To think children should get inheritance based on what they put 'in'?

[Sparklfairy]

This is based on me but also my own parents too.

My mum made my life a misery in many ways. But i wouldn't see her out on the street. I paid her mortgage as and her bills when she couldn't to keep her house, without ccjs.

Herother two children left without a word or help, but I know they'll come crawling back when there's money in the picture.

One of my parents has done the same. Has no dependents and lives alone. But when his mum dies he will want his 'share'. His sister has had his mum love with his for 5+ years, dealt with all the shit that comes with dementia, refuse to put her in a her to protect his inheritance yet not help his mum in anyway.

The eye opener was when he was present during a conversation between me and his sister. His sister said she was tired because his mum has woken up screaming asking for X (long dead) and he paused and said...

Well let's talk about my holiday in Italy.

Yet he still expects am equal share. My aunt is dealing with everything. I don't think it's fair.

I'm dealing with everything with the future generation but my sister and brother are currently LC. It's been left to me. What do I do?

"The eye opener was when he was present during a conversation between me and his sister. His sister said she was tired because his mum has woken up screaming asking for X (long dead) and he paused and said...

Well let's talk about my holiday in Italy."

I used to do something similar with my in laws. We'get doom and gloom and stories about how often they'd seen the doctor that week and it could have gone on for hours, so I used to say cheerily..."so, have you been anywhere nice recently?" purely done to break the tone of the conversation. Didn't mean I didn't care.

I think you're getting a rough time here Sparklfairy, especially wrt the house.

This property wouldn't be part of anyone's inheritance unless you had made sure the mortgage was paid.

I agree with mathanxiety. I think you are getting a rough time here too, and for a PP to call you 'vile' is appalling and ridiculous

My sister, the youngest sibling, looks after my Mum and stays with her for company regularly, as well as taking her out.. She lives close by as do my brothers but they hardly ever visit or even call. My sister's care isn't just about visiting, it is about enabling mum to live a fairly 'independent ' life in her own home. All my adult life I have lived either abroad or in a different part of this country, due to work.

I appreciate all that my sister does. My Mum instigated a conversation with me about inheritance a few years ago, I wouldn't dream of discussing other people's financial situation with them unless they brought it up first.. I said that if there is anything, as far as I am concerned, I would rather it go to my sister who has been a rock, and the only thing I want are copies of old photographs of childhood etc which would mean a lot more to me. By the way, even though I know where or to whom people leave their possessions is entirely up to them, I don't think you are being unreasonable. I agree with the PP who said that there wouldn't be any property to leave to anyone if OP hadn't stepped in to make payments to her mother's mortgage.