Would you like another woman taking over your kitchen?

[feellikeanoldbag]

Long story so won't bore you but a situation arose last week where one of my kids - all 4 kids still at home and over 25 - told me his Gf was cooking for us that evening - she'll only eat certain foods shall we say! Anyway, I became very unreasonably paralytic with rage (without showing it) as I didn't want another female controlling my kitchen. I don't mind anyone just helping a little but not taking full control. Have only told Dh who thinks I'm unhinged so he doesn't count but AIBU?

You know about it and she’s cooking the meal from scratch so I don’t see an issue. If it was a case of her wandering into your kitchen whilst you are cooking and lowering the oven and hobs down and just generally interfering and fucking everything up then I could understand you being paralytic with rage!!

Send her to my house I'll welcome her with open arms to cook for me!

Thank you so much for your replies. The post was meant sort of tongue in cheek so my bad if it didn't come across that way.
It is my first post and has proven to be an interesting experience whereby total strangers feel that they can in some cases be insulting and demonstrates the way our society has changed. I am not unhinged - it was a joke -or jealous and will never be a MIL from hell as I had one of those myself. Thank you once again for taking you time to answer but I think it's best to stop this post now x

Are you sure it’s not something else? Like the fact it’s your sons girlfriend who’s cooking? And you don’t like the fact someone else can look after him too?

Jealous? Nose put out of joint a tad?

How ridiculously absurd. My mother in law is like this so we have to eat her horrendous attempts at cooking rather than any of the 6 other people in the family (or the dog) who could do a better job being allowed to do it.

Sounds like she just wants to do something nice and impress her boyfriends parents.
I wouldn't mind in the slightest.

why is a kitchen only for women?

The post was meant sort of tongue in cheek

I'm sorry you found out the hard way that the days of any lightheartedness in AIBU are long-gone.

Hope you enjoy the meal, and the chance to put your feet up for a change.

Sooooo not unreasonable! I hate anyone cooking in my kitchen 😂 I understand this is probably my issue though 🙈

Sorry but I dont believe it was tongue in cheek at all.

Why would your husband have that opinion?

Surely there would be an obvious joke in there.

And given someone on this thread, felt this way when their step daughter cooked, it obviously happens.

To be honest with use of 'female in my kitchen's think it was goady. Rather than, lighthearted.

Well yes, your bad for very much failing to convey the ‘joke’. And if you choose to take responses to your post as indicative of the problem with modern society because you didn’t convey the ‘joke’ then that too is on you.
For the record, if my grown up children live with me and don’t cook I will think I’ve failed.

Maybe she really wants to impress you and for you to like her? Maybe your son phrased it wrongly, more telling than asking you? My mother always takes over my kitchen when she comes, I actually have to banish her to the living room, it comes from a good place she just loves cooking for her kids. She like you can be territorial over her kitchen but that is more because she prefers people to was up alongside cooking not stacking the sink full of pans, she also expects whowever cooks cleaned up after themselves. She does actually enjoy it if you cook for her as long as the kitchen isn't left a tip for her ( totally reasonable). Give her a chance!

Didn’t read tongue in cheek at all. Probably your own fault for not conveying the ‘joke’. You did read entirely unhinged.

Yab completely u and weird.

Please send her to my house

I am not unhinged - it was a joke -or jealous and will never be a MIL from hell as I had one of those myself.

Unfortunately the ‘joke’ element didn’t come across at all.

Sounds fantastic. She can be my DIL.

Wouldn't bother me at all but Mils kitchen you wouldn't dare help yourself to a glass of water, even dh can't. So I know some people are very territorial over their kitchens

Never a truer word said in jest OP...

1950 called and it wants you back

Congratulations on your tongue in cheek fail. There are many women who buy into the gender stereotype that the kitchen is their domain, so it isn’t surprising that many posters took your post at face value. In addition, devastated, raging are extreme terms that are frequently used to describe the most banal situations.

What was the point of this thread exactly?

"another female"

I don’t get it. So you weren’t really cross? Why start the thread then?!

Unhinged is probably the right word for it!

Do you live in the 1950s!?

Is it you don't want another female controlling the kitchen OR the fact it's your sons girlfriend?

My MIL was like this when I first got with my partner she couldn't face me doing anything for him, the wimp.

Where's the joke? Nope. You just don't like that people don't agree with you. As for 'the way our society has changed'... 'female'?