To think you should text before you call someone

[Sparklyspoon]

This might just be me but it annoys me when someone randomly calls and doesn't text first to check if I'm free to talk. I would understand if it was something urgent but when it's just for a catch up or something non important I feel like it would be more polite to just text and asked me first

You're being very unreasonable. You don't have to answer the telephone.

Ha ha I get you OP, I don't like talking socially on the phone! I am happy to ignore the call if they have dared not check first! and no I don't answer the door!

That's bloody ridiculous. Don't take the call if you don't want to or can't. What's so tricky about that?

Totally with you! I’m always really thrown if someone calls me unexpectedly! I just stare at the phone and wait for it to stop!
I agree that texting to agree a time to call is just the done thing! I’m not sure I know many people that can just pick up the phone and talk randomly without prior warning. Driving/kids/work/bog!!!

Just let it go to voicemail and get back to them when it's convenient to you. I tend to reply with a quick text saying I'm busy and I will get back to them asap. I do hate it when people get salty with me for not answering after they ring 4 times in less than 2 minutes. If I was busy a minute ago, I probably still am and the constant ringing really grinds me. Since mobile phones came on the scene we are expected to be available for everyone 24/7...

Weirdo!

I rang a friend last night, she'd sent me a message to say her child had just gone into rehab, she was wanting a handhold, I phoned straight away. Shoot me now.
It's utterly bizarre to expect someone to text you before they phone you.
That's why phones have accept or reject symbols, Green for accept, red for reject. If this is difficult for you to understand perhaps you're not old enough or ready to own a phone. Either answer or don't answer. It's not rocket science.

I don't like to talk on the phone either op
So i just don't pick up the Phone...

Quite simple actually

Op I’m on your side.

I think when someone calls me I assume I NEED to answer because it’s something urgent..

If I answer and it turns out they want to chit chat.... and they don’t politely ask me first if it’s a good time to talk.. then I do get annoyed..

However most people understand if we don’t pick up. And most if they’re calling to just chitchat would be fine with me saying “is it ok if I call later I’m not free at the moment”. But I find it difficult to say no generally.

Worst are those people who get offended if I don’t answer their constant texting and calling. These guys are just draining

I text my sisters to see if they're free to chat, but that's because they're in completely different time zones and I don't want to call them if they've gone to bed!

Surely they should send an e.mail first, to check if it is OK to text and find out if you are available to take a call?

How outrageously rude! Everyone knows that you should write a letter first asking if you can send an email, it's only if you get a letter back saying that's OK that you can send the email checking if it's OK to text etc.

Isn’t that what voicemail is for? 🤷‍♀️

If you’re not free to talk then surely you just don’t answer the phone?

Most of the phonecalls I get I am holding the phone, watching it ringing, and waiting for it to stop so I can go back to MN/FB/Pinterest

Huh?

Well that's a new one. Ok so genuine question....how old are you? Random question of the day but I'm just wondering if this is some kind of modern thing?

@MaverickSnoopy
I don’t know why, but that made me seriously piss myself

Modern thing
Hahahahaha

I'm 37, I think it might just be a me thing

No shit Sherlock!!!!

I hate talking on the phone and will only pick up for certain people - DP, or if I am expecting a call back from somewhere like the dentist.

maverick exactly what I was thinking that it's an age thing. My teenage dcs wouldn't dream of actually calling someone at,all! Shock horror! Technology is taking over the world and real life social interactions. Says she typing this to goodness knows who on mn!

What's the point in calling to talk then you may as well just chat by text. Personally if I am busy I don't answer or I hit the sorry I can't talk option on my phone like most normal people.

Is that not the beauty of caller I'd. It takes the guesswork out of who's phoning.

Dont want to talk dont answer. It's not rocket science

Yabu. I hate talking on the phone, its MY Problem though, i dont expect people to text me first.

I actually agree with you OP! For me it's not even that I want them to call at a better time, I don't want them to call at all! Only messages please!

Talking takes real mental energy, and after an exhausting day at work all I want to do is lie on the sofa and watch TV.

Messaging happens at a totally different and manageable pace. I can multi task. I can respond in my own time.

A phone call really is demanding, as I can't really do much else with the phone glued to my ear.

I do just ignore though!

Wow! Is this life?

I think YABU and also YANBU

Part of me thinks people should just ring.
But the other part of me normally assumes if somebody is calling, it's important. I ALWAYS get phone calls from the same people when I have a screaming DD or am feeding her. I try to answer and pop them on speaker, thinking something important is happening, and they say 'I'm just calling to say hi'.

I have started not answering the phone to them and get told I am useless with my phone. Can't win and I can't be bothered with telephone small talk.