It's just oranges. I need to let it go. Why am I so pissed off??

[NoDontLookAtMeImShy]

DS (8) ate 4 oranges a couple of weeks ago.
Bought some more, I told him not to eat 4, so he took the whole packet and said he would eat 5

He refused to put them back, I confiscated his phone he had a tantrum that I haven't seen since he was 3.

Roll on 3 weeks and I bought some oranges an hour ago.
We all like the bloody oranges.
I go up stairs to settle the baby, come back down and he's eaten all of them.

I was supposed to take him to the park for ice cream but now I'm so livid he's in his room and I said no to park and ice cream because he's been selfish.

But it's just oranges, I should let it go shouldn't I?

We were all looking forward to getting out and enjoying the sun. I'm just so pissed off with him doing whatever the fuck he pleases.

PinkArsedFly OP, you need to tell him that oranges are not the only fruit.

This is the kind of thing DS1 does, OP, it is maddening.

Tell him

'Oranges are not the only fruit'

My kids go on weird tangents several times a year; one will have a particularly good orange that they love and eat oranges non-stop; the other will remember they love tinned sardines and eat them non-stop.

I don't get too involved in their food choices (so long as they're generally healthy). I can buy more fruit and yes, I do distinguish between fruit and cake, for example, or something I've made for dinner.

'Oranges are not the only fruit'

Nice one.

Buy them more often he obviously loves them and maybe he’s craving vitamin C.

So, just to be clear. You buy something for the family to share. One family member knowingly eats all of it, whatever it is, so there’s none left for anyone else. And you’re perfectly fine with that?

Yanbu at all OP and not overreacting. Your boy was greedy, selfish and deliberately disobedient.
And I’m pleased you came to a solution that didn’t punish everyone and also showed him a clear consequence.
I can’t believe the amount of idiots on here saying it’s just fruit so you should buy him more when he basically steals it from the rest of the family. Bet their kids are selfish and greedy.

Your right it’s greedy selfish disobedience.

It’s greedy, never mind if it’s oranges or a whole box of Jaffa cakes.

Buy more oranges. He’ll eventually get the shits & learn

Most mothers would be delighted he’s gorging on oranges. He’s not eating biscuits or chocolate. I would be encouraging him in your position. However he really shouldn’t have a phone at 8.
Sounds like he is jealous of the baby too. Could you spend some extra time with him? You sound quite negative towards him generally.

“I would be encouraging him in your position.”

What- to deliberately take more than his share of things?

Buy more oranges. You’re being unreasonable. He can’t help being hungry. Don’t be cruel! At least it’s fruit and not sweets or something!

What is a ‘fair share’ of oranges? If he wants lots of fruit let him have it. It’s not expensive to buy little oranges. I’d agree if it were doughnuts. He sounds like he needs vit C

Buy more oranges - one net for him, one net for everyone else. It can be his "thing"

If OP buys two bags of oranges, won't he then just eat two bags instead of one? More fruit is not the solution to selfish behaviour.

This thread clearly highlights why so many children are selfish, entitled little sods.

The point is he was asked/told not to do it and he ignored that and did it again in a “fuck you” manner. The fact that he was getting his five a day is totally irrelevant. If he thinks it’s ok to do with one thing he’ll do it with whatever he likes.

And again it’s an iPod not a phone. Not that that’s in any way relevant.

Some of the replies on here are bonkers. He's purposely being disobedient, making sure no one else gets to eat the oranges and being a greedy little piggy but it's only fruit and he probably needs the Vitamin C 😂 Bonkers.

Swap the oranges for money then you get a sense of the situation.

This is one of those threads where I think there must be two universes.

It doesn't matter what he ate or its value, he is flat out disobeying you and that is the issue so you're not being unreasonable.

Actually for me the disobedience is the least of the issues. By 8 a NT child should know that family food is family food and to be shared.

This would irritate me as it is greedy and he knows they are for everyone.

How about making him a daily snack-box in plastic lunch box size container and put fruit and biscuits and crisps or whatever you would like him to snack on in there. Tell him if he needs more snacks he needs to ask you and not help himself.

This is one of those threads where I think there must be two universes.
I actually thought last night, there are two types of people on this thread and never ever ever ever the twain shall meet!!!

I would tell him you bought some ‘insert favourite food here’ but then got hungry and ate the lot. Then if he gets upset I’d say ‘but I bought some more! .........but then daddy found them and ate them all’.

I’d then say that he’s upset because you’d bought something for everyone to enjoy but it’s not fair that you ate it. Just like when he eats the oranges. I’d then give him one from behind my back and say that you like to share and you couldn’t ever eat all of something knowing that someone else liked it too.

I’d also try and spend some more quality time with him where possible. Housework is not as important. He’s acting up by knowingly doing something that will get him attention one way or another. He has to learn to share you a bit, but he shouldn’t have to act up to get any attention.