Does anyone like their MIL?!

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A bit lighthearted really, I get the impression that many people on here can’t stand their MILs and I was just thinking, if my DH thought those things about my mother, or didn’t want my mother to come for Christmas, I would be upset. So I suppose I always said I would be kind to my MIL from the get go.

AIBU to ask if anyone actually gets on with their MIL?

I do but then again, MIL, DHs Ex wife and I go on city breaks around Europe 2/3 times a year together so I’m quite odd

Mine is a very rare kind, she means well but has a wicked, wicked side. On the whole of it though she is lovely.

I lost my own Mother aged 9, so it's lovely to have a mother figure again.

My MIL (not technically as we aren't married) is one of my favourite people.
I quite often go to her for advise, she is so good to talk to. My DD is not my partners yet she is still 'Gran@ and treats her no differently than the other grandchildren- in fact none of his family do.

I feel very lucky

Mine's lovely, although me and her son aren't together anymore, but we have 2 DC. I don't like calling her ex mil, as she's like a second mum to me.
She gets how I'm feeling about splitting with her son, as he wasn't the best partner ever and treated me like a slave. She also says 'I know he's my son and I love him, but you can do so much better then him' which says alot!
We're both at the same Uni (different courses) and I'm extremely proud of her

Shes ok. We dont really see her. She lives in a different country. We have plenty of contact and share pics of DCs with her. I dont dislike her but i dont love her.

I loved mine, now very sadly passed away. She was one of the most genuine, kind, caring women you could ever meet and was a wonderful grandmother. She may not always have agreed with my views on parenting but she strictly adhered to all our requests and never, ever overstepped the mark.

RIP MIL.

Mine has been living with me for the last 5 years so needless to say I think we get along and like each other otherwise we would of killed each other years ago haha

I used to think that I had a great relationship with my MIL. We would go shopping, have afternoon tea, go to the theatre, etc. When discussing MIL with friends, I always felt very fortunate that our relationship was so positive. My own mum lives across the country, so it was lovely to have this relationship with MIL.

However, following my miscarriage, she completely blanked me. There was no effort to check in on DH and I. When DH did speak with her, she was only concerned about not getting her much longed for grandchild and that I had been at fault and caused the loss. She became cold and passive aggressive. Last Christmas was a nightmare, as I tried to paint a happy face on whilst still grieving. She was awful!

After this experience, I have distanced myself from her quite significantly. So much so, I've not seen her in 8months and had 3 short text exchanges with her during this period.

I do miss the relationship that we had, and it saddens me greatly that she didn't care for me as much as I thought she did.

We get on OK, though we don't have much in common. She's never done anything so heinous that I needed to post about her

My kind-of-stepmother, on the other hand, is wonderful and I adore her.

My MIL was great, I had a lot of time for her. Sadly she died two years ago so I didn’t know her for as long as I would have liked (five years).

DH, however, does NOT like his MIL I knew he was the man for me when he admitted that he didn’t like my mum - she is a narcissist and usually wins over everyone she meets with her charm. I felt so vindicated when he saw through her early on in our relationship.

Mine's not perfect, but she's lovely, adores her DGC and is great with them. Was a huge help to me when I had a very rocky time adjusting to having DC1. I see much more of her than my DM, although I admit that's partly geographical.

I tried really hard with mine but she’s horrible to her DS - my DH - and we are NC as his good mental health has to come first. And she’s soooooo miserable and negative too

Mine is fabulous, i'm closer to her than my own mum. She is so kind and has so much time and love for my boys. I'm very lucky!