His STBXW still has a picture of them hugging as profile picture?

[CarolineEsche]

Hi all, I am regular poster on mumnset but also regularly NC for privacy reasons (yes I am a bit paranoid!).

I have been dating a lovely man for 4 months. He has been separated from his wife since December 2018, so coming up 9 months. Mutual decision, very amicable terms, they have two DC together, whom they co-parent 50/50. Divorce proceedings initiated in June. I have been to his flat many times, spent weekends and week nights there, he is undoubtedly living by himself. He also calls and texts me from his place every day even when he has the DC, we go out on dates when he doesn't have them.

I very vaguely know his wife through overlapping social circles. I don't think she is aware of the fact that her STBXH is dating me yet, I respect it is his decision if and when to inform her about his dating life. I have met quite a few of his friends.

However, I have recently stumbled into her SM profile by accident (she came up as a "people you might know" profile) and I realised that her profile picture is a picture of her and STBXH hugging. Clearly a "couple picture", they hold hands and look very lovey dovey. She posts stuff on social media regularly, so she actively uses it from what I can see.

AIBU to think it is a bit weird? I mean they have been split up for a while now, and that picture seems a bit... odd, I suppose? I know it is none of my business what picture she chooses to use on her SM, but to be honest it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable.

Should I mention this to New Man, even though he probably doesn't have any control over it? What a bizarre situation

And have they done that?

Still, she's his wife at the moment and the mother of his children, you've been dating him a couple of months. You have no rights over her SM and neither does he.

WHy you think you should even mention it to him is beyond me.

Whether you like it or not, the other name for “soon-to-be-ex wife” is “wife”. There’s no such thing as “basically divorced”, you’re either legally divorced or not.

Yes they have filed in June, the divorce should be finalized by the end of the year.

Hmm, I think stop looking at her social media.

Can I ask what made you do that anyway? Was just a bit of fun to see what the ‘ex’ looked like? Are you not very secure in the relationship with this man?

Sorry OP just seen she came up as a person you might know.

I don’t think it’s weird but obviously because I am on the other side if you see what I mean.

Hope it all works out for your :)

I'd put money on they are still sleeping together sorry.

@kcm99 no she is weirded out by it because its weird

To be honest. If you look at her profile, you will show in her list of possible friends.

I used to get my exH’s girlfriend photo circling my list of suggested friends over and over, I also started getting a lot of friends requests from people who seemed to be in the same social circle as her, but the thing that continues to take the biscuit is that I get notifications from LinkedIn saying she has checked my profile at least 2-3 times a year.

She is a massively jealous person, we have never been friends so I feel positively stalked at times.

So be warned OP, you may find her weird but you may be looking like a stalker.

I'm just amazed it took you so long to look her up on Facebook