I’m torn, but realistically I’d stay. We do argue but not that often, and mostly it comes down to the strain of the logistics of the children, and not having much time together as a couple.
I’d hire a lady we all already absolutely adore, and sometimes have to babysit, to take the kids to and from their many many clubs. I’d have a set day of the week for her to watch them of an evening and we’d always go out and have a laugh. Every single kids half term we would go away as a family, and love it! I don’t think we’d move far from where we are or change the kids schools, but they’d be going private for secondary for sure.
I’d pay my brother’s mortgage off, get his family anything they’d love to have, send them off on a fabulous holiday. If we’re talking tens of millions then I think I would give each of my best friends a mil each and I would expect my husband would want to do the same. In fact we might have to have separate ‘helping friends and family’ funds so that it’s done and we wouldn’t argue about how much the other has spent.
We argue when we’re ground down by only talking about logistics, we do any and everything to give our children the best that we can and facilitate their hobbies. It would be nice if we could pay someone to do the karate pick ups and swimming pick ups, they drop them back home to us and we all have a lovely dinner as a family - rather than the current situation, which is that we’re always very harassed and tired and trying to work out who can do which pick up or drop off. That’s most of our arguments right there!
I’d invest in the various business ideas that we’ve always talked about, and help my friends who are involved in lots of charitable ventures. I’d help out the people I’ve worked with, maybe anonymously, who have worked tirelessly and selflessly for others their whole lives.