Aibu on flight

[perroy]

I was on an plane today. Family of four were travelling. One child with father in the seat in front of me and mother with another child in the seat behind me. Children were shouting, beeping a fictitious horn, making motor noises all through the flight. The parents were tickling them and making them squeal with laughter. It was a plane full of children and this family was noisy throughout the flight. All the other children had settled down in some time.

After the fifth time the child with the mother had got up on his seat and squealed in my ear I turned around and said SSSh quiet to the child.

The mother used profanities, showed me the finger and told me her child was only two.

Was I wrong to address the child when the parents were not taking any efforts to settle the children?

I think YWU to tell a very small child off when the parent was encouraging their behaviour. The toddler didn’t know better and it’s parent was winding it up

an older child who would know better - fine!, but not a toddler.

I think you were completely reasonable, it should have been up to the parent to keep their child quiet but unfortunately there’s some rubbish and really ignorant people out there :(

I don't know how I feel about this. Yes it's annoying but a 2 year old gets bored quite quickly. Lucky enough my DD and DS always falls asleep as we take off this has been since they was 6minth old but I. It's admitt my first ever flight coming home my little girl became poorly and screameeedddd the whole way so I probably peed everyone off an my little boy got restless as we was seeing to the baby. Other passengers just talked to him and made convo this settled him an he eventually just sat colouring. Maybe you could if just talked to the child and calmed it down from been so hyper an asked did they have a nice holiday etc then made a sly comment how you've a headache to the mother lol suttle an May of worked an had no abuse x

It puzzles me about kids on flights and how noisy they can be (more so with iPads on full belt) and the parent just sit relaxed not giving 2 shits about anyone else.

What would happen if an adult played a movie with volume that had swearing/ over18? I'm sure said parents would have a lot to say. bastards

You did nothing wrong OP!

I give up. Believe what you want. This woman has evilly plotted this holiday just to take her minions on a plane and torture OP.

It's not possible they were just playing and giggling loudly to stop a 2 year old from crying and shrieking in boredom.

No point trying to defend the indefensible of a 2 year old laughing these days. 🤷

No point trying to defend a fictional scenario you've made up that bears little resemblance to anything the OP actually said, no.

Do 2 year olds go to school where you are from?

A family of 4 with 2 children... one aged 2, the other sounds older, unless they are twins I’d assume the other is nursery age at least so they’d have to holiday in school hols.

Lets face it - our own kids are great, the best - everyone wants to listen to them singing and performing. But other people's children are a complete pain in the butt. If we're being honest.

The parents were being inconsiderate. I'd have made sure mine hadn't screamed in your ear and I'd have apologised if they did - unless you "shhhhhh"ed them, that would've pissed me off.

No your not wrong not at all.

You don't have to holiday in school holidays with a nursery age child. And anyway, its not really a valid point, even when I had children of that age, I still don't want to be on a flight with children of any age that aren't behaving appropriately or being suitably controlled. A child who is distressed and crying is understandable and whilst it's annoying, i'd be sympathetic. this scenario is entirtely different, the parent was making no effort to teach her child appropriate behaviour and instead was encouraging the exact opposite.

I have 2 DC 13 months apart and have traveled with them on my own. I'm not saying it's always easy, but I didn't encourage them to scream and wind them up in an enclosed public space. Would I chase them around making them laugh and squeal at home or in a noisy park? Yes, probably. On a flight? Of course not, I'm not a dick!

Not sure anyone’s mentioned it but the child could have early onset dementia so YABU.

In the real world rather than MN land YANBU!

I think YWU to tell a very small child off when the parent was encouraging their behaviour. The toddler didn’t know better and it’s parent was winding it up

This - you should have approached the parents not the child 🙄

No wonder there are so many misbehaving little brats running around when there are parents with the attitude of 'tell my kid to stop bothering you when they're being rude and obnoxious and I'll kill you'. Get a grip, parent your brats and then other people won't have to.

www.express.co.uk/videos/6054203465001/Child-JUMPS-on-plane-tray-table-during-flight

Like other posters I would have bared my teeth like a rabid dog and done given the evil eyes to the child.
Recently on a plane where a child was jumping on his seat sticking his hand through the seat and popping his head over into my row. Not for long ...

The parents were at fault. They probably could not have done much about a lively two year old but it would have been good manners to have signalled to you ( in an eye roll or something) that they knew it was a problem and were trying to deal with it. I had one quiet child and one lively one and I would never have allowed other parents to see me colluding with naughtiness. It’s just the adult code.

These parents do not understand ‘the code’ , nor do they understand common politeness. Perhaps the solution is to find really middle class holiday destinations. We noticed that, when we flew to Venice, that the few kids on the flights were always perfectly behaved and policed by interested and well mannered parents. In eleven flights I never raised so much as an eyebrow at the children’s behaviour.

Of course it was fine. Kids listen when adults other than their parents tell them off, you were doing her a favour.

I always used to take earplugs and a headset on flights because there is always someone to piss you off. Go prepared next time.

I'm just waiting for mumsy to come back ♥️♥️

Always thought I had a lethal glare 🙄

I think the OP was rude, not for addressing the child but in the way she chose to do it. If it was an adult she’d have used some words, like, “could you be a bit quieter please”, or “you are shouting in my ear”, the problem here is she chose to be rude and shhhhh at her.