Neighbour just gave my husband this:

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Hi all, my first post in aibu 🤞🏼.

We are proud new parents of a 16 day old baby girl. I am breastfeeding/working it out and think it's going well so far.

Our daughter doesn't cry so much but does occasionally and can get loud - especially if I'm upstairs eg showering and husband has her downstairs.

Anyway, my husband came in today with a leaflet given to him by our 85 year old neighbour... husband thinks he was being kind but aibu to think that this is very passive aggressive?

Thanks in advance- a tired new mum 🤞🏼

Even if it is a dig, which by the sounds of it is an unlikely scenario (you’ve said he’s a lovely neighbour) what can you do? Your baby is going to cry sometimes as do all babies - nothing much you or the neighbours can do about that, unless this sleep consultant offers some sort of magic solution.Thank him for the leaflet or ignore; no more than that.
I didn’t find the Dignitas comment, or the one about putting him in a home funny either, but am a bit irritated in general by (what I see as) the creeping acceptance of ageism as a prejudice - separate issue tho.
Congrats on your newborn!

I think from a person this age he saw it and thought 'oh that may be helpful for my neighbour, how interesting - they never had that in my day.' Many of my family of that age would not be disturbed by a baby next door because they wouldn't have good hearing. I would try to accept it at face value as an act of being interested and thoughtful.

Oh gosh my grandad is in his 80s and does things like this! The lady next door to him crashed her car and he noticed through the window and took loads of newspaper ads of car garages round! He saves stuff for me too he once brought me round a cut out about a woman’s who’s baby had fallen out of a bumbo on top of a unit telling me not to use mine anymore (only used it on the floor) I’m worrying this is him! But my grandad really only does it to be kind and I think partly to get him out of the house and talking to neighbours etc.

That site is up now, seems all genuine its a mum sort of helping other mums to get their offspring to the land of nod:)

www.dream-nights.com/

I find it very interesting that you are suspicious of a perfectly nice 85 year old neighbour.
I do think this is a more recent phenonium where people tend to think the worst of people rather than giving them the benefit of the doubt.

I think they just thought it'd be helpful. Maybe there's been a lot of babies who have slept badly in their family and they assume that all parents needs help with babies sleeping?

Before I had kids I assumed I would be woken up by crying and I'd have at least one baby that left me sleep-deprived, but both my kids were good sleepers and generally woke quite happy in the morning, so people's understanding is different.

Also, remember she grew up in a time where I suspect people were much less judgemental about parenting - it's only in the last few decades we've got very sensitive about parenting advice and worried that people are criticising when they offer.