Aibu on flight

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I was on an plane today. Family of four were travelling. One child with father in the seat in front of me and mother with another child in the seat behind me. Children were shouting, beeping a fictitious horn, making motor noises all through the flight. The parents were tickling them and making them squeal with laughter. It was a plane full of children and this family was noisy throughout the flight. All the other children had settled down in some time.

After the fifth time the child with the mother had got up on his seat and squealed in my ear I turned around and said SSSh quiet to the child.

The mother used profanities, showed me the finger and told me her child was only two.

Was I wrong to address the child when the parents were not taking any efforts to settle the children?

This thread is going craaazy

It does seem like there is no universally accepted standards of behaviour and good manners anymore. How the hell have we got to be such a bad mannered and antisocial country? It does seem to be just ours, I’ve never witnessed that sort of behaviour, and defence of it in any other nations.

To my mind, if you think that that 2 year old’s behaviour is acceptable and that other passengers should put up with it and how very dare they tell them to shush, well, you shouldn’t even be on plane or other confined travelling space yourself until your social skills reach a much higher level. You really should be demonstrating to your children what is and what isn’t socially acceptable and that your wants come above everybody else’s needs.

*that your wants DON’T come above everybody else’s needs

as for swearing at the OP. Well, it says it all really. She may not have agreed with what the OP had done but an adult with adequate social skillls and manners would have had an exchange discussing it which didn’t involve such uncouth, scummy behaviour.

What the fuck is wrong with people? Listen to yourselves. Sssshhing a screaming child caused its mother to launch profanities at a fellow passenger? Christ, I'm glad we don't allow people to carry firearms in this country.

Ywnbu

@Aridane sorry. It says more about my lack of sleep than you’re post. Reading it back now I get it. Think I need more

There is a special and all too common breed of parent who travels on public transport. They arrive with child sleeping, but not for long. Child is woken up to be poked at, pulled around, have fuck stupid noises made at. If I was a child and some idiot woke me up from a lovely nap for a rousing chorus of The Wheels on the Bus I would kick off big time. Likewise some cunt tickling me and driving me nuts on a plane. It’s the loathsome parents who are to blame not the children who have been taught no better. I doubt that child will be in therapy for the rest of their life over a little shh.

If it was an adult she’d have used some words, like, “could you be a bit quieter please”, or “you are shouting in my ear”
But she wasn’t dealing with an adult!

There should be child free sections on aircraft. You were right to speak up

I agree Oscarsdaddy. Thing is with self check in it would never work. The sneaky buggers would be booking into the adults only area.

One in front one behind, could you have swapped backwards.
Either talk to the parents or complain to staff. It's odd to ask the child when parents are there. Although a mum once asked me to tell her child off as he wouldn't get off a train. (thought that was odd though)

I’d be more concerned that the parent thought it was okay to use profanities and rude signs in front of her child!

That’s really lax parenting.

Noisy kids that are laughing are okay. They are young, they are bored. Crazy mad chaos is another and that’s on the parents.

Absolutely awful OP! I would have been so fuming - bloody kids - why can't the parents keep them quiet? I always make sure I have a jumbo pack of ear plugs on ANY flight these days!

Of course it's fine to shh someone else's child or ask them not to do something that is bothering you.

Posters who would be moved to aggression if this were their child are psychos imo

OP- just to let you know if a child shouts in my ear I tell them to shush too. It is an instinctive response.

I suffer from misophonia, easy way to explain it is that noise gives me the rage - "shush" is the polite inner voice coming out.

If the mother swore at me, the less polite inner voice may just have surfaced too...

I don't think you were wrong, The child will learn that it isn't always acceptable to make a lot of noise or get so close to a stranger and shout at them. You said shh to the child. You didn't swear at it which some may have done. I guess the mum was reacting in embarrassment maybe. She should have been more aware of the people around her and it would have been polite of her to occupy the children with quieter activities rather than over exciting them.It was nice the parents were paying attention to their children but there were other people to consider.

Children should be seen and not heard. Doesn't matter what age they are. Control them. OP you were right to sush them well done. Some people have no respect. Lower escellons of society.

Some parents, for reasons unfathomable, are not bothered in the slightest by their kids shitty behaviour affecting other people and actually believe they have some divine right to subject the general public to it because “they’re kids, what do you expect”. I would be completely mortified. There is however a difference between this and a desperate mother trying to console her toddler on a plane, train, etc. I have nothing but sympathy for them.

Op, no problem with what you did at all.

DS1 was on a budget airline flight recently coming back from a trip with about 20 other soldiers. They were all scattered about the plane, he had an aisle seat next to a man who he found out was a father because his children kept coming up to speak to him. They were leaning across DS1, who hates kids, so he asked the man if he'd like to swap seats to make it easier and the man said no. So DS1 asked him, politely, to stop his children leaning across him because he wanted to go to sleep. He couldn't do that either. Some people are just shit at parenting.

YWNBU

You shushed a stranger's two year old. Yes yabu. Massively so.