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To think that I have the most petty neighbours in the world?

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Reallybadidea · 29/08/2019 22:04

Previous complaints have included:

  • the sound of our bathroom extractor fan is annoying
  • our dogs look at their dogs through the fence (not barking, just looking)
  • our standard 6ft high fence causes too large a shadow
  • our visitors parking in front of our own house which is where the neighbours like to park

And the latest: there is an apple in their garden and they don't own an apple tree. We do, therefore we must have thrown this apple into her garden. Even if we did (which we didn't) it's just a fucking apple for Pete's sake Hmm

Has anyone got neighbours who have even more trivial complaints, or do I win some sort of prize?

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Sewrainbow · 30/08/2019 10:30

I once discovered ndn little boy in our back garden and asked him what he was doing, he'd come for his ball. I said nicely, you should really ask before coming in.

Later dh saw his dad and said the same, in a nice way saying we had a pond and lots of junk around as we were doing the place up (never mind invasion of privacy!) and then dad said well how is he to get his ball back if he wants to keep playing - well you could knock and ask?! Confused

They were very entitled, when they were in the process of selling their house we put ours on the market they only knew when the sign went up. He said to dh "you could have told us you were selling" what like.yoy told us you were? They didn't! Hmm

Cherrysoup · 30/08/2019 10:53

@tolerable

Wtaf?!

TixieLix · 30/08/2019 11:04

@viques Grin

ChristmasFluff · 30/08/2019 14:30

My Dad's neighbour's driveway was very steep, and the lady who lived there couldn't/wouldn't park on it, so when Dad stopped driving, he told this neighbour she could park on his drive if she wanted.

In the year leading up to Dad's death, I was over there every day at least once. I would park on the road if she was parked up, no problem.

One day I'd parked on the drive and she knocked asking for my car to be moved. I said, 'oh, I'm Christmas, I'm [Dad's] daughter and that's my car.'

'Yes,' she said, 'but that's my parking space' !!!

I did not have to speak, as my face did that for me.

Mamalicious16 · 30/08/2019 15:18

If you threw another apple over the fence would that make a pear?Grin

Mamalicious16 · 30/08/2019 15:21

Ooh! Just remember. DD was playing in the piles of snow.
NDN came out and bellowed " Get off that snow, that's MY SNOW!!!"

Andromeida59 · 30/08/2019 15:42

We used to live in a flat above a shop. Original owners of the shop was a nightmare. RM would often leave our post with them so we'd hardly receive our post. I did have my suspicions that they were going through our post but couldn't prove it 100% until one day when the owner stopped by and asked if we were using their electricity meter as we'd not received a utility bill in a while. I was stunned.
When new owners moved In, they were also difficult. Upon renovation they drilled through in to our wall, they drilled in to our gas cupboard. DP and I were both at home one day and heard a commotion. There were numerous workmen getting ready to install a vent from the shop to the roof line. Given that we owned our flat, we refused permission. Had we not been there a 2 foot (in diameter) pipe would have been installed outside of our bedroom window which also would have blocked the fire exit.

We had problems for years but we now own the shop and the tenants have been so nice since then.....

EducatingArti · 30/08/2019 15:56

Tell your neighbours that if they want real problems then they can come to mine .
I currently have stinking water dripping through my bathroom ceiling. It smells like a mixture of urine and sweat.
The only contact for the flat above me that I have is a lady who tells me she is only a friend of the real owner and ( who is in America and very ill) so she isn't legally responsible for it. She told me that " that's the nature of flats" that they leak and the implication therefore was I should be happy to put up with the current state of affairs for weeks while she tries to persuade the owner that a new bathroom is needed in the flat upstairs because he doesn't like spending money! She will send a contractor round next week but isn't sure how quickly anything can be done.
She thinks it is not reasonable for me to say the tenants can't use the shower until it is fixed ( that is when the water mainly drips).
The flat is poorly maintained and I first advised her of damp patches on my ceiling in July ( before the drips started).
Maybe they ( or anyone else ) could give me some advice on how to handle this.

TooManyPaws · 30/08/2019 16:13

@EducatingArti

  1. Environmental Health
  2. A lawyer.
SistersOfMerci · 30/08/2019 16:28

A neighbour knocked at the door of our new house to complain that we had a child and he was attracting other children to the area

I'm reasonably sure you must've moved next to my parents. That's exactly the type of complaint my father would make...

Andromeida59 · 30/08/2019 16:35

@educating take pictures of any damage, log all messages with the "friend", make a note of everything and contact environmental health.

YoTheGinPussyOfStMawesOnThigh · 30/08/2019 16:43

if we could remove our garden furniture in case anyone thought their neighbours might entertain people.
Perish the thought of anyone entertaining ‘people’.

tolerable · 30/08/2019 16:46

@Cherrysoup. ..i re-read it. ..im not always particularly good at sticking to one thought ..or expressing the millionty at once in a easy read fashion. pretty much i was leaning towards ..nonchallenge of mrs mcbatshit and applying a overdose of friendly if op felt inclined to react to it....

cleanasawhistle · 30/08/2019 16:50

My friend lived in a house next to a field.
Someone built a house right up behind my friends house with windows over looking.
They then added a large kennel and a few dogs that barked all day.
They then got a hot tub and wanted to sit in it every evening even in the rain while looking through my friends windows.

