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partner being completely bladdered when pregnant

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Hopex3 · 11/08/2019 10:45

hi all,

I need somewhere to write this down and maybe get some opinions on how to approach the other half wakes up.

so last night we was meant to be having dinner together but he said he was going to pop out to watch football with a few friends first then come back and have dinner around 7 afterwards. I was like okay sure that fine - an hour after I dropped him off he messages saying did I mind getting dinner by myself as he is going to stay out longer but wont be late at all, no later than 9. I wasnt thrilled but said okay however can you please not get too drunk as we are staying at my mums atm, we were meant to be having dinner and an evening together, and I could really do with a reasonable nights sleep tonight. he is very much so like oh of course not it's not even that kind of night I wouldn't be disrespectful at your mums like that bla bla.

he didnt come back until 1 in the morning, he lied about why he was out (said he was waiting for a taxi for hours - my mum lives less than 5 minute walk away from the sports bar him and his friends were at) was so drunk he passed out head to toe in clothes on my mums sofa after this brief encounter strewing kebab meat everywhere. I was not happy lol but thought better for me and baby (I'm nearly 24 weeks) if I just go to bed as clearly wont get any kind of explanation or acknowledgement whilst hes in this state.

he then stumbles up stairs a few hours later maybe half 4/5 in the morning and wakes me up, then proceeds to throw up all over my mums house, saying he will just have to clean it in the morning and says he doesnt want to talk about any of this right now and to let him sleep :/ due to the smell being so horrendous I have had to spend the remainder of my sleep in my 6 year old sisters bed as she was not at home fortunately last night.

I'm awake of course now and still a bit taken aback, not really sure what to think nor what to say when he does eventually wake up?

did your partners behave like this? if so how do you approach this, I'm still quite shocked lol x

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LookingAtTheLovelyTrees · 12/08/2019 19:10

My DH has never once done this. We’ve been together 9 years. I’ve never once seen him that drunk. He didn’t even go out when I was pregnant (his choice), as he wanted to prioritise me and baby. I had a few (gentle) nights out, dinners with no alcohol, but he still chose not to. And we would go for dinner together sometimes. I can’t even imagine a situation where he would cancel on me like that.
This is not reasonable behaviour OP.

Beaverdam · 12/08/2019 20:17

His behaviour is terrible. I hope you sort him out with a good talking to.

Hopex3 · 12/08/2019 21:35

thank you for some of the lovely comments, I really appreciate them Smile he has apologised several times since etc. but I'm not naive I think we will see by his actions whether its genuine or not. I do hope so! but I'm gonna try not to stress too much about it now it's not good for me x

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