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AIBU?

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to not want other peoples children in my house?

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Cantmakeupmymind1 · 07/08/2019 10:50

I have a baby and two preschoolers - life is full on, hectic etc. I do something every day with my children so we get out of the house for at least a few hours usually more, we have lots of active, fun, inexpensive days out. I'm just about staying on top of everything, home is tidy and clean 'enough' most of the time but I do struggle to stay on top of tidying up and cleaning with children who are up at 5am and go to bed late.

Here's my AIBU - my friend keeps asking for her 3 and 6 year old to come over and play. I don't want them to. It's often dropped on me last minute. They rarely go out and do anything. I really have my hands full with my own children, I don't need another two to look after. It's awkward because if I bump in to her, her 6 year old will ask if they can come back and play and rather than say no she tells her to ask me! So I then have to say no, which is followed by lots of 'oh please oh please' from her 6 year old and again she will tell her to ask me!! Am I the only mum who doesn't want other peoples children in her house? I'm happy to meet them in the park or somewhere so mum stays too but I don't want them 'dropped off' to my home to play so I have to look after them and then clean up the mess they've made in my house.

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GreatWallOfVagina · 08/08/2019 21:29

I seriously am failing to understand how as an adult you are not able to nip this in the bud? It's clearly not something you want to do so why are you tolerating it? You can certainly put your foot down and also tell the child nicely that it's rude to ask and no, not today. If you keep failing to do so, you can't complain about her being a cheeky fucker as you let her get away with it.

Put boundaries in place and respect yourself and your home more to say no to those that take advantage.

BurnedToast · 08/08/2019 21:39

Stop being a doormat. Showing your children how to deal with these people is a life skill, so think of it as an opportunity for just that.

Just say no, it's too much hassle and mess seeing as I've already got 3 under the age of 4. I'm sure you understand. Repeat.

It'll be good practice for all the CF you'll meet at primary school.

WineGummyBear · 08/08/2019 21:45

Wow she's off the scale cheeky!

The only way to deal with this is to be friendly and firm.

'no, not today'. On repeat. and not get drawn into anything further.

I can't believe people this cheeky exist!

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