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Asked to keep toddler quiet

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Jellytots321 · 25/08/2019 09:04

So I recently stayed in a holiday cottage attached to some other holiday cottages.

Unfortunaly the first morning we were there my toddler started to cut a tooth. He was crying on and off for about 30 minutes from about 7. We then left to go out for the day at 8am. Whilst on the way to our car I was approached by the owner and asked to keep the noise down. I explained the situation and she replied that I shouldn't have booked it I knew he would make noise (he was included on the booking and the site says children welcome). I left a bad review saying not to book if you have babies or toddlers as they will be expected not to cry. They replied with a smug reply saying thank you for responding to our request as there was no more disturbance for the rest of the trip (yeah his tooth came through so he stopped crying!). I apologised in my review for disturbance to other guests and suggested that instead of telling us to keep him quiet they could have asked if we needed any help. Someone else reviewed the day after saying that children are welcome you just need to be respectful of other guests. I was being respectful hence leaving at 8am and not 11am like planned. Aibu for leaving that review or feeling like I should be expected to magically stop a 1 year old from crying? I would understand if it was adults making noise but I was doing everything I could to comfort him!

OP posts:
Lovebeingmama · 26/08/2019 18:11

You weren’t unreasonable to leave the review. It was listed as family friendly and we are in the kids holiday period. The noise caused by the crying wasn’t within your control, you did your best to manage and left early to make it easier for others.
I really wouldn’t give it another moments thought x

Jack80 · 26/08/2019 18:14

I think the owner could have asked you the next was everything ok with your baby instead of having a go, babies cry and it's not like it was for ages and in the middle of the night. I would have personally messaged the owner instead of putting a public review but it was how you felt.

MrsRufusdog789 · 26/08/2019 18:24

The owners of the property absolutely deserved the bad review you gave . A toddler cutting a tooth- it’s so painful for one and your child was in a strange place to boot . If I read the snide response of the property owner it would put me off booking with them . So they have done themselves no favours . Take comfort in that . Never ceases to amaze me that people seem to forget what it’s like being a small child . Maybe they cut out that stage and fell to earth fully formed ? That’s my stock response when people are sniffy with small children whether I’m related to the child or not . By the way was your rental owned by anyone names Fawlty ?

ToftyAC · 26/08/2019 18:29

Yanbu. I’d have left a shitty 1 out of 5

Jeeperscreepers69 · 26/08/2019 18:29

Was wondering that myself

WithTwoGiantBoys · 26/08/2019 18:33

"We just trained our children to sleep later" is one of my all time favourite bits of mumsnet bingo. Often paired with "We just set the groclock a bit later so they stay in bed"

Some people have so little understanding of anything outside of their own experience!

MrsC45 · 26/08/2019 18:35

Jesus. Half an hour of crying, once, in the course of a (week? weekend?) holiday! I like peace and quite but I wouldn't complain about a baby crying and I wouldn't complain about a mere 30 minutes of noise. Get a life. They deserved a bad review. Clearly they aren't family friendly and how on earth can you be expected to plan breaks around no teething, or other minor ailments!

Chocolate50 · 26/08/2019 18:38

I agree with you leaving a bad review the owner was rude. If I'm going on holiday & there are other people next door unless they're partying & shagging loudly ( this has happened before which was really embarrassing)- you have to accept children's noises.
Although I can raise you - my DD2 was banned from the GP surgery at 3 years old - that's quite an achievement! I wouldn't worry about it just don't go back there.
And name them - we can all avoid them!

Jeeperscreepers69 · 26/08/2019 18:38

Other guests must of complained. He had to say something. 7am is a crap time to be woken on holiday. Teething is best left at home 😭

Asteve15 · 26/08/2019 18:42

I honesty think the owner has been outrageous, if it hadn’t said families welcome I would maybe have thought differently and honestly pre child I probably wouldn’t have been happy but then I wouldn’t have booked a family place in the middle of the summer holidays. I’ve been on holiday many a time and people’s kids have been left to run riot and carry on, now that’s a different story but babies and toddlers cry, that’s what they do, I’m sure you weren’t enjoying listening to your toddler crying in pain. I don’t think the owner should have said anything to you and she should have been more understanding that you were all having a difficult time on your holiday x

Dylaninthemovies1 · 26/08/2019 18:44

7am ??!!! It’s not exactly the middle of the night. They need to get over themselves.

