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letsjustsee · 14/08/2019 20:58

Hi ladies,

So ive been dating a guy for a while now (8 months) we get on amazing, he lives 100 miles away from me so makes dating hard, but I'm 100% committed to him and he says he is with me. However;
We were talking tonight via text about him going out with his friend and I get a text saying " I don't understand why you're counting with us 🤦🏻‍♂️♥️ Xxxxxx"

He then proceeded to (in my own opinion) panic and text me straight away saying the text was for his sister, he then called me 7 times, text me 3 times and messaged me on Instagram within 5 mins ( I was in the shower at the time this happened)

I would've thought the text was strange but laughed it off because I had no reason to mistrust him, however his response to this had put me on edge, am I right to have this feeling??? What would you do??

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SleepingIsOverrated · 14/08/2019 21:37

That's how to do it... GrinGrin

BumbleBeee69 · 14/08/2019 21:37

well done for NOT buying this bullshit OP. I'm curious as to what he will fake up as a screenshot of convo from his Sister.. he might backdate/time whatsapp etc.. and create a whole convo with a second phone.. which is easily done .. beware Hmm

okay I maybe put way too much thought into that.. Sorry lol

CoughSplutter · 14/08/2019 21:37

Brilliant response!

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 14/08/2019 21:37

I'd say with us means this/our relationship. Because whatever she's counting doesn't apply to us(them).

TatianaLarina · 14/08/2019 21:38

‘with us’ = us two in our special intimacy.

RandomMess · 14/08/2019 21:38

Love your response Grin

Skittlenommer · 14/08/2019 21:39

Apparently he deletes his texts as they come through...

Yeah fucking right! Good on you OP for off-loading the twat! You deserve better!

sonjadog · 14/08/2019 21:40

Ah well, you got your answer there. At least you found out what he was like early on.

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 14/08/2019 21:40

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Mummyoflittledragon · 14/08/2019 21:40

I also thought of number of shags. Deffo not the sort of text I would expect a sibling to send to their sister unless they were into incest.

AntiHop · 14/08/2019 21:41

Well done op!

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/08/2019 21:42

Cross post. Watching tv at the same time... bloody excellent response !

Gracie300 · 14/08/2019 21:42

👏

Eistigi · 14/08/2019 21:43

Well done you, perfect response!

deste · 14/08/2019 21:43

Have none of you ever done a stocktake before. You are counting the stock and it’s usually done in teams. It could be genuine, I hope it is.

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QueenofmyPrinces · 14/08/2019 21:43

Regardless of what his text meant, the “us” definitely implies he’s in some kind of relationship with another woman. It’s w very intimate word really.

Well done OP!

pangolina · 14/08/2019 21:43

I'm sorry op

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 14/08/2019 21:44

Well done you.

Great response, put up with zero bullshit, and you be likely saved yourself years of heartache.

Onwards and upwards, you deserve better.

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MamaOfBothTeams · 14/08/2019 21:44

Well done Op Wine

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Nothingcomesforfree · 14/08/2019 21:45

God you’re good Op!

Now the hard bit- standing firm. Maybe he will tell the truth. Guessing not though.

ThatCurlyGirl · 14/08/2019 21:45

I would just think someone had organised a get together and let him know you two are invited as a couple but he doesn't feel ready so is just saying he's surprised they've invited you as a pair automatically.

The heart and kisses after the appropriate facepalm emoji depends who it was to - my mum or dad I'd add these but a mate I wouldn't, for example

🤦🏻‍♂️ 💗 xxxxxxxx

(Wink)

ThatCurlyGirl · 14/08/2019 21:46

Ooh though yes to PP a typo for "coming" with us also seems very likely.

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