Why does my partner think it's ok to call me on my past?

[Sweetpeach3]

Met my DH when I was 17. He was 31. We had an age gap but didn't matter. Been with my DH for 6 years. 3 kids. A mortgage and good jobs.
But he always has a niggle on his shoulders.
AIBU to think he needs move the F*#k on with life as iv done nothing to jeopardise our relationship?
I personally don't think I'm a slag and this is why he always says. as I have slept with 7 people before I knew him. Yes a few was just flings but I started at 15 (as much as I regret them I can't change them!) but I know people who have done a lot worse and he constantly says I'm a slag for it and I can't change. It's been 6 years and 2 kids. Number 3 is cooking , why won't he just move the hell in with life ?? Iv done nothing wrong ???

Yes iv left him twice for around 2 months each time an gone back my mums once and second got my own house because he keeps breaking me doin this I get told night slag and just slag slag slag all day long pretty much and I don't want the kids around that and arguments. So yes I said we needed a break an he did go with someone else the first time I went my mums for a break and catch an std but we got through it as it was me who left him! But he Promises it'll stop then starts again. Iv found him on secret social media's and I did again last month. I confronted him an he denied it but I cba arguin so I left it. I havnt got any social media or anything like that it's a waste of time. Now This is him staring again after a brilliant few months. I ain't one to go drinking or meeting friends etc I havnt drank since my 18th birthday as it just isn't my cup of tea I'd rather a takeaway and new pjs lol call me sad but hey. I have 2 best friends an that is it I don't speak to anyone else but family I ain't interested I just keep me to me and it's all about the kids and family

Just don't get his problem I don't think I'm a slag or done anything wrong or have I ??

Firstly, . I think you know what you need to do in regards to your relationship.
In terms of being financially independent, if I was you I would start offering mobile hairdressing or something similar. Huge demand for it.
Work around your children and save up for your own workstation. Then you could make clothes on the side for extra money.
I think seeing your counsellor is an excellent idea, you need to find your self worth and begin to build a better life for yourself and your children.

In all honesty I think he chose to be with you because you were much younger and easy to mould/manipulate than an older woman.

A man calling his partner names like that based on her past social.life is mental abuse.

How does anything you've done before him have any affect on your relationship? It.doesnt. other than him using it as an excuse to abuse you.

I couldn't be with someone like this.

Well, 7 people by 17 is a lot

According to you. You state that as if it's fact and not just your opinion, which a lot of people with disagree with.

There was another even younger girl when you were on a break? He targets young girls who he has no respect for. This is unhealthy.

Jesus this guy sounds worse with every post. Sounds exactly like my ex.

Get the fuck out of there, as fast as you can, trust me, it’s going to get far, far worse.

Leave him and for the love of God do the freedom programme before you let any other man into your DC’s lives.

He is abusive OP and you are so young still, you can make a fantastic life for yourself and your DC.

Did he actually want 7 children or does he not know what contraception is, does he see his other kids? Btw you've only got his word that his ex cracks on to him, bet she doesn't.

@pinkyredrose I caught her on messages to him an he wasn't replying. This was at the very beginning though and I confronted her. He openly leaves his phone out around me and things so I don't think he has anything to hide. When the other mums ring he puts it on speaker phone or passes it to me to save the arguing between them usually as they don't get on and I am a calm person tbh! But his oldest 2 live with me. Have from the get go and their really good I can't complain about them they do what I ask etc I love them like my own an they tell me everything. Sometimes to much but I wouldn't change it x

Why did you confront her and not your partner ? If he cheats it’s him you need to have issues with really, can you confront him about these things or is it difficult?

This makes me so sad and so angry.
Your partner is an abusive arsehole.
It’s not going to be long before he moves onto abusing you physically, either that or he’ll start to include your kids in his twisted fucked up bullying.
If that’s the life you think you and your kids deserve then I feel desperately sad for you. I hope you don’t have a daughter, because he’ll be projecting his misogynistic shit onto her as well.
PLEASE find the strength and support to move on from this person before it escalates

he is a asshole plain and simple.

He is in the wrong if we want to get technical being 31 years old and preying on young girls. That's disgusting imo

another day another thread of a woman complaining about their DH who they (despite knowing exactly what he is like and leaving him multiple times) got pregnant again! Bit late for advice! He sounds like a horrible person.

You are married to an abusive arsehole.

7 kids by 4 different women, and he's calling you a slag?! Hypocrisy at it's best.

How would he react if you started calling him a slag? Not that I think you should stoop to his level, but wondering how he'd react.