Would you like another woman taking over your kitchen?

[feellikeanoldbag]

Long story so won't bore you but a situation arose last week where one of my kids - all 4 kids still at home and over 25 - told me his Gf was cooking for us that evening - she'll only eat certain foods shall we say! Anyway, I became very unreasonably paralytic with rage (without showing it) as I didn't want another female controlling my kitchen. I don't mind anyone just helping a little but not taking full control. Have only told Dh who thinks I'm unhinged so he doesn't count but AIBU?

Yep. That's really odd. Go with it. Hide anything precious.

Cooking one meal isn’t controlling your kitchen.

I expect all my children to do their bit with cooking.

YABU and very strange and controlling.

It would depend whether I’d agreed and what she was doing in it. My brother would be just as likely to be doing the cooking as my sister.

another person wants to handle dinner? Awesome.

It's be bloody wonderful.

Women wonder why men don't treat them as equal.
Why is it your kitchen?

Yes, you're being ridiculous.

so 6 adults living in the house (plus boyfriends/girlfriends) and you don't let anyone else cook?

If it was “hey mum, GF would really like to cook for us all this evening, hope that’s ok” then YABU.

But I’m guessing you weren’t asked, you were told. Which would probably annoy me too.

Yes, I’d love it. As the sole person in charge of every single iota in my house It would feel like a lottery win

Some people pay lots of money for people to come to their house and cook for them

Paralytic with rage is a bit much. One meal isn't taking over, maybe she was trying to be nice because you've cooked for her?

I couldn't give less if a shit who cooked in my kitchen. It's a room full of stuff, not my kingdom.

I wouldn't want anyone sleeping in my bedroom and rearranging the furniture, but the kitchen, meh.

Sounds like she’s really making an effort and wants you to like her - it’s a lot of trouble to go to and she’s probably quite embarrassed about her food preferences and thinks she’s imposing if you have to cook for her

I’d be quite happy to be honest but then I dislike cooking

Well I’m with your dh tbh! Bit unhinged

Why does it mater another female cooked in your kitchen?? Does it only bother you if someone with a vagina uses the kitchen?

Maybe she thought she was being nice and is trying to make an effort with her bf family....what a bitch 🙄

Offering is lovely. Telling, not so lovely. Also I hope the kitchen was cleared away afterwards and not left for you.

Yabu. YabWeird. YabUnwelcoming. YabLots of things, none of them good.

You sound really controlling. She’s trying to do something nice. You sound ungrateful and unwelcoming.

You are completely unhinged. I’d pay another female (or Male, I really don’t care) to take over my kitchen if I had the spare money.

Wouldn’t bother me one iota. Woman, man, cat if they want to cook my dinner while I relax - brilliant. My only proviso being they did washing and clearing up as well. I love cooking, but it’s a real treat if someone cooks a meal for me.

You infer she’s fussy when it comes to food. Maybe she’s picked up on your annoyance about this and thought if she said she would make dinner it would be East’s

It’s not ‘my’ kitchen became DP does most of the cooking, but if someone else wanted to cook for us, in our kitchen, we would open a bottle of wine, put our feet up and say ‘crack on, mate!’

Easiest not East

YABU and very odd!