SC want to come on our honeymoon

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Firstly, I really do have a good relationship with my SC. And with all the drama going on surrounding a certain thread at the moment I'll mention that they are coming to our wedding and have been included in the whole process (like they are with everything).

We get married in a few months and are planning a honeymoon for next year. Older SC asked us if we were going anywhere and H told them what we had planned. Younger SC is now saying they want to come with us. H has said it's for grown ups really but we will do something together. They seem upset about this.

Are we being unreasonable saying no? We will take them somewhere as well but I would enjoy a honeymoon just me and H. I do know some families who have taken children on theirs.

Fwiw, it will not affect their mum in terms of childcare. Hs parents have said they will take them away for our days to Wales/ somewhere similar and they enjoy seeing their grandparents.

Will this pass do you think? I feel a bit awful!

In that case why can’t the SC go?

Why do they have to?

You’re not being unreasonable

A honeymoon can be when ever you want it to be as it’s just a holiday really

In that case why can’t the SC go?

Context ^^

Take your honeymoon and enjoy it!

DH and I blended our families (3 DC altogether, 2 are mine, 1 his) and while I love them all massively, I do regret not taking a week or two away just me and DH.

You might not get another chance to go away as a couple until they leave home 😱

YANBU with bells on! My husband and I got married after having our children and we still went on honeymoon without them Thus sounds like a serious case of FOMO to me but don't give in.

"It’s different when children are involved as tradition has obviously already gone out of the window."

Very few people stayed Widowed, in generations past. So there have always been existing children. We used to give our children to more established relatives to raise," farm them out" etc. When the Old Age Pension was started, very often the Grandmother would take the older Girls, because they had a steady income.

Previous generations didn't bring their children up in the way we do, teenagers didn't exsist, they were young Adults put out to work.

From around the 90's, we've been the first generations to be expected to be all things to our children and not have a private life once they came along.

My Parents, in the 60's (and their peer group) went on holidays by themselves, you didn't question it. The only reason why others didn't was because of income.

I did, without my now Adult children and my DD has. You don't need to justify it.

As for the Caribbean vs Butlins. The children would have a better time in butlins.

You can still have destination holidays as a couple. Even if the children are Step Children.

The timing of the honeymoon is irrelevant (sounds like it'll be before their first anniversary so they'll still be recently married) - the OP is entitled to enjoy an adult holiday doing adult activities in celebration of her marriage.

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