Does anyone like their MIL?!

[cinnamoned]

A bit lighthearted really, I get the impression that many people on here can’t stand their MILs and I was just thinking, if my DH thought those things about my mother, or didn’t want my mother to come for Christmas, I would be upset. So I suppose I always said I would be kind to my MIL from the get go.

AIBU to ask if anyone actually gets on with their MIL?

I do but then again, MIL, DHs Ex wife and I go on city breaks around Europe 2/3 times a year together so I’m quite odd

Nope, dont like her. I've made too many excuses for her in the past but her true colours have been shown loud and clear recently.

Mine is amazing, especially since our son has come along. She gets the balance exactly right between being supportive when needed, and keeping her nose out the rest of the time. She gives sensible advice if we specifically ask for it, but doesn't volunteer any opinions about our life choices or parenting otherwise. She's ace!

I prefer my MIL (now ex) to my own mum. She's rather lovely.

Mine is absolutely lovely, a real sweetheart. I am extremely fond of her. And my FIL, he's sweet too.

Nope! She's such a pain in my arse I just detest the woman! Have never got on with her, she's such a different type/ generation from me, she's very traditional with her views of what woman and mother should and shouldn't be, and very vocal about sub views. She's exhausting!

Mine was awesome until I got pregnant with dd1. Went downhill from there. I was gutted as I'd hoped she would be supportive and a bit of a lifeline for my mental health but that went pear shaped as she kept trying to put me in my place and said things when dh wasn't in the room so I felt like I was going mad (and DH thought I was too until she cocked up and did it in front of him). I don't trust her now but have invited her to a club we go to once a week as we're not alone and there are other people around so she doesn't come out with the bollocks comments and trying to put me in my place quite so much.

@doskant the quote of the day! You can't argue with asshole. No, you really can't!

I like yours

OP, thank you

Yes my MIL is lovely and we get on fine. She comes to stay for a long weekend roughly every 2 months.

I loved my M.I.L. She was one of the nicest people I've ever met. Kind and down to earth. I was devastated when she died.

When I first met her I had high hopes, my mum wasn't around when I was growing up so was quite open to having a mother like person in my life. Unfortunately that didn't work out.

She's controlling, manipulative and racist, so no we don't get on. We actually had to move away from her and FIL, as when we had dc, she said it was her right to see them whenever she felt like it, she'd just walk into the house without any warning. She just ignored any attempt by us to reason with her.

I do tolerate her, as does DH, we usually have them for xmas, and see each other probably every month, but I don't like her at all. Thankfully DH is nothing like her.

Mines lovely. Get on better with her than my own mum.

Mine is lovely. Excellent with my son and very kind.
She also drives me nuts sometimes but so does my own mother - I see it as a good sign

@cinnamoned Jeremybearimybaby You sound so lovely. I hope my DDs treat their MILs like you do and I hope DS will give me a DIL like you smile
Ah, thank you I did call my SIL and BIL dicks different in my previous post, but I'll take lovely!! Exactly, I have one of each, and I hope to get on with my future DIL/SIL just as well. Interestingly, my granny in law was quite different (I found her hilarious, but she wasn't my Mum, I doubt I would have done if she was) and cantankerous, and MIL is the complete opposite. She's supportive, and welcomed me in with open arms. DH's family is a bit mafia like (without the violence!) in that, if you're in, then you're in, no questions asked! I quite like it!

I never met mine, she died when my DH was a teenager, I think I would liked her alot though because alot of people say she was very like my SIL who I adore

There are some really nasty comments about MIL’s on here. Mine’s great, she works really hard at having good relationships with her DIL’s and is well aware of the stereotype - reinforced very effectively on here I should say. I’m aiming to be the perfect MIL when my time hopefully comes!

I always liked and got on well with my MIL.
She is not dead yet but, sadly, is now in an advanced stage of dementia so the person she was is not really there anymore.

She always used to recall a time when she was newly married and DH still a baby and her MIL called round unexpectedly with all her friends to visit. Their flat was a bit of a state and she felt definitely wrong footed and embarrassed to be caught out. I think in general she found her MIL a bit interfering and intrusive. Consequently she always said she would not make that mistake with her own DIL; she would always call rather than dropping round unexpectedly and I don't ever recall her offering unasked for advice.

Anyway that suited me fine and we had a great relationship. One of her other DILs (ex now) not so. She came from a family who were great droppers-in so she took MILs approach of always calling first or waiting to be asked as a sign of stand-offishness. Guess you can't win 'em all!

I feel blessed with my mil she's brilliant and gentle.

Yes, I do like mine. She does some things that get on my nerves, but never in a nasty way, and my own mum annoys me sometimes too.

I really feel like one of the best things I can give my DS is a whole family unit who love him and who he can have close relationships with. I'd never jeopardise that.

As a parent of a son, I do worry that if I have a DIL in future she will exclude me. Mumsnet reinforces this all the time.

I am very fond of my mil. She's a lovely lady.

We have had our moments, because we come from quite different backgrounds, and we haven't necessarily seen eye to eye on all matters.

But she is a wonderful Mum and Grandmum, and we all love her very much.

I will never, ever, forget the kindness she showed in flying down for the day to support me and DH at my father's funeral. Having someone there, just for us, meant more than words could express.

I always butted heads with my MIL until my DH pointed out that we're pretty much the same person - same traits, etc. We just have different values. She loves organising the home and lives in a bloody spotless palace. Mine is organising my business and working my arse off on that. We both are obsessive over these things, but wouldn't want to be in the other's shoes. Different strokes and all that.

I'll still never forgive her for deliberately buying me a dress that was 2 sizes too small when I put on weight... But there you go.

Before our first child came along and we moved away from our home town (not by much just out to the country), I really loved my MIL. We got on well, we'd go out shopping/dining just the two of us. We'd talk on days now DH was working away etc.

Then our eldest was born and all hell broke loose. We have been no contact now for almost 2 years having been low contact for the previous 3 years.

No, I can’t stand her. The bloke she lives with is a peadaphile.