Is this dress ok for a wedding...

[Jadefeather7]

Or is it too close to white?

www.asos.com/asos-design/asos-design-lace-long-sleeve-prom-midi-dress-with-cut-out/prd/10967217?clr=soft-blush&colourWayId=16321719&SearchQuery=lace%20midi

i think both are fine.
but i think the red one would look stunning on you.
these threads are always a danger op so dont worry if it feels like people have been pelting you with !!!!!!

The first dress could be pretty similar to the bridesmaids dresses.
I’d avoid plain cream/pink/ blush for that reason too.

If you want a prom/ dressy dress it needs to be a non bridal party colour and if you wear a cream/pink/blush dress it needs to be obviously not in the style a bride or bridesmaid might wear ( or preferable have pattern),

no way

Literally any dress could be similar to the bridesmaid unless you know exactly what they are wearing. Maybe they are wearing red?!

"Went to a wedding mother of the bride wore cream, no-one batted an eyelid."

MOTB, usually, or should consult with the Bride. They are in the Wedding Party, so they can wear cream. Other people shouldn't.

As well as etiquette, it's for photo purposes.

Personally I wouldn’t have a problem with it if I were the bride.

I always thought wedding attire should be relatively bright and bridal themed anyway ?

Lol goes to show how many weddings I’ve been invited to !

I don't think it would have bothered me, but I do definitely see how it could be viewed as being too bridal. I would try to find something else to be on the safe side. It's just a bit too white and lacy.

I love this dress,and would wear it to a wedding. Its quite amazing these days,that people would even think that someone's dress is not ok for a wedding,as being the wrong type, or colour etc.. When I was married, and with all that was happening, I didn't really notice what other women were wearing. And if it's got to the stage,that other women would stare and comment on someone's dress,well, it says a lot about there attitudes.

I'm shit at weddings as well. I sent the bride a pic of my intended dress and said "is this ok with you? not too slutty?" and waited for her to say it was ok before I bought.

My wedding dress doesn't have lace on it. Maybe I should tell all the guests they have to wear a different fabric to me just to make sure we don't get confused 🙄

DH went to a friend's wedding recently and the bride's dress was very similar to the original one you linked to OP.

What colour accessories and shawl had you been planning on wearing with it?

I can't see the first one but I love the red one, it's a beautiful colour.

Lace. And white
A big fat NO op

Unless you want to start trouble
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@FuriousVexation did you think she would actually say yes if she thought it was too slutty?

Lemoneeza well that is the point of communication, generally. Someone asks a question, the other person answers.
OP, I like the blue dress myself and would have picked that one.

Red is lovely

Nah it's not white, go for it

Love the red one. Slightly gutted I don't have a wedding to go to!!

These threads always seem so obtuse. It isn't so much that the person in the cream/offwhite/ivory dress is going to be "mistaken for the bride".

It's about giving the bride the one day in her life when she is the centre of attention, where she gets to wear the style of dress that makes her the Bride and where other people give her the space to be the star of her show.

Anyone who has to ask "is this too bride-like" knows they are pushing it close to the edge, it's a hair's whisker away from being the type of dress that could be suitable for a bride, so why bother asking. Just be the good person and consider something else

The red/burgundy one is lovely and fine for a wedding.

The first one looks like my gran’s net curtains when they needed a wash, ugh! Also, yes, white lace not a great idea.

The red is much nicer.

I’m going against most of the advice here. I really don’t understand what the big deal is with wearing that dress. Is anyone really going to be confused with who the bride is? Could you really steal the focus away from the bride in anything other than an actual wedding dress? I think it’s fine to wear.

I’d like to add that I didn’t even notice what other women wore at my wedding, and wouldn’t have any problem with someone wearing a lacy white dress, or similar. It sounds rather insecure if it bothers a bride because someone else is in white or off white

@SunnyIn - you shouldn't need to talk to your wedding guests about what they can and can't wear. The people at your wedding should be people who care enough about you that they'll do the right thing by you, which includes not choosing a cream/white ivory lace number (that's the women, of course the men couldn't give a flying 4X.

Off white lace dress... of all the dresses you could choose you'd look very attention seeking in this!! Even if the bride didn't mind / notice lots of other guests will judge you