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If you won the Euromillions, would you stay or go?

177 replies

Sundancer77 · 10/08/2019 11:11

Carrying on a Whatsapp discussion from last night with 5 old school friends..all said if they won the lottery or came into a lot of money for example, they’d leave their dp/dh.
It’s come to light to me recently that many many people I know are V unhappy in their relationships and would deep down prefer to be out of it but finances, complications in life, the thought of raising their children alone etc..makes them stay put. On the outside, everything looks great in their lives..it got me thinking ‘Is anybody really happy in their marriage?’ Is it such a rarity? If you had a windfall and were able to make your life a lot easier etc, would you be alone?
I’m also shocked at how people I assumed were happy and look like they have a great life..really don’t.

OP posts:
TheNavigator · 10/08/2019 22:02

I wouldn't want the money if it meant splitting up with DH, he is worth more than diamonds and gold to me. Enjoy the money with DH or send it back, been together over thirty years and our love is worth more than the Euro millions.

BritWifeinUSA · 10/08/2019 22:04

Stay with him whether we won millions or lost millions. He’s my whole world.

IAmALionTamer · 10/08/2019 22:04

Without question I would stay. We have our plans made for our big win already Grin

ScruffGin · 11/08/2019 09:03

I would stay, but I'm not financially reliant on DP, so if I was unhappy I would leave anyway. Would love to win, DP could give up work and do all the DIY he wanted!

Lebou · 11/08/2019 09:05

Oh god that is so sad. I would 100% stay, I love my DP more than any amount of money

Mollieben1 · 11/08/2019 09:11

Definetley stay ❤️ in fact I think we would stay in our house as I love it so much. Probably would have to take part in the euromillions before I could win it tho...😂

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 11/08/2019 09:14

I'm a widow. I would happily return any amount of money to have my lovely man back again. The very thought makes me teary.

InTheHeatofLisbon · 11/08/2019 09:15

Prawnofthepatriarchy Flowers

beccarocksbaby · 11/08/2019 09:23

Stay with protections over my money.

HazelBite · 11/08/2019 09:29

After 42 years I would be bereft without him.
The money would allow DH to retire (he is in his 60's and still working as a builder) and we could travel and visit all the places we couldn't afford to go to while we were raising DC's

Benjispruce · 11/08/2019 09:30

Oh stay. He’s the jackpot I’ve already won. Sorry! But true.

thisusernameismine · 11/08/2019 09:51

We did come into some money 2.5 years ago (my inheritance) and spent most of it on our home and then decided to have a baby (who is nearly 1). So a couple of years ago it would be stay, for sure, and share, but now I think probably leave. He's not really changed or anything, I just feel like I've fallen out of love a bit. People say this is what the first year or two of having a baby is like so I'm hoping that's true (...?). I am now financially dependent on him although still have some money put aside in savings (he would be entitled to half of it as we are married) but I'm not happy in my job and now I have a baby its way more difficult to change that.

Sunshine196 · 11/08/2019 09:54

Stay. We’d both give up our jobs, get the type of house he’s always dreamed off & go off travelling with the kids. It would be amazing

Littlemissdaredevil · 11/08/2019 09:57

I would stay initially. However, DH is lazy by nature. It he gave up work and then spent 12 hours a day playing computer and ignoring me and his family then he would have to go.

MerryDeath · 11/08/2019 16:28

where did you all find these men/what is your secret? I'm an intelligent person... why is my judgement so bad .

Wishihad · 11/08/2019 19:51

where did you all find these men/what is your secret? I'm an intelligent person... why is my judgement so bad .

What do you mean your judgement is bad? Flowers for you though.

FWIW I found dp in my best friends kitchen. He is a relative and was visiting. I went running in because it was raining, had heels on. Fell through the door and he caught me, started laughing and I had 'oh my' moment. There was nothing I did or anything that meant my judgement was better than anyones elses. Please dont blame yourself for a man being a shit.

I was married to a right cunt for 16 years before that.

HollowTalk · 11/08/2019 20:03

@Zaphodsotherhead I remember reading about your old-before-his-time OH a few times before. I'm really sorry you lost someone, but am so glad their inheritance is enabling you to leave this man.

Benjispruce · 12/08/2019 10:17

I met mine at work aged 20. Didn’t know him , just fancied him. Saw him on a night out , got talking and the rest is history. Married 23 yrs, together 27. Smile

Dungeondragon15 · 12/08/2019 10:22

I'm not amazed by this at all. You only have to look at the fact that "hollywood marriages" rarely last to see that if money is taken out of the equation people are less likely to put up with not so good marriages. One minute they are glowing about their relationships and the next minute they have split up. That's probably true of many of those who say that they would stay together on here.

Wishihad · 12/08/2019 10:31

@Dungeondragon15 but there a difference between having a happy marriage, winning the lottery and the money causing a split a few years down the line.

And knowing if you had the money, you would split straight away.

DinosApple · 12/08/2019 10:31

Stay.
I thought this was a question about if you'd stay at your place of work after a lottery win, then I read the OP 😂.

DH and I have been through such a lot, and although he annoys the hell out of me sometimes (we worked together for years) there's no one else I could have done that with without burying them under the patio Grin.

Fizzpopwhizzbang · 12/08/2019 10:36

Wow, that's extremely depressing. I really hope that your friends manage to find happiness.

I would of course stay, my DH is ace. I would absolutely relish the moment where I told him that we'd become millionaires! I'd make a right meal of it and do a surprise reveal - maybe I'd book us an insanely expensive holiday somewhere leaving the next day, and then tell him that I'd blown all of our savings or maxed out the credit card or something, wait for his face to drop and tell him to log into our online account and have a look at the balance.

Ugh, thanks OP - now I have to get back to my real life where I don't have any money lol.

GlamGiraffe · 12/08/2019 10:41

Stay. And buy us a little holiday home in Ibiza or the south of France.

timeforakinderworld · 12/08/2019 10:43

Stay. He annoys the hell out of me sometimes but I want us to grow old together.

EmeraldShamrock · 12/08/2019 10:45

Littlemissdaredevil

I would stay initially. However, DH is lazy by nature. It he gave up work and then spent 12 hours a day playing computer and ignoring me and his family then he would have to go
The more I gave thought to it, I might agree.
My DP is lazy by nature, the win could make the difference obvious and potentially split us up.