was complaining about the cost of childcare and she said that she was glad that she didn’t have to pay for it anymore. Then explained that she’s been leaving them on their own while she comes to work.

Janey. Seriously. You expect your HR department to deal with your concern over a colleagues childcare arrangements?

If you’re concerned, report it yourself to SS not HR. That’s not what they’re there for.

I thought HR was less serious than social services. If we report to ss then it will be on her record.

Steady on Dorset, maybe we have been under utilising our HR departments up and down the country...maybe they could step in and take the pressure off social services? I'm sure they'll be chuffed about their expanded service!