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Aibu to think private school kids wearing their logoed school jumpers at the weekend is weird?

494 replies

zzzzzzzz12345 · 02/09/2019 22:47

Isn’t it a bizarre stealth boast, except it’s not stealthy at all and a bit attention seeking? I know several children who do this. If your child does, why?

You’d never catch a state educated child wearing their school jumper at the weekend. If my child started to, I’d suggest they changed.

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Manontry · 03/09/2019 10:23

Anyway, just a school logo is nothing. Dd2 came to the pub last week wearing her lacrosse first team hoodie.

Manontry · 03/09/2019 10:25

I must say, that made me cringe a bit Grin

Marriott5star · 03/09/2019 10:29

Ha ha ha !!!
How strange ! What does it matter to you what a child wears on the weekend or holidays ??
I'd personally be thrilled if my children wore their school sports logo hoodies / sweaters out of choice they cost a fortune & all too soon are grown out of !

Not really worth worrying over Hmm

incognito1976 · 03/09/2019 10:30

Amused at all the people who are amazed that some of us have never heard of 'Saturday school' because 'lots of private schools do it'.

Has it not occurred to you know that most of people have a) not been to ap private school and b) don't know anyone at all who sends their children to private schools?

As for the notion that children from state schools might not have 'the same pride' that children at private schools have, what an absolutely revolting thing to say. I don't have any views either way on where people send their kids to school, but I do have a huge issue with this kind of superior, entitled attitude.

Bluntness100 · 03/09/2019 10:30

Why do you think private school kids would have more 'pride

Eh? Read the statement again, I certainly didn't say that, or even indicate it, 😂

MuseThalia · 03/09/2019 10:41

The only reason mine would be in their school uniform is if they'd been at an open day at the weekend (they are expected to be there for school open days) no way would they actually choose to wear them on the weekend lol

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zzzzzzzz12345 · 03/09/2019 10:42

Kjhkj - you’re missing the point. Mine can have it - quite easily, we are financially very privileged (from sheer hard work and lots of luck, no family money here) - but we choose not to. We live by our ideals.

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FrangipaniBlue · 03/09/2019 10:46

I had to repeatedly tell DS to take his new state school PE hoody off yesterday as it's clean ready for starting this week (y7)

He's smitten with it (god knows why) and I think given the chance he WOULD wear it at weekends/holidays!

It's more than likely just the latest trend/in thing to do and I seriously doubt they're all doing it just to snub you OP.

Unclench you'll be much happier.

Bredsza · 03/09/2019 10:47

Mine can have it - quite easily, we are financially very privileged (from sheer hard work and lots of luck, no family money here) - but we choose not to

Classic.

KevinKlineSwoon · 03/09/2019 10:51

If you are in Scotland, there's no saturday school for day schools, but they do have sport fixtures and wearing uniform to and from them is compulsory

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 03/09/2019 10:51

I couldn't care less what other people's children wear and don't consider it any of my business.

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zzzzzzzz12345 · 03/09/2019 10:53

Mrsjayy - yes it is. Achieved by an entirely comprehensive education. In schools which weren’t actually that great. Hard work, good careers, and lots of luck. We realise that we are extremely lucky. But we don’t want our children to be privately educated - we want them to be educated in a realistic environment not a bubble of privilege. surely you can appreciate someone living by their principles or is that an anathema?

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NoSauce · 03/09/2019 10:55

Anyway it’s the norm to a private school kid. They don’t see themselves as privileged or any better than anyone else. It’s just school.

senua · 03/09/2019 11:00

we want them to be educated in a realistic environment not a bubble of privilege.
Where do you start with that ...!Shock So many assumptions.
But it is kind of the OP to slum it with the Great Unwashed.

Mummy195 · 03/09/2019 11:01

OP I highly doubt kids that age go around stealth bragging about where they go to school.

