Dp and sofa seating (with a diagram)

[SofaSaga]

So I bought the sofa before dp and I where even together.
I love it. Its my favourite colour and fits the room theme.
I have sever anxiety from a past emotionally abusive and controlling relationship.And I don't like to feel trapped.

This is the AIBU.
dp and I are forever fighting about how he sits on the sofa.
He puts his feet up so no matter where I sit I am trapped by his legs or his feet.
This means I need to ask for him to move his legs every single time before I can leave the sofa.
Or I need to clamber over the top of them.

I am 16 weeks pregnant and I have 2 other dc so I am up and down all the time.
I feel like I am always asking permission to move wherever I want to go.
Plus it's like he is facing me observing me. It's strange.

I have asked him repeatedly to get a footstool or just sit normally. We have discussed how trapped I feel with the way he sits and he acknowledges that's is how I feel.
He will stop for a few days the go back to his old ways.
I hormonal, exhasted and sore today and yet again we have had the same argument as for the 5th time in 3 hours I have had to ask permission to leave the sofa.

Now he is in a huff and I am the bad guy. AIBU?

Have you tried tickling his feet or playing this little piggy.

Why doesn't he get up to do whatever it is you keep getting up for? Ask him to do it because his feet are in the way. I don't like having feet put on me either. X

That would drive me absolutely nuts too OP, not least because your DP knows how you feel but has total disregard for your feelings. Get him s footstool and in the meantime let him sit in your spot so he could put his feet up along the main length of the couch if he must, but then if he continues to hem you in when he has no excuse to do so I would seriously reconsider being with him at all.

@Euclid

Don’t be a twat!

Euclid

Get a poof op, only way!

“We have ordered a footstool online...”

Well thank god for that.

If I sit where he sits he says your in my seat.

Who is your DP - Sheldon Cooper?
When he says this, just reply "don't be silly. I want to sit here - & btw I am pregnant, it's my sofa & my home."

Why cut your nose off to spite your face: buy a footstool for gods sake. They're dirt cheap on Amazon. Habits that are comfort related are going to be a bugger to break. If you're miffed re him not buying house stuff, address it calmly with him. Don't just stew & let it spill over into stuff like this. Which is what's happening here.

I love having my feet up and bought myself a big sofa to do so so why cant he sit in that corner and have his feet where yoh have circled DP? I would just say MOVE, maybe sit with a sewing pin in your hands

I think given your experience in the past you are more than entitled to feel how you do op. I would hope that my partner would understand if this were me. In general it's no big deal to ask someone to move but it is for yiu and he should respect that.

His lack of buying anything for the home is also concerning. As a footstool seems to obvious solution.

Wedge your legs against his and force them off the sofa when he won't move.

You have "severe anxiety due to past relationship" and dont like to be restricted/trapped

yet are to damn stubborn to buy a footstool

Plenty of options here
1 buy a cheap footstool
2 tellhim to get his f-ing feet of the f-ing couch
3 sit on "his "side. And if he tells you off you tell him there are no sides. First dressed first served
4 tell him to f off ffs

What I don't like with diagram 2 is because he is sitting selfishly, he is taking up 4/5th of the sofa, i am using dc1's 1/5th of the sofa while both children have to sit on the floor.

Give his feet a shove every time and say "Oy, leave space for the children!"

He needs a footstool, by him one for his birthday.

Keep the sofa, You need to trade in your fella

i do think he has a right to sit how he wants.

And so do you and currently you cannot sit comfortably without being hemmed in by him. And his right to sit how he wants doesn't trump your right to be comfortable.

Every time he hems you in stand up immediately, then sit down.

Get a sharp stick. Whenever he does it lightly jab the sole of his foot. If he complains tell him to stop putting his feet near your stick then.