Wedding invite - no children

[FunkySnidge]

Aibu?
Wedding invite but children are not invited unless they have a role in the wedding or are babies. This means that our kids are the only kids from our side of the family who will not be invited. In fact as it's not a big family they are the only relatives not invited.
We now don't really want to go. Our kids really value family events and they can't be fobbed off, they prefer this kind of family thing to a substitute treat.
If we go we will have the faff of organising house pet child sitter, and then the expense of travel and accommodation... During a school holiday. Tbh I would prefer to just go on hol with my kids and let someone else who is closer to the wedding couple enjoy the day.
It's not my family it's dh so I'm giving him space to say what he wants and haven't said my view yet. He has indicated he thinks it's unfair to go without our kids as they will literally be the only family members from our side excluded and he doesn't agree.
Should we get over it and go or do we have a point and should just decline graciously and send a lovely pressie.

30 or 40 years ago it was unheard of virtually to exclude children from weddings

I agree with this. The first wedding I can REMEMBER attending was when I was four. (Early 70s). It was my Mum’s cousins wedding. There were loads of children there (I have photos) as my grandad was one of eight children so lots of cousins of the bride and lots of their children. I went to all my mum’s cousins’ weddings apart from the ones that took place before I was born. Only one of my own cousins has married and my children were invited (aged 7 and 2). I’ve only been to one child free wedding and I’m over 50 so LOTS of weddings both family and friends. Plenty of children at my own wedding... one got fidgety in the church so her Mum quietly took her out...

@FunkySnidge I’d feel exactly the same as you . If you were invited as a family to the engagement why not the wedding . To me weddings are all about family and your teens sound as if they’d add positively to the day . Makes me sad that they are not invited as obviously its on cost grounds . I truly wouldn’t go and I’d just send a card . You must be really nice to consider a decline response and send a lovely present. I sure as heck wouldn’t .