My DC are around that age, and don't really know brands, well, they don't even seem to remember what they wore yesterday. In all likelihood, someone was told to wear a jumper and they grabbed what was in front of them, friends saw them, followed suit cause it's just easier to remember uniform. Don't think there are any ulterior motives.

kjhkj · 03/09/2019 11:03

Kjhkj - you’re missing the point. Mine can have it - quite easily, we are financially very privileged (from sheer hard work and lots of luck, no family money here) - but we choose not to. We live by our ideals.

I'm not missing the point at all. Me too. Both DH and I are state educated and my school was particularly crappy. We now both earn 6 figures (also through sheer hard work and no family money or assistance). My point is that your position is a futile one since for all your martyrdom there is no workable solution to what you see as a problem which doesn't then disadvantage those in the state system. Even Corbyn's proposal to add vat to school fees will just push extra children into the state system, offsetting any benefit gained from the extra tax income.

I'd also be prepared to put money on the fact that you live in a very nice area with very good state schools.. Hmm

Mummy195 · 03/09/2019 11:03

but OP you seem to be the one boasting about affording private school here, since most people cannot and a lot of those who send their DC to private school can barely afford it and are making so many sacrifices.

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 03/09/2019 11:04

State school children seem to wear them at weekends round here in the last year of primary school, they have a special hoodie for their year group and they like to show it off 7 days a week!

drspouse · 03/09/2019 11:05

There's a grammar school in our area that has Saturday school a few times a term (state school).
There are also state boarding schools and while I think some of them are allowed out at the weekends in non-uniform, I'm not sure they all are.

GrimGirl · 03/09/2019 11:07

How do you know what weekend activities these kids attend or don't attend on weekend??
How do you know they are not representing thier school in some capacity?

What's the difference between hanging out at the local park/macfonalds/shopping centre in school uniform directly after local state school pick up and some private school kid doing the same but on a weekend?
Private schools to run slot of extra curricular activities and even without Saturday School or Sunday chapel it wouldn't be unusual for some kids yo be attending some kind of event or competition where they'd be representing thier school.
On another not my kids where school and uni Moody's all the time. 2 if my kids did board whilst we were in the army and my 21yo still wears were prep school (upto age 13) hoody. The wrong size was ordered and it was always huge, still is. She went yo MacDonalds in it on Sunday.

Likewise my other 2 wear logos hoody' s. Dd2 18 wears her boyfriends old school hoody but that's just a local comp rugby one, maybe she's stealth boasting she' s shagging one if the local rugby team?
Her friend 19 wears a junior royal ballet hoody from when she danced with or for them in her early teens. What's her message to others?
I totally get your stance on private education. That's freely your choice but to be so personally offended by i
Other people's kids wear is very odd.

Marriott5star · 03/09/2019 11:07

... Bubble of privilege !

I've heard it all now !
You seem to be very out of touch & have a very outdated view on private schools .

You would be surprised to know that they are very realistic environments !

kjhkj · 03/09/2019 11:07

I live in an area where there are only a couple of good state schools. The others are very poor. The house prices around the good state schools are astronomical. Those of us with DC at private school often joke about the fact that the families in those schools are the ones with the new cars/clothes/fancy holidays/amazing social lives. Our money has all gone on school fees..

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 03/09/2019 11:08

DS1 has been wandering around in logo’d private school kit this summer. He has had weeks of preseason training in the holidays. Sometimes he and his friends go to the park or shops in their kit after training.
(I’ve suggested he ditches the placard stating “I go to a private school and the sun shines out of my arse” he has been carrying around at all times Hmm)

iolaus · 03/09/2019 11:10

My daughter wears her school PE hoody - she both a) went to a state school and b) left a year ago
Still saw her in it a few days ago - she wouldn't wear the day to day uniform but she says that hoody is the most comfortable one shes ever had

I do see other kids occasionally in the same hoody outside school

PlinkPlink · 03/09/2019 11:10

I went to private school.

I had a Saturday detention once which entailed me wearing my uniform.

Aside from that though, we had these really nice sports hoodies which I wore all the time. I loved it. I was proud to be part of my school and it was the only hoodie I owned.

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