My friends husband is very handy and had made some noise outside one evening fixing something......the CF have recorded him and complained.They are that arrogant they dont think they bother anyone lol

Puppytooth · 30/08/2019 16:52

Pervert dogs, rude fence shadows and rogue apples, children drawing in all the other local children with their presence and people taking ownership over snow - I love this thread!
My one is my neighbour telling me I couldn’t cut down my overgrown tree branches as my other neighbours children (so two gardens away from him) would see through his first floor window every time they jumped on their trampoline Hmm Confused

JoanJettPack · 30/08/2019 16:55

My neighbour once knocked on my door and asked me to move my car so he could brush a puddle of rain into the gutter. I told him I was busy and he said that's ok, he'll move it for me and asked me for my keys. I gave him a funny look and a firm "NO". He also puts elastic bands around our gate because it rattles, apparently. We can't hear it. His wife must fucking hate him. He drives us crazy.

Dandelionrarrrr · 30/08/2019 17:00

My IL’s were requested to get carpet laid in their kitchen as they were too noisy when they walked around. Who has carpet in their kitchen?

FannyGall0ps · 30/08/2019 17:01

My neighbour once had a screaming fit at me because a fox had been run over in the road and crawled onto the bottom of my drive and died.

Apparently it was disgraceful of me to leave MY dead fox there and she could see it from her window and it was upsetting her dog!!!

I was tempted to carry it over to her drive and ditch it, then knock on her door and complain about HER dead fox.

I had already rung the council to get it removed, as being 8 months pregnant I was not about to scoop up a dead, decaying, leaking fox that just happened to die on the edge of my drive!!

lyralalala · 30/08/2019 17:05

A neighbour knocked at the door of our new house to complain that we had a child and he was attracting other children to the area

We have a lovely flat, grassy area at the end of our street. It attracts children to play on all the time. One of the neighbours started a campaign to have it plowed up to make it less attractive for the kids to play on.

They’ve lived here 50 years and brought up NINE children who all played on that grass over the years. Now they object to the kids playing as it’s apparently too noisy!

Apparently the lead the campaign to have it levelled and fences years ago to make it safer for the children to play on.

Rachelle11 · 30/08/2019 17:14

Our neighbour came over screaming at me one night that our dining room light had been bothering her for two years. She also said she'd watched my dh and I being inappropriate one night through the window. I can ssure you the most that has ever happened in our dining room is a hug. And after all that she accused us of spying on her and invading her privacy. She has blinds but doesn't want to close them. So we put up frosted glass and make a point to keep our curtains closed. She still hates us. When she had her old chimney removed she let workmen into our backyard and I had no idea until I saw people back there knocking bricks down. She used to fight with the owners on the other side until they moved, so now it's our turn. That side had construction for the next year though and I like to think she's preoccupied with that now. I've never seen anyone go into her home and people often ask us if her house has been abandoned. It's completely overgrown and had raccoons living in the roof for a year. I feel bad for her. Although the last time I saw her she called me a fucking bitch in front of my ds even though we have literally have nothing to do with her. Obviously she has mental health issues but it really makes me feel uneasy in my home when I run into her outside.

8misskitty8 · 30/08/2019 17:38

I was reported the council by a neighbour opposite as they could see my wheelie bin. They had sent a written complaint with photos of my house, drive and the wheelie bin.
The council wouldn’t tell me who it was but said if I get any bother from anyone opposite then to let them know as it would be considered harassment !

Whatisthisfuckery · 30/08/2019 17:51

I recently moved into a new flat. Out the front there are 4 parking spaces, one for each flat. They are not allocated. At the time there was a skip in one fo the spaces so someone had to park elsewhere.

Anyway, me and DP came back from shopping and parked in a free space. Half an hour later DP looked out of the window and NDN had parked across the back of DP’s car, blocking her in and blocking access for the other neighbours.

I knocked on NDN’s door but they’d gone out. DS said they’d gone to the park with their DS, who my DS is friends with. We had somewhere we needed to be so we had to go traipsing across the estate to the park to ask her to move it.

Cue her kicking off massively, ‘that’s my car park. I’ve lived here for six year. Your car park has the bin in it.’

I calmly pointed out the spaces aren’t allocated, so I’ve got as much right as she has to park. She wouldn’t have it. In the middle of the park, in front of everybody she got right up in my face, shouting at me and being aggressive. We videoed it, it’s quite something.

Anyway she came back to move the car. Cue another huge row where she’d moaned that when I’d moved in a few days previously the removals van had parked in another neighbour’s space, again, not allocated, and not even what she considers to be her space, so fuck all to do with her.

She’s fucking nuts, yet she’s lovely to any man who parks in her space that isn’t actually her space. Now I just try to avoid her. It’s a shame really because her DP is lovely.

Whatisthisfuckery · 30/08/2019 17:53

Oh, and the skip has gone now, and guess what? The space it was occupying is now occupied by my downstairs neighbours and the mine appears to be the one the other side of her car.

JustMe81 · 30/08/2019 18:08

We have a neighbour across the road but one house up if that makes sense. He’s obsessed with being able to drive up how drive rather than back in to the drive. Every time for the last 12 years that anyone has parked outside our drive he comes straight out to complain. We had a house fire in 2016, our whole house had to be renovated and we were in rental accommodation for 10 months with a baby. The building crews were very careful about not blocking the road after we told them he didn’t like it but he still complained. The best being at 9am, that he had to go out and wanted the van moved. He then didn’t leave until 3.30pm. Words were had. I’m sorry rebuilding my home is inconvenient for you, I’ll try to never do it again! Angry

SistersOfMerci · 30/08/2019 18:22

Whatisthisfuckery we had this in a house we used to live in. Day we moved in the batshit neighbours who we'd been told were lovely were outside as soon as the removal vans had gone.

They proceeded to instruct us how and where we were to park in the unallocated bays. We couldn't cope with all the batshittery after a few years hedge disputes because one neighbour let himself in and chopped our bush down to about a foot tall.

We now live in a house with alllocated bays and we still get cheeky fuckers trying to use them because the lady that used to live here allowed them to park there. I think the critical thinking gene is severely lacking in some people.