“You can be helpful and supportive to others without sugar coating and fairy dusting your words.”
Yikes. This kind of polarised stuff is the underwriting behind the “vipers” ethos of AIBU and the clan who are enjoying mocking certain folk.
No one has said that all posters should sugar-coat their words. I don’t think people need ambiguity as a result of a need to soft land everything. I personally am not one who uses “hun”, and “lol”, or adds spurious kisses after sentences.
However people mocking this style of writing, are knowingly being class-ist, superior, and not inclusive. They’re deliberately trying to drown out those voices, or silence them, due to an irritation with their mannerisms.
It’s the unspoken basis for a clique. The OP and others who support her, are enjoying the privileges of creating in-jokes, using a shared language, and happily excluding anyone who is nervous, doesn’t share the lexicon, and shows they’re from a different social standing.
It’s a shame because as a PP said, many folk who post in this manner are turning to/coming on Mumsnet because of real dilemnas.
But because they don’t pepper their posts with arcane references, or write in knowing, acerbic tones, or cheerfully spray “cunt” around, they’re considered weak minded, soft, dare I say it..simple.
People are allowed to find their kind, and enjoy their company. We’ve been sorting like this since the beginning of time, and it cheerfully happens on here when people start their own threads which could naturally exclude others who don’t want to post.
However this stuff is just classic clique mentality, driven by the kind of folk who need to prove their intellectual and social superiority at every possible turn to reinforce their good fortune/possibly the life choices they’ve made.