Not buying a wedding gift

[RiskItBiscuit]

This isn't about any particular situation but AIBU to only buy a couple getting married a card with something though out written inside and not buy a present as I can't afford it?

I'm going to a few weddings a year at the moment and I simply cannot afford to buy gifts.

Gosh I can’t believe some of the comments on here. A couple of people that attended my wedding didn’t buy a gift and I couldn’t have cared less. I invited them because I wanted them there not to see how much cash I could squeeze out of them. I’d rather someone turned up with nothing than some plastic mr and mrs tat.

Buy a nice card and a lottery ticket or scratch cards?

We had about 5 guests get us nothing but a card, and one couple gave us nothing, not even a card. I raised my eyebrows a little at the lack of gift but was fine with the card- the couple who gave us nothing, frankly rude. Even a tenner is fine, I think no gift is rude when you’ve been invited.

I think bottle of prosecco/M and S voucher/cinema voucher is a nice token and not that.

You will know your friends/family best. I would like to think most people would not care if you brought a gift.
You could print a nice picture of couple on Photobox or similar.
Look in local charity shops for nice vase, photo frame.
Or get a book you love and write a thoughtful inscription.
Little succulent plants are very in just now and only a few £ in Aldi and similar.
All less than £10.

Not really. I suppose you think the act of going out to buy said outfit is a fun day out too

Err yes? I love shopping especially for clothes.

And I made it very clear my post was not aimed at the OP. I have absolutely no idea what she is planning to wear.

I’m really curious. All the people saying ‘so-and-so came to my wedding and didn’t give a gift and I thought it was rude’, did you put the usual line in your invitation about how gifts are not expected/your presence is our present/blah blah blah?

It winds me up when people put that on their invites when it’s clear that they very much DO want a gift. I don’t expect gifts at my wedding and I genuinely mean it!

Completely agree with this @daisypond.

Peiple invite guests to an event to celebrate with them. You don't then 'pay them back' with an expensive gift because you gave up your valuable time to go and make their day special.

I do enjoy weddings but there is always a lot of expense involved from clothes to drinks to travel and babysitters for those where children are not invited. I think give as much as you can afford to money or gift wise but surely attending is more important than what you take with you.

One of our friends gave us a set of mugs with our wedding date on both, and Mr DogHasEatenTheSqueaker on his/Mrs DogHasEatenTheSqueaker on mine.

That was three years ago, and I'm drinking out of (his) right this minute, they still make me smile.

£15.99 on Prime, search 'personalised wedding mugs with names'