WIBU to keep this baby

[CassandrasCastle]

I have just found out that I'm pregnant, around 6 weeks by my reckoning, though I have a doctor's appointment this week to confirm.
The question is, should I keep it? I don't expect anyone to tell me what to do, just some advice. Just being able to unload is good. And...am I being unreasonable..
The situation in short (hopefully) I've been with my boyfriend since last October - it's the real deal, we love each other, and it feels like a v healthy relationship, with openness and discussion of anything that's troubling us. I'm late 20s, he is in his mid 30s. This news - I was on contraceptive injection - has been an absolute shock to us. My instinct is that I want to keep it. Also, I had an abortion early last year, and it was extremely traumatic for me. I still think about it, and the the thought of having another terrifies me. However, my bf feels like now is not the time for us to be the best parents we can be - we don't live together yet, he doesn't feel ready and is currently finishing a very demanding PhD. I just got a new job which I love a couple of months ago. I think both of us feel like we haven't had enough fun as a couple yet - I mean, just being able to go away on holiday together, make more friends, socialise with our current ones (although tbh, the majority of his friends actually have kids). I hear his fears, they are totally legitimate. And I fear that I could damage our relationship greatly by saying that I want to go ahead with the pregnancy if he is not on board. (He has assured me he wouldn't leave, and would accept my decision but...still. I worry about buried resentment.)
Oh, I'm so confused. And I'm scared on the other hand that I might go ahead with an abortion because I know that's what my bf ultimately wants. Although to be fair, he says he hasn't made a set in stone decision, is very open to discussion - and I feel the onus is on me to sort of prove that I'm ready to have a baby. When I'm not sure I totally am!
If anyone's been in this situation, please let me know. And would I be unreasonable to go with my gut (ugh, dislike that expression but oh well) and keep the baby?

Congratulations!!

Congratulations wishing you a healthy pregnancy

I didn't comment before as I felt I had nothing to add that PP hadn't already said but have been following. I am so glad you were able to reach a happy mutual agreement on keeping baby and good luck OP! I wish you a health pregnancy also

Congratulations and good luck - hope all goes well for you x

There is never a good time. Your both around the right age to decide if your going to have a family or not. I was in your exact situation. Had only been with my partner 6 months, unplanned pregnancy when I was 29. It didn't work out between me and my ex in the end, but we had two boys together, and still co-parent and get along. I don't regret it for a minute

Just seen your update

Lovely news, congrats. Wishing you a successful and healthy pregnancy

Just saw your update . I was going to say it's never the perfect time to have a baby and that you seem in as good a place as any. I kept a baby in a less than perfect situation and and we are still together years later.

OP, it sounds like you’re in a secure relationship, you’ve found “the one” even though you haven’t been together that long (yet!)

There’s never the “right” time to have a baby. The problems you mention are all minor one (not living together can be easily solved, PhDs require a bit of hard work and then are finished, social life and holidays - pff who needs that when you have a yummy squishy baby at home?)

Many people try and plan every detail of their lives, but I firmly believe that babies come when they are destined to come. You can’t make a baby come at the “right” time. You either let this one come now, or you get rid of it and hope that another one wants to come in the future. Don’t take your body for granted. (I hope this doesn’t come across as patronising and I really don’t want to offend; this is what I believe.)

You’re never “ready” to become a mother. I definitely wasn’t “ready” until after it happened, and the whole of the next few years/decades is a steep learning curve. That’s OK.

Have confidence in yourself. Have the baby if you want to. Everything else falls into place.

Damn it, didn’t read your update before posting. So happy for you! Congratulations!

I’m happy for you. My sister travels the world with her partner and three under 6 ids so it doesn’t have to be the end of adventures.

Wishing you the very best in your decision.

Ahhh!! Congratulations OP! Wonderful news - wishing you all health and happiness 🌺