To refuse to be on a contraceptives and insist DP wears condoms

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Long story short, contraceptives make me feel like a bag of sh*t.

Especially estrogen ones, which I can't actually take now anyway as I get migraines.

All progestogen ones I've tried (implant, mini pill, Mirena) I've had for at least 6 months each and never stopped bleeding on them. I have heavy periods so have been advised not to get the copper coil.

I'm getting super salty about societies expectations for women to go on hormonal contraceptives. Seems like they make a lot of women feel like crap but they just put up with it.

I'm fed up of it. I told DP yesterday I'm getting my coil out and he can use condoms from now on. He doesn't really want to do that but has no choice now because I literally said CONDOMS OR NO VAG FOR YOU.

AIBU?

Never used hormonal contraception from the day I met my DH, nearly 30 years ago. He is responsible for contraception, never had any accidents and easily conceved much wanted children. I am now post menopause and no longer require contraception, but basically condoms took my and DH through my entire fertile years.

Yanbu - I say that as a woman who stopped the pill about two months ago, my mood has improved massively ever since, as has my skin, which was previously blotchy and dull.
DH wasn’t keen on using new condoms but I told him that's just tough.

YANBU. And I say this as somebody who became pregnant at a young age after some twat face swore he'd put the condom on properly.

My DD is the result of condom failure. Hindsight is that it was the few seconds' contact with pre-cum because we weren't even halfway through DTD. It slipped off, DH felt 'different' a moment later, I fished it out, it was replaced with another and we carried on. All happened so quickly we didn't think anything of it.
I awaiting a referral for a sterilisation. GP was totally understanding and didn't argue, just put through the request. I hope the consultant is as supportive as she is of me.

I am*