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If you won the Euromillions, would you stay or go?

177 replies

Sundancer77 · 10/08/2019 11:11

Carrying on a Whatsapp discussion from last night with 5 old school friends..all said if they won the lottery or came into a lot of money for example, they’d leave their dp/dh.
It’s come to light to me recently that many many people I know are V unhappy in their relationships and would deep down prefer to be out of it but finances, complications in life, the thought of raising their children alone etc..makes them stay put. On the outside, everything looks great in their lives..it got me thinking ‘Is anybody really happy in their marriage?’ Is it such a rarity? If you had a windfall and were able to make your life a lot easier etc, would you be alone?
I’m also shocked at how people I assumed were happy and look like they have a great life..really don’t.

OP posts:
cranstonmanor · 10/08/2019 13:35

Stay. I was pretty happy when single in my thirties anyway, I wouldn't stay with DH for financial reasons and I'm not afraid of being alone. I don't know why so many people are married when they don't want to be, it's not a good role model for the children, neither is being scared. It just sounds so childish to be afraid of being alone.

iamadramallama · 10/08/2019 13:38

Stay. 100% . The money would enable us to retire immediately and spend more time together, help out our friends and family who struggle financially, adopt lots more dogs and have a personal chef Smile

elQuintoConyo · 10/08/2019 13:39

Stay. He'd help me run my donkey sanctuary.

fortheloveofPete · 10/08/2019 13:41

Stay.

But we don't live together so we already have the best of both worlds.

rednsparkley · 10/08/2019 14:03

I would stay with my DH but we would leave the UK asap

InTheHeatofLisbon · 10/08/2019 14:06

Stay.

HerRoyalNotness · 10/08/2019 14:11

I thought this would be a brexit thread Grin

I’d like to leave, and hope that I would. Who knows, when I mention to him we should split, i get oh but I love you and want to spend my life with you. Doesn’t bloody show it though, words are cheap.

pinkstripeycat · 10/08/2019 14:13

Undecided until it happens but I raise my DCs alone anyway. DH pretty much lives the life of a single man unless we’re having fun and he decides he’ll join in

RushianDisney · 10/08/2019 14:25

Leave, as soon as the money was in my bank account. I left 'D'P for a few months but had to come back as it was financially totally untenable to split up. He made my life hell harassing me while we were apart. If I had money I could get lawyers involved to get him to leave me alone and obviously wouldn't have to worry about housing. I'd buy him a house nearby to facilitate contact with DD, but keep it in my name so he couldn't mess it all up. I absolutely hate being with him and it will take at least 5 years for me to be able to earn enough to leave, I dream of coming into enough money to leave every single day.

Picklypickles · 10/08/2019 14:34

I'd probably stay. He's a wanker but he's my wanker! I think a lot of the problems we have could be quite easily solved with a huge amount of money, bigger house where we can have our own space and not be under each others feet all the time and I'd be able to afford going off and doing my own thing whenever I fancied without any guilt.

Parttimewasteoftime · 10/08/2019 14:41

Stay grass isn't always greener he's a good man. Money is are main struggle as a couple so maybe money and the extra space it would afford us could push us apart.
But stay

OctoberLovers · 10/08/2019 14:51

I would stay, and surely the money would be "ours" , not "mine"

We would both follow our dreams, although different, we wouldnt have to move countries or anything like that

123tweet · 10/08/2019 14:57

I'd stay. I'm lucky to have DH (and likewise!). We'd enjoy it together :-)

Ellabella989 · 10/08/2019 15:00

Stay. Love my DP to bits and we have a very happy relationship.
My sister and my mum have both said they would want to become single if they won lots of money though. They are both in miserable relationships and feel trapped

herculepoirot2 · 10/08/2019 15:03

Stay.

Constance1234 · 10/08/2019 15:03

Stay! There’s no one else I could imagine sharing my life with Euromillions or not! That’s very sad you know so many people that have unhappy marriages.

IAintWroteNoPoetry · 10/08/2019 15:04

Stay! 100%

herculepoirot2 · 10/08/2019 15:04

Can you imagine all the skanky little fortune hunting men who would come crowding round my chubby frame if I had £100m? Urgh. My DH loves me poor, I’ll love him rich.

Tigger001 · 10/08/2019 15:05

Absolutely stay. He is brilliant and makes me incredibly happy. I wouldn't want my life without him.

If I wanted to leave, i would. I wouldn't live a lie and only leave if I came into a few quid.

KennDodd · 10/08/2019 15:05

I thought you were talking about the country.

I would definitely stay. 23 years married, it would be our money, not just mine.

ChesterDrawsDoesntExist · 10/08/2019 15:10

OMG I would definitely stay. Just thinking of all the stuff we could do together if we could actually afford it. What a lovely dream.

Cockadoodledooo · 10/08/2019 15:12

Stay. For richer, for poorer and all that, and Gawd knows we've had enough of the poorer bit Grin Fwiw I'm pretty sure we'd both stay in our jobs as well, though possibly on a more part time basis.

Lexilooo · 10/08/2019 15:28

How very sad that so many would leave if they could afford to. Just shows how important maintaining some financial independence is.

I would stay, the money would remove some pressures and improve our lives. I would invest some money in employing someone in his business and buying some premises which we just can't afford right now but which would enable him to enjoy his work so much more.

We could also use the money to travel more and enjoy our hobbies which would hopefully make us happier.

coffeeagogo · 10/08/2019 15:44

I thought this was going to be a Brexit thread and I was yep definitely going to move somewhere else (the alps...) BlushGrin but I would definitely be going with DH - he's my best friend and I couldn't imagine being without him - being rich would be the icing on the cake

crisscrosscranky · 10/08/2019 16:40

Split it 50:50 and leave in good terms. A big win would split us up anyway as our dreams are totally different.