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Is this dress ok for a wedding...

136 replies

Jadefeather7 · 21/08/2019 13:09

Or is it too close to white?

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-lace-long-sleeve-prom-midi-dress-with-cut-out/prd/10967217?clr=soft-blush&colourWayId=16321719&SearchQuery=lace%20midi

OP posts:
SunnyIn · 21/08/2019 13:11

I get married soon and wouldn't bat an eyelid at a guest wearing this. I like it OP!

bluebeck · 21/08/2019 13:11

I think it's a bit too "bridal" with the lace etc.

Hopefully you can find something more appropriate.

Disclaimer: I am OLD

Cuppa12345 · 21/08/2019 13:13

Yep, look for something else.

MrsJakeLovell · 21/08/2019 13:14

It's definitely 'bridal'! Lace, midi length, colour....you'll look like the woman who wished she was the bride! Grin

Seriously - Soooooo many other styles, colours and fabrics to choose from, why would you...unless you're trolling?

Twotinydictators · 21/08/2019 13:15

I'm on the fence, so I'd probably say if it's not clear cut then best to avoid! There was another similar pretty one that flagged up when you open that link...hopefully attached!

Is this dress ok for a wedding...
taytosandwich · 21/08/2019 13:15

Why do people insist on doing this at weddings? You have the choice of literally every colour and fabric on the planet, why go for off white lace Confused

cakeandchampagne · 21/08/2019 13:15

It’s too “bridal”.

Tiptopj · 21/08/2019 13:16

What's the saying... if you have to ask if the dress is too white then it's too white.

In this case, yes it's too white. The bride might be the type to not give a toss but then again she might not be. Why risk it? Just wear a different colour,its one day.

SunnyIn · 21/08/2019 13:16

I don't understand. It doesn't look like a wedding dress in the slightest.

CuriousMama · 21/08/2019 13:16

God no

Crunchymum · 21/08/2019 13:17

The pink one linked is actually nicer.

Sexnotgender · 21/08/2019 13:17

Why do people insist on doing this at weddings? You have the choice of literally every colour and fabric on the planet, why go for off white lace

Totally agree.
I’m going to a wedding next week and shall be wearing navy and cornflower blue. Not a chance I’d go for any white/off white/lace concoction.

Durgasarrow · 21/08/2019 13:18

Not at a wedding, not too bridal. At a wedding, too bridal.

Dotty1970 · 21/08/2019 13:18

Yuk (sorry) and definitely too bridal

HermioneWeasley · 21/08/2019 13:18

Please please tell me the groom is your ex!

Seriously, no

MrsJakeLovell · 21/08/2019 13:19

the OP could pick the exact same dress in navy so why go for the bridal looking version?

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-lace-long-sleeve-prom-dress-with-cut-out/prd/11221488?CTAref=We+Recommend+Carousel_4&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

Jadefeather7 · 21/08/2019 13:19

I actually got the pink one first but the colour doesn’t suit me. I have a lovely shawl that I really wanted to wear that will go so nicely with this dress. Also have matching shoes and a purse. For all other dresses I’ve seen I would need to buy a new pair and my shawl won’t match so will need something else in case it’s a bit chilly!

OP posts:
Bodear · 21/08/2019 13:20

Wtf?! It’s a cream lace dress. Do you hate the bride or just really want some attention? Hmm

Piffle11 · 21/08/2019 13:21

I think I'd go for something different tbh. Even if the bride is fine with it, someone else might not be. I was at a wedding when I was in my 20s, and I remember the Bride's mother, sister and cousin being ridiculously offended by one of the guests whose dress was too 'bride' in their eyes. It was a bit too bride-like, but the glares that woman got all night … really not worth it!

dollydaydream114 · 21/08/2019 13:21

If I was getting married, I'd have no problem with a guest wearing that … but I'm not fussy about that kind of thing, and I'm sure not every bride would feel that way and some might think it was a bit much. I think it's the combination of the lace and the off-white colour that people might have an issue with. The colour would be fine if it wasn't lace, and the lace would be fine if it wasn't so close to white, but both together might cause some brides to get a bit twitchy.

If you're close to the bride and have a good relationship with her, you could always ask. I wanted to wear a black dress to my friend's wedding and lots of people said I shouldn't, but in the end I just asked her and she laughed and said it was absolutely fine … in fact, she said 'It would actually seem wrong if you wore any other colour!' as it's a standing joke among my friends that I have a very black wardrobe.

Rubicon80 · 21/08/2019 13:21

Given that you are buying a new dress for the occasion, why would you not get a dress in orange/ red /pink /purple /blue/ green /brown /gold or, you know, literally any other colour that isn't white and lacy?

catofdoom · 21/08/2019 13:22

It's a little bridal.

Sicktobloodydeath · 21/08/2019 13:22

I’m looking at this dress for a wedding too ha! If I’m being totally honest I wouldn’t have even considered this to be off white it looks pink/mauve to me Hmm

Ponoka7 · 21/08/2019 13:25

@SunnyIn, the rule of thumb is no white/pale cream/pink. No lace/tulle. Avoid bridesmaid looking maxis.

OP. No. Look for something else.

pigsDOfly · 21/08/2019 13:27

It's a really pretty dress, but you can't wear the cream to someone else's wedding.

The navy is lovely though.