Latkes · 26/08/2019 18:48

I think the owner had no business complaining to you about your screaming toddler. And I think leaving a review about it was quite justified. Other parents with babies or toddlers need to know that it could be stressful staying there.
If the owner was concerned for your child’s well being she could have just asked you if everything’s ok.
Other guests should know that if they book an attached holiday cottage, that there’s always the risk of annoyance of noise from the other properties. I don’t have little kids any more and would have the good sense to book a detached property if I wanted to guarantee i wasn’t going to hear noise from other families.

Dylaninthemovies1 · 26/08/2019 18:48

TrAining your child to sleep to 9am. That’s hilarious.

My son sleeps in most weekends (he’s 3), but I have friends with kids of similar age who are up at 4am. I’d like to pat myself on the back for my superior parenting, but I know it’s just sheer luck

gilliansgardenbench · 26/08/2019 18:49

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gluteustothemaximus · 26/08/2019 18:53

I’d like to pat myself on the back for my superior parenting, but I know it’s just sheer luck

Exactly.

And with teething, we did calpol and neurofen, and teething granules, and bonjela and anbesol and every other thing out there. He still screamed for hours, for months.

MrsRufusdog789 · 26/08/2019 18:55

Some of the posts on here can’t be from Mums surely? When you book a holiday there’s no guarantee that a child won’t either fall ill or cut a tooth . I’ve already said what I think about the owners of the rental property but some of the commentators on here seem to have missed the point - lost the plot- have no empathy . Confused

OldSpeclkledHen · 26/08/2019 18:58

Eurgh, no one else wants to listen to someone else's kid griping/grisling/crying.

pipnchops · 26/08/2019 18:59

YANBU I think it's right you should warn others with young children that the place you stayed isn't appropriate. We stayed next to a family with a baby on our honeymoon, it just seemed to be always crying. Even though this was before I had children myself, at no point did I feel like telling them to be quiet because everyone knows that if a baby wants to cry it will cry.

spanglydangly · 26/08/2019 19:04

Other guests must of complained. He had to say something. 7am is a crap time to be woken on holiday. Teething is best left at home 😭

I'm very hungover tired is this comment meant or tongue in cheek? @Jeeperscreepers69

If it's meant it's the most ridiculous comment I've read on MN, if it's tongue in cheek I apologise for my stupidity.

spanglydangly · 26/08/2019 19:10

@CarolineKate you did nothing wrong
, although you're a better person than me! My review would've been much harsher.

ThisHereMamaBear · 26/08/2019 19:15

Yanbu, it's not like you can calm a crying baby down all the time, easily. I'm not sure why people would complain about this, i'd just roll over feeling smug it wasn't my child waking me up. I had something similar on a park and ride bus. My ds, 10 months was loving his bus ride, laughing and squealing. A man behind said "shhhh" to him. I turned round expecting a smile but he looked furious!

ThisHereMamaBear · 26/08/2019 19:30

@angell84 put some head phones on. I think it's hideous people asked to be moved. The mum probably wasnt oblivious to it, she was probably embarrassed by all your snidey looks and comments

Bahhhhhumbug · 26/08/2019 19:31

So was he not teething for the rest of the holiday at all after the half an hour that morning? You said he didn't cry anymore because he wasn't teething anymore ( in reply to the owner pointing this out) l can understand him thinking it was because he said something tbf.
Also it's possibly the fact it was the first morning that prompted the owner to say something as another guest could have complained and he/they thought they would have to put up with the whole of the rest of their holiday.

bobsyourauntie · 26/08/2019 19:33

YANBU. Yes it might be annoying, but if they allow kids into the properties, then they must expect some noise, as must the other guests who book.

People really are batshit these days aren't they.

FrogLion · 26/08/2019 19:33

If they wanted peace and quiet they should have booked a detached cottage! And not a family friendly place! Ridiculous complaint.

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