To re-wash the clothes because I didn't take them out of the washing machine straight away?

[augustagain]

Once again, I didn't hear the washing machine cycle finish and the clothes must have been lying there for between 1/2 hour to 1 hour.

I must start setting a timer or buy a decent washing machine with a persistent alarm!

I am now re-washing the clothes before putting them in the dryer. Sick of the creases and I never iron.

You okay hun?

Seriously it is not normal to get this bothered by laundry. I think you need to examine your feelings a bit more closely.

You haven't failed, most people let their washing sit in the machine for a while before drying it. I put mine on at bed time and unload it in the morning. I don't use a tumble dryer, and don't have a washing line, I just dry on hangers and airers indoors. I virtually never iron either, the creases drop out as stuff dries.

Chill forget the laundry and focus on more important stuff!

@augustagain It's hard to explain. It's not like I thought they'd smell. It's more like I am annoyed with myself for failing yet again and I want to get something right. So I do it all again and force myself to get the washing out in time next cycle.

When you put it like this I think I totally get where you’re coming from, is your thinking “I’ll start again and this time I’ll get it “right”?

Go easy on yourself, and given that it sounds like you’re stressed about something, whether it’s washing or otherwise, you’ve taken this thread where we’ve pretty much all told you that you’re a wee bit crazy, in really good humour

On a related note, I tumble dry just as much in summer because of my husbands hay fever - if you hang things outside to dry the pollen sticks to them and comes inside with them. His hay fever has massively improved since we’ve started drying solely indoors. We do as much as we can on an airer but do need to use the tumble dryer too.

I don't own a tumble dryer despite living in Scotland. We have 2 airers and the whirlie outside

When you put it like this I think I totally get where you’re coming from, is your thinking “I’ll start again and this time I’ll get it “right”?

Yes this is it exactly this is my thought process - No idea why I get like this!

It's probably just as well that you don't have a line for drying - just imagine the meltdown if you left them out all night and they were 'darked on' with spiders and other insects skittering across the washing

Dryers are like big irons - they do the ironing for you. All you have to do is to put your timer on your phone so you know to go back there before the clothes settle in the bottom of the dryer after the cycle is finished.

Washing can stay in the machine for ages - it's never going to make your clothes creased to stay there wet. Clothes are like your hair - they attain their finished shape when they become dry, not when they are wet.

Silvery

Thanks, Shipping I think I am finally getting it that the wet washing doesn't matter - it's all about the dryer. I am silly! I feel calmer this morning...

Have you ever read the adult diagnosis criteria for ADHD? Possibly the inattentive variant.

Only you sound like where I was 5 years ago.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention_deficit_hyperactivity_disorder_predominantly_inattentive

Thanks, Bertie - off to read that. It's strange - over the last year or two I've been mentioned on and off to DH I feel I have ADHD inattentive! I work from home and OMG trying to buckle down and get on with my work without distractions is so, so, so hard. I make it harder by trying to get housework done in the middle of that. Then, on the rare occasion I DO get absorbed in a task I can go on and on with it and hate to be interrupted. Will even miss meals in order to continue.

www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/creative-synthesis/201801/how-adhd-adults-cope-treatment

This article is ringing bells for me too.

Wow - that article has just given me chills.

Being diagnosed changed my life although medication doesn't do a lot for me.

I have thought about looking into that further (being diagnosed). I wonder how to go about it? I keep thinking I'm too old now for it to make a difference (fifties), to not wanting to take medication as I already take meds for two chronic health conditions. I go round and round and round and my life stays the same. So many things I want to do and abandoned projects.

The not wanting to be committed to anything that article mentioned is so me. I didn't get a home until I was 40. Just didn't want to be saddled with a mortgage. Never seemed to want what other people wanted - children, mortgage, etc. I only got the house I have because I was going to be homeless and the mortgage is cheaper than rent where I live. Felt trapped and depressed by it though! Not normal?

I have another thread where I mention I don't check my bank statements and let my DH handle it all. Our finances have been in a mess for years but I just can't face getting a handle on it.

Bertie It is interesting that you say being diagnosed has changed your life, even without medication doing much. Does that mean you now have coping strategies as a result of understanding yourself better?

Yes, I do.

I didn't get diagnosed in the UK but this is the guide to how to request assessment: aadduk.org/faq/

I should add my life is not that changed - I still can't drive, still don't have a full time job (though I think I could, now), still exhausted after one day of doing "stuff" requiring 1.5 days to recover, still frustrate myself sometimes to tears (although the tears response is much, much less frequent and I am far more forgiving) about washing I find in the machine 3 days later, still about to deliver my sister's birthday present 6 months late, although I was extremely pleased with myself for buying it only a week or so after her actual birthday this year.

DH is probably less likely to divorce me due to my pigsty tendencies now and I've found I feel slightly frustrated/annoyed at friends being faffy and late because I've got so much better at that myself.

I did try to use the "ADHD friendly techniques" before diagnosis but often felt self-doubt or like a fraud. I feel more confident to join in discussions online or look at how strategies can help me now.

Russell Barkley, How To ADHD, Understood.org and various tracking apps are my best tools.

Good lord what a waste of water and power.
I`ve left mine in hours and hours.
They smell clean so not needing to re-do.

You can’t possibly be genuine. I refuse to believe anyone is nuts enough to rewash a load purely because you didn’t get it out on the line within an hour 😂

Bertie Thank you so much for those tips and websites. That's very kind of you Glad things are better for you. I really need to get a grip on myself and do what I can to effect changes. Would make my DH's life easier too!

Driving - that's something I haven't learned to do yet. Twice DH has tried to teach me. It's gone well, but then I lose interest. I have a little car outside he found specially for me and after a few weeks of learning to drive, I haven't touched it again - that was three years ago...ahem! Just can't sustain my interest long enough to continue with learning.

I am determined that this autumn I will achieve and finish something. Anything!!!!! Maybe even the washing

I refuse to believe anyone is nuts enough to rewash a load purely because you didn’t get it out on the line within an hour

It's a beautiful morning in Ayrshire this morning!
I might rewash if I've accidentally left overnight and they've started to smell, but not after a couple of hours!

I get you @augustagian. I perhaps would not wash again if the washing had only been left an hour but any longer and the load will start to smell fusty!!

I've even thought about a washer/dryer but of course I really would have to make sure I got it all out at the end.