If you won the Euromillions, would you stay or go?

[Sundancer77]

Carrying on a Whatsapp discussion from last night with 5 old school friends..all said if they won the lottery or came into a lot of money for example, they’d leave their dp/dh.
It’s come to light to me recently that many many people I know are V unhappy in their relationships and would deep down prefer to be out of it but finances, complications in life, the thought of raising their children alone etc..makes them stay put. On the outside, everything looks great in their lives..it got me thinking ‘Is anybody really happy in their marriage?’ Is it such a rarity? If you had a windfall and were able to make your life a lot easier etc, would you be alone?
I’m also shocked at how people I assumed were happy and look like they have a great life..really don’t.

My marriage isn’t the best but I think it is mainly due to money worries.
I think I would stay as I think even though I have thought of leaving, we do love each other deep down. If the money didn’t make us happy together then we could separate both richer.

Are you one of my friends?? I’ve recently had this conversation with a group of mine and I’m one of the ones who said I’d seriously consider leaving.

I wouldn’t screw him over or anything, I just think we’d both be a lot better off apart if we didn’t have to worry about the money aspect. We both have very different ideas on how we’d spend a windfall, and on top of other growing differences, I think we’d be better off, and more likely for things to stay civil, if we split.

We are such different people, our personal priorities and dreams have changed massively and we no longer have anything except our children in common. I look forward ten years and I dread the children growing up and moving on - I don’t know what we will have holding us together then.

I would stay, happily married 23 years and I would like to tell him he doesn’t have to work anymore, as he’s always worked so hard and never complains to provide for his family. I had cancer last year and am still recovering so can’t work. He treated me like a queen and still does. I would love to spoil him to thank him for all he does for us.

Stay, no doubt about it. We argue and he can be a stubborn arse, but so can I.

He’s my best friend and I’d love to jack in work and travel with him. I’d buy a flat in London, one in Paris and one in New York and we could just go between them forever

I’d make sure he’s financially stable and pay off his debts but I’d leave in a heartbeat.

Oh my goodness, that is so sad!! It wouldn't even cross my mind to leave DH if I won the lottery. My job on the other hand...

I’d be so excited about how much we could do together as a family! Absolutely stay!

For those saying all you argue about is money... that was DH and I 10 years ago when we had no money. Were comfortable now and argue about how we spend money (he would prioritise a new car; I prioritise home improvements, activities for the kids and holidays); I would imagine more money would just increase the scale of spending and the frustration I would feel about him (IMO) 'wasting' millions on cars would be unbearable

God no. We’d quit our jobs and buy a big house in the country. And buy in help - cleaning, maybe a cook, personal trainer... maybe a nanny. We never fall out when it’s just the two of us, only when we’re stressed and tired and DS is winding us up.

Stay! But I'm not financially reliant on DH so it's not money that keeps me here. We both have the same interests and love to travel, the only thing that really causes any little bickers is the daily grind and a huge sum of money would get rid of that.

Stay for sure, my DH is fab.

Stay for sure and enjoy things together,

100% stay. Retire and do all the things we have planned. Fingers crossed we win tonight's quadruple rollover 🤞🍀😁

Stay - absolutely!

This has also made me realise that DH and I never argue about money and we're not rich, we have similar priorities and when we first got together a decade ago he was terrible with money, he acknowledged that and is much better now, even saves regularly. We'd buy a nice house, go on lots of holidays with DS , afford private education, look after our respective families and a few close friends and I think we'd both either keep working in the field we do but maybe part time or do volunteer work in a similar area/set up a charity. Definitely would have a housekeeper, cleaner and gardener

Definitely stay!

Definitely stay! We got married as we love each other and money wouldn’t change that.

It’s quite sad to hear that people would split if they won a huge amount of money, no one should ever stay in an unhappy relationship. Life is far too short.

Definitely stay. And I couldn't get our resignation letters done quick enough. We'd have so much fun!

Initially, stay, but if the release of work pressure and money worries didn't turn him back into the funloving relaxed man I first fell in love with, I could conceive that I might leave.

I'd stay while DS was little as I couldn't cope with not seeing him for days or even weeks at a time but as soon as he got older, I'd run like the wind.

Must buy a lottery ticket....

I divorced when it meant going from 'very comfortable' to 'fuck all' (for me, not him).

If I won the lottery I'd pay off both our mortgages.

Goooooo. i'd be buying a remote island with fortifications for me and the babies to live on.

Stay of course as my dh is a wonderful kind man

Stay. I'm under no illusions that anyone else would be prepared to put up with me.

Split the money 50-50 and split up amicably.

We argue way too much, we have different dreams and goals, and I know my partner resents me for us only having one child (my decision).

We get on to a point, but if I could buy a flat walking distance from our house then I would leave..everyone would be happier.

Lack of Money prevents people leaving poor relationships. It seems to me physical abuse and infidelity mean people tend to leave wiyh nothing, but for loads more just being in a crap, negative , sexless relationship seems manageable somehow!