Dh said he can tell ds (15months) not to breastfeed.

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It’s a bit more complicated than that. Ds is a toddler and when he asks to feed sometimes I say ‘no, later’ if it’s not convient at the time such as if I’m getting ready for work.

Dh chimed in with me this morning saying no to ds when he pointed and pulled at my top.

Completely lightheartedly I said ‘oi you don’t get to say that!’ and he took massive offence saying he’s the parent too and that if he doesn’t want ds to feed at the time he has a right to stop him.

AIBU to think it should always be me that allows or doesn’t allow a feed?

I still stand by my earlier point that I think we were snipeing at each other this morning and the whole conversation we had was blown into something unessassery and that he just said something negative as he felt stung.

Good for you OP. Some people just like fueling drama - ‘controlling’ indeed. They wouldn’t recognise a healthy relationship if it jumped up and bit them.

My DH discouraged me from stopping breastfeeding a few times. I was getting burnt out, but Our dd has some medical issues that meant getting breast milk for an extended period was especially valuable. I listened to his opinion and came up with a solution that worked for me and dd because ultimately this is a relationship between mother and child.

If he had told me I must nurse or must not nurse in general or at any specific moment, the ensuing argument would have been epic.

but less happy with dh saying he has a right to tell ds he can’t feed when I happy for him to feed

Just ask him now everything has calmed down 🤷🏻‍♀️