To think DP is being a bit ridiculous

[DeadSouth]

My DP hates me walking about the house in a vest and underwear, we have a taxi rank directly across from our house but a good enough distance that they wouldn’t see into the house clearly. We have big windows but no air con so particularly on these hot days I just cannot force myself into pj’s trousers with this heat.
He says clothes are respectful and does follow this himself and wouldn’t even answer the door for post without a shirt on but I’m not answering the door I’m just chilling out.
Maybe I should just wear the damned trousers and quit fighting him on it..
My legs just love the freedom 😂

@DeadSouth where are you from? Stoat aboot is something I would say . Curious!

@QueefLatifah (amazing choice of name btw) I’m from just outside Glasgow 👌🏻

I can’t believe some of the responses on here. Your home, your body, your choice. Don’t let your husband or anyone else tell you what to wear.

The issue isn’t what you’re wearing, it’s the idea that he can police your choices.

When I was pregnant and it was hot I used to hang out in my house in just my ginormous pregnancy shorts and a bra! Didn’t give a shit who could see me through the windows.

I agree that people should be able to wear what they want in their own home, but I know I wouldn't want my husband wandering around the house for hours in nothing but a vest and underpants.

@Fifthtimelucky could I ask why? What would be wrong with him wearing a vest and pants? Genuinely curious here.

I think I’d give my DH a side eye if he was just wandering around in the daytime in a vest ( or T shirt ) and knickers - not because of what someone could see from outside but because it’s ill mannered and sloppy.

I’m not suggesting we change three times a day, culminating in white tie and tails for him and and full length evening dress for me for dinner, but the other extreme of hanging around in your underwear, as an adult- gaaahh !

Mind you, I don’t understand partners wandering in and out of the bathroom at the same time, either.

After your update about the location of your home, the fact that the taxi drivers would need binoculars, etc, you need to tell him to back off and sort out his issues.

This is unhealthy. He has problems - sense of ownership of you, sense of entitlement to assert control over what you wear, and a weird preoccupation with sex/you and other men.

@jellyfishandshells I kinda do it on sloppy days so I get that.. it’s not a habit I’d keep with kids in the house but just my partner I’d not see an issue 🤷🏻‍♀️

I walk around the house in the clothes you describe but I am careful walking past the front window in case anyone is walking by. It’s a quiet road so mostly nobody is walking by. In your situation, I definitely wear some shorts though.

OP, you should absolutely be able to wear whatever you like inside your own home. Anyone saying otherwise has their own issues to deal with.

I'm honestly stunned at the crazy responses on this thread saying otherwise.

OP, wear whatever the hell you want.

That said, may I highly recommend a t-shirt dress to add to your wardrobe, just to have? It's the best for days when you can't be arsed to get properly dressed but have to potentially be seen by people (e.g. popping out to the post). It's basically a daytime nightgown. (Actually, one I wear out all the time is technically a nightgown.)

Also, I hate button/fly shorts, as I always feel like a camp counsellor. But I love my loose cropped trousers that I wear around the house. Sort of halfway between pj bottoms and yoga pants, and very open-the-doorable.

That said, wear a vest and underwear in the few very hot days that you have. Genuinely wouldn't care.

I am sloppy, amongst other MN negatives.

Our family are all underwear people, me and my 3 kids. They are in their home, nobody can see in and they are comfortable in their own skin.

There is nothing to be ashamed of, your genitals aren't out and your windows aren't bare.

In fact you can even walk around naked you know? Its nobodies bloody business.

Maybe they need to get a life and stop looking in other peoples windows!

Mumsnet never fails to amaze me

I never knew it was frowned upon to spend time at home in a state of undress. If studying or working from home, I wear a big tshirt and pants or boxers. Pj bottoms when weather is cold.

I answered the door to a delivery last week in a big tshirt and boxers. Doubt the guy noticed. How would he even know my plain black boxers weren't just cotton shorts?

Why do people disapprove?

If you dislike pjs or boxers and don't think they are suitable to wear in the house in the daytime - do you also wear a bra all the time at home?

What does he wear to relax around the house?

@DeadSouth: why wouldn't I like my husband wandering round all day in vest and underpants?

1. because I don't think it's very hygienic. I'm not usually someone who worries too much about that (I don't change towels or sheets nearly as often as many on Mumsnet) but I wouldn't like the idea of him (or anyone) sitting on the sofa in just thin underpants;

2. because unexpected things happen and it's useful to be able to open the door if someone calls, or to go out quickly if necessary, and it's far more convenient already to be dressed. As an example, I'd be annoyed if I was out and we missed a delivery because my husband had to get dressed before opening the door and the postman/delivery person gave up;

3. because (no doubt because I'm quite old) I have the old-fashioned view that people should dress in proper clothes during the day (unless ill). Changing into something more comfortable after work is sensible, but I think that spending the whole day in underwear (or even PJs) is slovenly and I wouldn't want my child to be set that as an example (obviously I realise that yours is too young to notice at the moment).

Why the fuck wouldn't it be ok to walk around in pants and a top in your own home? Some strange folk on here

I would ignore him and carry on. It’s your home and you should be comfortable.

. The reactions on here are wow. When it’s hot lots of people walk around in vests and shorts, even boxer length. That’s fine but in your home and there’s outcry.

I’m a vest and boxer person, I’m comfy at home. It’s the only time I can wear anything above my knees. I have a massive cardy behind the door if someone knocks.

What about a nightie, not a long granny one, but one like a mini dress kind of thing, with or without knickers ha ha,

Well I am wearing shorts, boots and a fluffy dressing gown because I am freezing cold.

He's being ridiculous
Wear what you feel comfortable in, you're at home!
He sounds like he wants to tell you that your body is for his eyes only and you're somehow disrespectful. Don't listen to any shit like that for a moment, it's a sign of his own sexist views. Be careful.

Absolutely nothing wrong with wearing pants and a vest in your own house. I doubt anyone can see in if you’re in an upstairs flat. But even if they could see in, you’re not naked. You’re completely covered.

Your husband sounds like a prude.

Obviously if it’s dark outside, the curtains are open and the lights are on the whole world can see in. But that’s not what you’ve said you’re doing.

I'm surprised by some of these responses! Wear what the fuck you want! I often nip out to the car or put the washing on the line in boxer type pants and vest!! Admittedly living rural and not opposite taxi rank but people can still see if they're around! If I decide to go out I'd then put shorts on which would be all over an inch or two longer in the leg than boxer shorts and no one would bat an eyelid seeing those so what's the bloody difference. Brits are weird about nakedness!