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Original poster

At in laws want to get out of here

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flappi · 10/08/2019 19:46

I know they don’t like me . Been here for about 4 hours . Feels like forever. Wish I didn’t have to be here .

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Winterfellismyhome · 10/08/2019 19:50

Can you leave?

ParkheadParadise · 10/08/2019 19:50

Why can't you leave?

areyoubeingserviced · 10/08/2019 19:52

Leave if you can
Why put up with the misery?

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flappi · 10/08/2019 19:52

Haven’t seen them in months ?

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flappi · 10/08/2019 19:53

Keeping the peace !

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Hidingtonothing · 10/08/2019 19:53

How long are you stuck there OP?

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flappi · 10/08/2019 19:55

Not sure should’ve left by now , but might be a while longer.

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flappi · 10/08/2019 19:55

Awaiting cue from partner . Three hour journey home yet !

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TabbyMumz · 10/08/2019 19:57

4 hours is a long time for a visit. Are you staying over? Can't you just say "right, well, time we were off..." and start gathering coats and bags?

TroubleTremble · 10/08/2019 19:58

"Well we won't intrude any longer! Time we leave you be, thanks SO MUCH for such a great visit/meal/catch up."

And edge. Toward. The. Door.

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flappi · 10/08/2019 19:59

No . They were pissed off cuz we arrived late . And they are constantly pressuring my partner to bring our daughter here . So here we are .

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Hidingtonothing · 10/08/2019 19:59

Can't be too much longer if you're going to be home at a decent time, any early plans for tomorrow you can subtly remind DH of? Hang in there, chat to us when you can and look forward to knowing you've done your bit for a little while Smile

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flappi · 10/08/2019 20:00

Yep . Need to be at dance class for 8.30 tomorrow! They aren’t bothered that we’ll be driving in this weather either !

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flappi · 10/08/2019 20:01

Do I owe these people anything .

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justasking111 · 10/08/2019 20:02

Six hour round trip in one day??

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flappi · 10/08/2019 20:03

Yes

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Hidingtonothing · 10/08/2019 20:04

So will DH not take the hint and start making your excuses if you mention dance class? If he won't you're going to have to be the bad guy and do it for him. Depends whether being (even more) out of favour is worse than the prospect of sticking it out indefinitely really!

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flappi · 10/08/2019 20:06

Partner doesn’t like staying over . Neither do I to be fair .

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TabbyMumz · 10/08/2019 20:07

Perhaps they are waiting for you to leave but dont want to upset their son?

flouncyfanny · 10/08/2019 20:08

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Butchyrestingface · 10/08/2019 20:09

And they are constantly pressuring my partner to bring our daughter here . So here we are .

Not unreasonable to want to see their grandchild, is it? How constant is the pressure?

Butchyrestingface · 10/08/2019 20:10

Are you in the loo OP or are you openly mumsnetting in front of them? Grin

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 10/08/2019 20:11

They want to see their granddaughter.

Why too much to ask ??

TixieLix · 10/08/2019 20:11

Don't wait for DH to give the cue. Men can be terrible for that and if it's his DP he may struggle. Help him out and say "don't forget DD has her dance class at 8:30 tomorrow. We should probably make a move now so we can get her home to bed".

BertrandRussell · 10/08/2019 20:12

How often do you visit? Why doesn’t your dp go with your ds and you stay home?