“Suck your mum”

[Firedogs12]

DD aged 18 said this to me. I said it was offensive and asked her not to say it. She said she and DS aged 15 say it all the time (to each other and to their friends) and it doesn’t mean anything. She says it’s a generation thing. I said that my gran used to use n*gger but it doesn’t mean it’s ok.

AIBU to find it offensive? Do your teenagers say it?

It's certainly not pleasant but not actually sure what it means

That's a vile thing to say, and I would be telling my children I don't ever want it said in my presence again.

It basically means 'fuck you'.
When I was a kid people just said 'your mum' .
It is rude though.

Ugh!!!

I have heard it before but when I was a teenager. It was usually said by the “rough kids”

I hate it when kids say “that’s sick that”

It’s scally

It sounds very rude and disrespectful even though it makes no sense. I would be really annoyed if any of mine said that. ( Don't have a clue what it means though)

Interesting, thanks all

It's basically an offensive way of saying shut up or go away. Used to use it all the time at school.

I've never heard 'suck your mum' before. It would seem good advice for babies?
When I was teaching pupils said 'your mum', short for 'your mum's a prostitute'.

I thought I was going to hear about a story of someone telling their kid to go and suck their mum. Literally.
I don’t know which is worse.

Maybe I should offer to give them a breastfeed if they say it again?

I worked in a young offenders prison - heard it every day- worst insult - guaranteed to start a fight. Vile.

They're always about mums though aren't they. From mother fucker to yer mum, why is that?

I thought that one had died out a while ago. Used to hear it in school all the time (around 12 years ago).

Very immature for an 18 year old to be saying it though, and downright disgusting to be saying it to her own mother.

18 year old woman said this? I've heard 14 year old naughty children say it.

It is offensive, of course it is.

Similar to pp, I also worked in a young offenders institution and it was seen to be the most offensive insult and would inevitably lead to violence.

Never heard it used outside of prison though.

Classy

It’s so rude. I often tell my teen that I really don’t care what her and her friends say to each other, she does NOT speak to me like that. So yes, it might be normal to them but make it clear that it’s a line not to be crossed.

@Bravelurker Great thing about this insult was you could tailor it. Suck your nan/dad were also pretty common in my school.

I either of my two 17 yo DS said that to me they would be instantly and very clearly told off. I do not expect language like that and don't tolerate it. They would also be apologising.

Where I live it's 'yer da sells Avon'

It came from ' prison talk ' originally I believe.

@Firedogs12

Don't make any offers you aren't prepared to follow through.
That would be my advice.

No, it's a nasty phrase, used by inner city / urban kids (see also - bumberclart, paigan etc). It's meant to be disgusting and I would not be standing for it.

And it's not about breastfeeding...

@Firedogs12
Totally do that. And text all her friends, my dd ask me to suckle again, do you ask your mothers to do the same?!
Oh the shame